i am married for 12 yrs . i have 2 kids. my husband is more committed to his mother and siblings, and most of his earning goes to them. ihave sufffered a lot as i did not have financial security. and now i see my children in the same condition.he has not saved anything for them.i have tried all means to make him realize this but all in vain. we finally end up quarrelling and his mother comes up to us' come son i am sorry i ruined your life.' and he walks down with her. all this is so painful i cant explain.i once left his house also , but no use ,as i have no where to go. i cant see my children killing their desires for small thingsand my in laws wasting his money mercilessly.he is just not ready to realize the fact that they are exploiting him. so please can anyone tell me that is their any rule which says that my childen and i can force my husband for our monthly expenses and pocketmoney.what percentage of his earning can i get?
2006-11-27 23:40:40 · 12 answers · asked by annu 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Its really a very unfortunately situation for you & kids. Under the Indian law you can as for maintenance from husband in the following manners:- 1. you can ask maintenance under section 125 of the criminal procedure code for yourself and kids upto the age of 18years. In this provision you can get Rs.500/-pm for your self & Rs.500/-pm each for you kids. unfortunatelly the maximum of Rs.500/-pm each is allowed in this provision. 2. you can fill judicial seperation petition under the Hindu Marriage Act,1955 and apply for maitenance pendente lite u/s 24 of the Act where the courts have powers to grant you maitenance keeping in mind the income of your husband and your & your kids monthly requirments that will definatelly be more then mere Rs.500/- per month each which you get in the previous provision I told you.This amount you will get till the pendency of your original petition. 3. you can also ask for permanent alimony and maitenance at the time of passing of any decree in the said Act, that will be fixed keeping in mind your husbands status and your requirments for a period you do not marry again. 4. Under the Hindu Adoption & Maitenance Act,1956 you & your kids can get maitenance keeping in mind your husbands income & status and your minimum requirments as the courts find necessary it also allows you right to live seperately from your husband on the ground of cruelty etc..
2006-11-28 18:49:38 · answer #1 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure there is a law that says you can make your husband pay the bills.
A good divorice lawyer might be a better way to make him pay.
The first thing I will tell you to do it get a job and start saving money. I know when you start working you are going to want to spend it all on the bills and the kids but you need to make sure you have a little in saving. Even it is only 100$. Can you get a credit card by yourself.? If you can then do that.
DO NOT start paying you bill with a credit card, I am saying you need one to help you and you alone to start to get credit on your own. DO NOT LET YOU HUSBEND use it. Dont want to tell you to lie to him but you know how things are.
Document everything that goes on, things with him not paying the bills and if you can what he does spend his money on and what his mother is doing and how she is interfearing.
I do not think you can make him see that his parents are using him .
If I were use I would let the lights and gas get turned off and see how he sees that. Buy food just for the kids (and you of course) and have him see the lack of money you have to feed him.
Maybe those things will make him see how he as the only bread winner in the house is not doing what he needs to do.
Good Luck
2006-11-28 07:53:23 · answer #2 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right of 75% percentage of his earning to be sent for the family. If he is not doing so he is brainwashed by his mother and siblings as you said. If the problem is his lack of awareness of needs of you and your children then let him know about that in detail. But even if he know that he continue this way life then I suggest it is better to start earning by your self. Education is not a problem for a job. You can find good job that you can do from home. If your husband is not concerning you to start working then it is better to leave him ( Sorry to say so ) for the sake of your Children.
All the best...
2006-11-28 09:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by benoybose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is a law for this. You and your children's needs should come first. If you live separately, ask the help of a lawyer. If the judge orders your husband to give you alimony then he has no option but to do so or he will be charged with contempt of court and go to jail.
If you still live with him, give him the list of the needs of your children and let him be the one to buy and provide them. That way he will come to know about them. talk to him and express your concerns. Who knows? He might realise why you are feeling that way.
2006-11-28 07:56:48 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, depending on what state you live in, after 12 years, that's not "his house", that your's and his house.
You have the power to file for divorce, have him put out of the house so that you and your children can live there without him, collect child support from the courts and also alimony.
I'd say that after all that, there won't be any money for the in-laws!
Wise up, get strong and get rid of him and his family!!!!! Instead of fighting his family; FIGHT FOR YOUR CHILDREN!!!!!!
2006-11-28 09:57:43 · answer #5 · answered by Charlotte C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait for an opportunity and hit him with words where he never turns up to his parents .wait for time. u go in reverse direction.until he realizes. why u think that there is no other way to go.there are so many ways to get a bread . if u r intelleigent , think how to earn start earn defintly oneday he catch ur legs and say sorry. he realizes what he missed.but onething have patience.
2006-11-28 07:59:22 · answer #6 · answered by kalasarpa009 k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no "rule". He works, he can do as he pleases with his money. I assume you are from India, your husband does this to look big in his mother's eyes. If I were you I would dress in rags, prepare cheap meals for him in front of his mother. Make no complaints, just look humble. I would not wash his clothes only hang them dirty for him to wear. Scuff his shoes. Make tears in his clothes where only others will see. Make him look bad. All of my efforts would go to my children. He is no husband to you, you do not need to be a wife to him.
2006-11-28 07:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This man is not worth being dependant upon. Set your own rules, get a job and earn your own money.
2006-11-28 09:51:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You put up with that for twelve years? Get a good attorney, a divorce,the house,child support,alimony,the car, and a new life.
2006-11-28 13:45:43 · answer #9 · answered by cybefree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
according to me u must do some job batter then ur Hbnd and show him that u r not lesser the him. Dont think for ur Hbnd think for urself and ur children.
2006-11-28 12:00:53 · answer #10 · answered by praveen n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋