My greek in laws are ever interferring. They didnt even show up for their only child's ( my hubby) wedding.
Besides they go to their church only on good fridays and I go to my catholic church . at least every sunday. I have tried to get along with them ever since I married their son but I feel so disrespected for them (in laws) to just assume the baby will be baptized as Greek Orthodox- I honestly wont have any problem with it if they were practicing their faith but I only see them go once a year n stand outside the church? waiting to light their candle n go home-is this what my son will do too ? Whereas I grew up raised and schooled as a Catholic although I knew my church has a lot of flaws.
Should I let them also decide to baptize the baby in the greek faith just becoz I'm scared he might have a heart attack and die ? My only fear is I might regret this if something actually happens to him- he is 74 y. o. & has hypertension but is otherwise ok. I need to hear from others
2006-11-27 22:37:43 · 11 answers · asked by Rachel M 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
what did you and your husband discuss before you were married? If you agreed at that point to have the children baptized in the Greek Orthodox Church, then I guess you should do what you said. But otherwise, this really has nothing to do with your inlaws, it is between you and your husband. I am Catholic too, and Greek orthodox is pretty darn close to Catholicism, and, if it makes you feel better, the baby can be baptized in their Church and still raised Catholic. A baptism really initiates the child as a Christian,and their is no "re-baptism" anyway. But really, if you plan to raise the child Catholic, then it just makes since to baptize in your own parish church. This inlaw thing will only get worse if you cave on this point, stand up for what you believe now and set a precident. good luck!
2006-11-27 22:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by askmee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as a compromise, you could your baby dedicated. I was reluctant to have a baptism, simply because its a man made thing, not anything to do with God!! I mean how can a baby possibly be cleansed from sin or anything remotely similar? Being baptized should be a choice, and thats just my personal opinion, I am an anglican, and I think people use the fact that they were baptized to say they are christian, which doesn't quite work....just a thought.
If you had the baby dedicated to the Lord, that way you still leave him/her with choices later on in life. :D
2006-11-27 22:45:52 · answer #2 · answered by Resolution 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the parent you are responsible for the child before the inlaws. It is nice to have an extended family. It sounds like the inlaws and yourself are trying to look to the childs best interests. If this is the case raise the child in the fear and adminition of the Lord. As far as being baptized goes a person must first believe, once you believe then being baptized is an outward expression of a belief. Without the belief being baptized means nothing.
+ And Philip said, If thou believest with all thine heart, thou mayest. And he answered and said, I believe that Jesus Christ is the Son of God. And he commanded the chariot to stand still: and they went down both into the water, both Philip and the eunuch; and he baptized him. AKJV HOLY BIBLE Acts 8:37-38
++ And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, and thy house. And they spake unto him the word of the Lord, and to all that were in his house. And he took them the same hour of the night, and washed their stripes; and was baptized, he and all his, straightway. AKJV HOLY BIBLE Acts 16:31-33
2006-11-27 23:08:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All family political matters aside, the Catholic Church is the true "mother church" ... not the orthodox.
Living in the U.S. the extensive faith resources of the Catholic Church are much superior to the orthodox churches as well.
If the in-laws decide to plead, threaten, or cojole, remember three key phrases:
"I appreciate your point of view."
"I know."
"I'm sure you'll love your (grandson/granddaughter) just as much, no matter where he/she gets baptized."
Stick with the original, true Church (the one with the Pope) and you can't go wrong.
God Bless!
2006-11-27 23:50:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let anyone else decide on this matter. You are the parent, so you have the right to decide on this. Don't let him intervene because you might regret it later. You will raise your child, so it's only right for you to nurture in him Catholic faith for this is what you grew up believing.
2006-11-27 22:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by swt_kimchi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A baby has no reason to be baptised
We are baptised for the remission of sins
A baby has not sinned
We are not held accountable until we reach the age of accountability, which is different for everyone. That is the age when you come to know right from wrong........morally
2006-11-27 22:42:25 · answer #6 · answered by kenny p 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is ultimately you and your husband's decision on the way you want to baptize and raise your children, and your in-laws have to accept it.
2006-11-27 23:04:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its YOUR baby dude.... your Decision.... who cares what your in laws think... they didnt go through all the pain of having that kid
2006-11-27 22:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by Jesus Built My Hotrod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess would be Your baby your rules!! Possession is still nine tenths of the law...Isn't it?
2006-11-27 22:42:23 · answer #9 · answered by wert w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have a discussion with the whole family.
2006-11-27 22:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by jordan_C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋