So i met this great guy and we started a relationship.
the first 2 weeks was great!!! he called me every single day sometimes once or twice per day.
after that it decreased bit by bit and he now only calls me once a week???
girls: am i the only one, or has this ever happened to you?? and is this normal??
guys: is this usually what you do?? is this how you behave??
or is it just me??
2006-11-27 23:53:49 · 36 answers · asked by melissa renston 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It has happened to me but not in 2 weeks, it was more like a few months. Guys are like that because when they feel that they have you, they don't feel the need to "woo" you anymore.
2006-11-27 23:56:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF you just met the guy and immediately started a relationship, i sure dont know how you could of expected anything different. simple answer is this....come up off the dude. have some elbow room of your own. dont let the dude get you all wired up over him because chances are, once he knows that you are, hes gonna get bored and lose interest! the attention span of a young man is relative to his "member". when you say every thing there is to say in the first week or two, what can you possibly expect. when you see that as time goes by, that is all that is happening and you have to admit to yourself that if you are spending all your days and time thinking about him or talking on the phone, well, that pretty much means that you arent out there doin stuff that you will have for later to talk about. guys love challenges. girls love challenges. what do you do when there is no challenge? most people move on to the next one. spend some time finding new things that are interesting and new. they will want every minute of your day, only give them a few! it is a normal part of growth and self identification. it is what separates you from being just another girl wanting a guy to spend all his time paying attention to her. BORING give him something to want to learn about you.
2006-11-28 00:11:52 · answer #2 · answered by kimpossibly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, think of it this way, twice a day is a lot of time out of his day too, and you need to realize he's got a life beyond you, and if you start taking away from what he does, you're taking away from who he is. Nobody wants to become a single facet, and having him call twice daily is bad for his own social life. Of course, there's no reason he couldn't call more then once a week, but that's up to you to discuss with him.
Me, I don't call at all, because I try to have relationships where I can see the person pretty frequently.
2006-11-27 23:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by Brian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No your not the only one that has happened to, it is always like that in the beginning. Constantly talking on the phone, always wanting to be together, its because you want to know everything about one another and eventually it decreases to a more mellow level. You got the intensity done with now you just have to go with the flow. And if he only calls you once a week why dont you take the inititive and call him!!!!!
2006-11-27 23:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by Kat A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy and i only call a girl once a day... and that's only to tell her good night.......
I believe that most guy DO behave like that.. but i don't really know why......
All my friends (guys) did the same thing that you are asking... first they call you like a million times then they get tired and only call you once a week sometimes once a month.....
2006-11-28 00:01:08 · answer #5 · answered by arielmuv 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's happened to all of us, but what are the details? Did something happen? Weird to go from calling twice a day to once a week. Maybe take it as a hint, save yourself the emotional anguish.
2006-11-27 23:57:07 · answer #6 · answered by Appolnia_76 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, most of us are like that Melissa. But not all of us. You just ran into a jerk and that's all. Don't be dissappointed. You sound like a great gal and you would meet someone much better, because if you are a nice person, you will meet that special someone someday...I'm speaking from personal experience...girls can also behave like that, u know! If he's treating you like this, dump his a*s and move on...
2006-11-28 00:00:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There could be a number of variables...first, are you a good kisser? A bad kiss can ruin everything (4 me anyway) its a real bummer when your attracted to a girl and she ends up being a bad kisser....then you cant tell somebody that.....and then again it may be an issue of his. Keep looking you've got being a female on your side....you hold all the cards.
2006-11-28 00:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by davo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah it's happened. maybe he's just been busier lately. i dated a guy that called me all the time then he went down to 1 a month it's no big deal. you gotta remember that they have a life. and might just not have anything to talk about. why don't you call him? all my guy friends do this and it's not usually cause they're just not interested anymore it's more that they didn't have the time. don't freak out it's normal!
Good Luck,
Shorti241!!
2006-11-28 00:06:09 · answer #9 · answered by shorti241 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, that's usually what happens, the guy calls you a lot at the beginning of the relationship, is to get to know you and the relationship is still new, he's excited, as the time goes by, it goes less and less because there aren't much to talk about, it's up to you both to keep the flame alive by doing something special, and work on the relationship.
2006-11-27 23:57:08 · answer #10 · answered by superboredom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋