Why am I like this?

Question

I feel like I fail at everything that I do, and I fail alot believe me. I have trouble remembering things and I try so hard to do things right, I just can't do it. And when I fail, I feel so bad that I almost cry. I am distracted alot too. I would like a girlfriend too, but I dont know what to say, I am too shy for my own good I think. I have a temper too, sometimes I just want to explode. I like to be alone alot, so no one bothers me. Anyone know what my deal is and how to fix it? Some sort of depression?

Answer 1

yikes. U sound exactly like me.
I know how hard it is when u try ur best, and u actually think ur right, but then later u find out ur wrong or u failed at it. Disapointment will always be there, but u must give only a limited time. Dont let the disappointment take all ur time, then u would be sulking at it all the time, thus adding more to ur failure problem. Dont be hard on urself, accept that u make more mistakes or that u fail. U will be a better man that way. And just keep trying ur best. U will suceed.
As far as remembering goes, well u cant really change that. I have tried alot. If u really forget imp things, then keep a note on ur mobile or a notepad so u dont forget future imp things. If u fail in remembering the past like i do also, then maybe keep a dairy of imp things that happen in ur life. U can reflect back on it anytime.
About ur gf problem, dont push yourself to get one. Looks isnt everything, its about how u are. Be decent and sincere. U are too shy becuase u are trying to get a girlfriend. Just keep it in ur head, that u can make normal firends.I mean there is no harm is just saying a 'hi', or asking something else. Thats how u can start of a friendship. And then, u can become more than friends with time. But never push it. Be simple in what u do and straight foward.
And try to control ur temper. When u do get a gf, ur temper must not come in the way. It has caused alot of trouble in my relation. try ur best to be concious of when u might be getting angry, and avoid it then, try to do something else to calm u down. Be more self aware of it. This has helped me alot.
I know u would like to be alone. But give it time. Try to be friendly with people and try to take part in extra activites, or normal ones if u dont.
Hope this helped. relax ok, u are a normal person. Just try to control ur emotions and try to look foward to things. cheers!

Answer 2

Doesn't sound like depression to me, if you were depressed you would be most likely too depressed to even try but you do try even if you fail. Failing is part of life, if you have trouble remembering things write them down! Not everyone has great retention. One trick I use for remembering things, for example if I go to the grocery store and I need Milk, eggs, butter, mayo and cheese instead of trying to remember the list in my head I say ok I am doing groceries and there 5 things I need and once I get to the store I can easily remember what those 5 things were....As for women, if you want one bad enough you will have to put a foot forward and go for it, there's a site called askmen.com which has good advice.

If your employed and covered, I would speak to someone about your problems, you would be surprised how many solutions can be found just by talking with someone.

Good Luck

Answer 3

First, see a dr. to rule out any medical problems. Listen to the dialog running through your head, when you hear a false statement, stop and replace it with a true one. You are not bad at_'everything' you do. Forgive yourself as you would another. Try to reach the calm which is at the center of us all. You can control how you feel by controlling your thoughts. It takes practice. Just b4 you fall asleep... picture how you want your life to be..go into details. Do this every night and b4 long, you will see it in your life. It's called Positive Imagery...try it- what have you got to lose? Beats dwelling on what you think of as failures. Edison said , when asked about results of his experiments, He didn't have failures but he could tell you10,000 things that don't work! Hang in there- be yourself. And be kind to you..All you desire will come in time if you believe....WHAT WE BELIEVE IS TRUE Know your shortcomings and make adjustments....like notes to help memory...I've done this for years!

Answer 4

A doctor is really the one to answer this for you.

Could it be an anxiety disorder rather than depression, or maybe some other mood disorder? That being said, behaviour modification is a long process but well worth the effort if you, honest to yourself, want to improve. A doctor will decide if medication is needed.

There could be any number of attention disorders at work.

Try setting smaller tasks for your goals, try setting a timer, and focusing for that short length of time and increasing the time as you succeed. Example..start with household tasks and five minutes, increasing the time to ten minutes, and two chores. Then increase it further. This is a long process, but the sense of accomplishment will be good for your esteem as well, which may in turn improve your anger issue.

And don't be so hard on yourself. Others can be hard on us enough, we don't need to be hard on ourselves too. And listen to the little voice in your head. What are those little phrases you use on yourself all the time. Break that old record repeating it's nasty mantra in your head. It's time for a recording of success.

Answer 5

God loves you, and He is your answer for life problems.

In the Beginning God created heavens and earth.
God gives you air to breathe and sunshine to enjoy.
God gives you water to drink and food to eat.
God gives you a wonderful body and sound mind, to live.
God loves you, and you are precious to Him.
Son of God died on the Cross to save us from condemnation.
Jesus’ love is boundless and everlasting.
We have the hope of Heaven through Jesus.
Life therefore has fantastic and glorious future!
(Digestion of above can even prevent depression and suicidal thoughts.)

Answer 6

Matt, have you been to Dr recently? It may be as simple as a chemical in-balance. Maybe you would benefit from a anti depressant. They can make a world of difference. This may very well be depression.

Answer 7

You're okay. You just need to tell yourself that. Tell yourself, "I am okay. I do some of the things right some times"

Make a journal for all the things (even the smallest ones) that you did right in a day. Read it in your spare time.

Answer 8

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http://sensitive-psychoworld.blogspot.com/

Answer 9

you are a good person because you see your problem and want to change it , but don't be so hard on your self, we have inherited
lots of things form parents,grandparents and great grands,get in touch with yourself find out who you are and what you really want ,stand for something so you won't fall for just anything,maybe you are failing trying to please others ,God has a plan for all of us, we have different reasons for being here .Our level of growth is different ,ask god to lead you and order your steps (lead you in greener pastures.The answer is in the book
the bible(basic instructions before life ends) May God be with you

Answer 10

Matt, it is not fun to feel like this, that you are worthless and can't do anything...I hope that you will concentrate on finding the things out that you DO do good,..and let your talents shine...someone is going to love you just the way you are..you are ernest, a pleaser, and I think that it is just a stage you are going thru...I also think, that you should find people that have the same interests as you do and make some friends ....God Loves you, and Jesus...pray for strength and guidance, and you will have all you want