What should I do about my thieving brother?

Question

I really don't know what to do since i've been living with my step dad for 3 years my stuff keeps on going missing one day it will be my jeans another my sim card even my ash tray which is in my room i'm sick to death of it when i get home from work I can't even put my bag down for 2 minutes as i'm too scared it will get stolen. I have even had a lock fitted onto my door which i've had for 2 weeks and already he's found a way of getting into my room by picking the lock with a dart. I know he's pathetic but I want to be able to leave my stuff lying around and know it won't get touched. When I confront him he just ignores me what should I do i'm really at the end of my tether

Answer 1

Send him to Iraq, they'll chop his thieving hands off!

Answer 2

I had the same problem with my two teenage kids, not stealing as such but just taking things that didn't concern them, and then my son for a little while actually was taking money from me without asking. The first thing I did was confront him in a non-judgemental way, you know like "Do you realise that your taking my stuff and it makes me feel like..........". then I phoned up all my friends and told them in front of him that maybe when they came around it would be best if they did not leave their bags unattended, because my son was actually going through a phase, where he wasn't sure if he should be trusted. Trust me he really had to take notice of what I was saying then, suffice to say he turned it around and never did it again, to my knowledge.

Answer 3

try telling your step dad about it, is there no other relative or friend you could share a flat with, if he steals something can you not get the police involved or have some big bloke threaten him i would....he seems to be thieving because he knows he can get away with it and not be punished for it he sees you as an easy target, personally if your step dad wont do anything i would leave as soon as i could and never let him in my home or even tell him where it was in case he broke in while you were out

Answer 4

let him no that he either wise up to himself or call the police. at the end of the day if this wasn't your brother would you report him. of course. your brother can not get away with things because there is a connection beetween you its not fair, one day he could steal from the wrong place or person and come of much worse than you being incomfortable

Answer 5

why don't you have it out with him in front of the family (only if you have proof its him) this may be-little him and make him think twice in taking any thing else if this does not work threaten to go to police i dint know how old you are but if this fails try moving.after all you should be-able to leave things about with out worrying hope this helps i feel so sorry for you

Answer 6

I agree with a few of the other that you should really slap the sh** out of the bast***! Tell him that you know he's doing it and for every item you find missing, it's gonna be a beatdown for him. Then tell all of his friends that he's gay. Of course why stop there, tell hiim that for every other item you find missing it's gonna be a humiliating story about some sick and disgusting things that he does.

Answer 7

i beleive u have got to show ure brother some tough love tell him if he doesnt stop u will involve the police it might be that his friends are the culprits or he is being bullied into doing it either way if u show that u mean to involve the police u might get some answers and it might surprise u it did for me

Answer 8

How old is he? Tell your step father that unless he sorts his son out, you are going to inform the police. Theft is theft! He's obviously getting away with it and needs a short, sharp shock to make him realise that crime does not pay.

Answer 9

i think that he doesn't know what it feels like to have things stolen from him. and how it makes a person feel. maybe if something was taken from him and he gets mad about it, he will know how you feel about things being stolen from you. the other remedy is that if someone gets caught and punished often enough he might find out that it is not worth stealing...........it's worth a try, good luck

Answer 10

Tell him if anything else goes missing, you'll hurt him. Then do it. Hurt him physically as hard as you can and keep doing it every time something goes missing. He'll soon get the picture.