theres this one girl in my school right.
she just broke up with her boyfriend a month ago.
So i decided to be brave and ask her out, and she sayed yes!
So last week we went to a movie, it was a really nice date.
Then in sunday i went over to here house.
I really like her but i really messed up.
Yesterday I sayed to one of my friends
"I think she might be going out with me to maker her ex jealous"
because on sunday at her house she talked about him alot.
so my friend has to be adumbass and tell her!
now she doesnt want to speak to me ever again!
I really really like, and feel really bad about this situation.
what should i do?
2006-11-27 22:22:51 · 12 answers · asked by AlphaD1269 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her what you said here. What kinds of things did she say about him? Was she venting anger about him or expressing affection? (It sounds like she's the one who broke up with him).
Anyway, tell her what you said here, that you feel terrible about it and you made a mistake thinking that. If you didn't know what to think when she started talking about her ex, tell her that. Tell her the whole reason you got nervous about that is because you like her, but also tell her, IF IT'S THE TRUTH (never lie to a girl; that's just not nice) -- that you're glad she opened up to you (if that's what happened) and that her feelings matter to you and you know that she was trusting you with what she told you (if applicable) and that it must have hurt to hear about what you said (you can be virtually certain of that one). Tell her you got a little lost for a while there and sincerely apologize.
Tell her -- again, IF IT'S THE TRUTH -- that you were expressing some concerns to a friend who is obviously too much of a bonehead to get it. If you truly feel like it came out all wrong when you were talking to your friend, tell her that. Make sure that you're not blaming everything on him, too. Take responsibility for your mistakes. If you don't, she'll know it and be (rightly) turned off.
Tell her if she needs time and space to think things over you'll give her that.
If she won't talk to you, write it all down in a letter and hope she'll read it. Better yet, write her a short note saying an abbreviated version of what you want to say and ask her to talk to you. It's better to talk in person than deliver a letter... unless, of course, she still refuses to talk with you. If she does still refuse, I'd deliver the letter and if she still doesn't want to talk with you then you'll have to let her go. I've been there, I know that's rough, man.
Btw, and you don't need to say this to her, there might be a small chance he likes her too and that's the real reason he told her that. However, **don't** make any snap judgments on that in case that's wrong. I don't know your friend.
Good luck!
2006-11-27 23:02:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welllll... you did get her on the rebound! Give it a little time and then approach her again. (You didn't hurt her feelings... you pissed her off!) Explain to her that you are very interested in her and would love to take her out when she is ready! That's a hint to her that you know this close after a relationship she could still have feelings for someone else.
2006-11-28 06:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by the_pharaoh109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of saying that to ur friend..u shuld have jus told her. as blunt or rude as it mite sound. its the best way to find out. wen there is a doubt..always better to check on it . if she cant understand the simple nature of ur thoughts.. and doesnt even wanna give a chance for u to explain it to her.... maybe u shuldnt care so much.
2006-11-28 07:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by necromancer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were probably right, she probably was trying to make him jealous, you did get her on the rebound! Then she realised that you figured her out and got embarrassed and now doesn't want to talk to you!!!
2006-11-28 06:39:57 · answer #4 · answered by ✩☆✩HAPPINESS✩☆✩ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont stress yourself of the issue, the girl aint worth it. The fact that she talked alot about her ex means she has not got over him yet. I think she is not talking to you coz wat u r saying is true she is not over her ex. If you insist on dating her you will be the only victim. I think u should make an effort to move on.
2006-11-28 06:29:49 · answer #5 · answered by kags 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend was putting the old c o c k block on you.
2006-11-28 06:26:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So...send her some flowers and a card apologizing for your stupid behavior...next time don't say anything to anyone that you wouldn't want repeated....good luck
2006-11-28 06:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is lay your cards on the table admit what a fool you were and hope she accepts your apology. we all make mistakes and get foot and mouth disease. all you can do is try and hope for the best.
2006-11-28 06:26:29 · answer #8 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about having broken her heart. You haven't. You have merely shown yourself for what you are - an immature jerk.
2006-11-28 06:26:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what u have done is really bad.... girls are generally very soft in character.. too sensitive too... better go and ask sorry for u have done..
2006-11-28 06:28:06 · answer #10 · answered by pinky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋