Touchy grandma?

Question

My mother in law is alwaystouching our 3yr old's butt.Patting it,picking our child up by the butt.The last straw was when I saw her pick our child up by grabbing the middle of her butt with one hand (where her fingertips were facing,if not on her privates),and using the other to hold her back.I find this touching uneccesary and odd.My hubby and I pick her up by placing our hands on her sides or under her arms ,then holding her with her butt on our forearm....or putting her on our hip with our arm around her waist.My parents and everyone else does it this way too..........................Why is she doing this?...What is the best way to tell her not to?

Answer 1

This is your child. Show the woman how you prefer that she pick up your child. Tell her if she doesn't pick up the child in the manner shown, she isn't to pick her up at all.

Don't worry about "feelings." Your child is too small to protect herself so you need to do it for her. A hurt feeling felt by grandma will be less painful for all concerned than a major blow up if she touches the child inappropriately later on.

Answer 2

Well, i seen lots of grandmas do this but never thought anything of it.
I think she is doing this out of a natural way, not a dirty way.
I could understand if the child was older but for real, its a baby.
If it bothers u or the child, then tell your hubby to tell his Ma to stop pickin the child up like this.
Children grow too fast, so enjoy the baby yrs.

Answer 3

confront her in a polite manners everything can be settled in a nice heart to heart talk.