i am married to a guy from a diff race. unluckily his parents doesnt like me because of 1001 reasons.
the thing is my husband doesnt want to stand up and just keep listening to all the brainwashing done by his parents. my husband cheated on me over and over again. and his parents knew about this instead of trying to help they make it as a reason for him to really leave me . i am also pregnant right now. i love my husband but i am not sure whether its enough to safe this marriage cause i found it hard to trust him again.
but now things get worse with pressure from his parents on top of everything i am not sure i will remain sane if this goes on. what kind of parents wanted to destroy the kids marriage? are there hopes?
2006-11-27 21:46:20 · 10 answers · asked by gia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he just called me up. hes away from business. i suspected he's meeting with girls again base on the dinners bill and a lot more other clue that i gater. he told me he doesnt love me but he care about me and he wants to be there with me for the baby. and i said ok i will file divorce paper as soon as i am back to the states am trying to get an early flight. and he said why? i want to be there when you come back . i said what for? i dont want to see his face anymore. and then he started saying "u really think i dont love you"? and all the crap. and i told him you treat me like trash when you need me yu know i am there when you dont want to you just throw me away. and i said called your parents tell them i am divorcing you and his answer was leave my parents out of this. and then he started you are crazy me that is for believing he doesnt love me. but i think i am now pouring less and less tears for him. i told him i dont need his charity i can ake care of my baby myself if he wants baby
2006-12-01 01:24:35 · update #1
Leave him. Especially if he cheated. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
2006-12-05 01:11:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT. If he's cheated on you over and over again, he's not worth your efforts at trying to make it work. I understand that you love your husband, but if you can't trust him, the deterioration of what's left of your marriage isn't far behind. Personally, I would stand up to his parents and tell the nosy busy-bodies to mind their own d*** business and stay out of yours, but that's just me. If your husband won't do it for himself and your marriage, I'm sorry to say that I don't see any hope for the two of you staying together. You need to be strong and put your foot down and state clearly what you need and want out of this relationship with your husband and if he can't give you those things and won't compromise with you, you can raise your child on your own. There are lots of single parents who do a great job raising their children, yes, it's kind of scary, but it can be done. I know, I've been doing it myself for years and the kids are much better off living with a divorced parent than they would have been had I stayed.
GOOD LUCK.
2006-11-28 05:59:25 · answer #2 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him and he's cheated on you 'over and over again?'. And his parents are encouraging him to leave you? First and foremost, protect yourself by having bank accounts and credit cards in your own name and in good standing. If you are the only name on the account(s), he can't touch them. And the same is true for him! Whether you divorce or not, it's important that you can support yourself, especially with a baby on the way. Doing these simple steps give you the freedom to decide what's best for you and your marriage. Good luck.
2006-11-28 06:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by monkey jacket 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in a bad situation.
You say your husband has cheated on you, many times and that he won't stand up for you, against his parents. You don't trust him and now you're pregnant.
Unless your husband is willing to stop the cheating, stand up to his parents and support you, then there's no reason to remain in this marriage.
2006-11-28 05:58:24 · answer #4 · answered by rustybones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave the pig! Anyone that treats you like that should be out the door. But I also think you guys should be adults about it so you can let you're kids have a good relationship with him. But come on! You're better than that and if he doesn't know it find someone that does.
2006-11-28 05:51:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's hope only if your husband does two things: 1) Grows a backbone and stands up to his parents, refusing to allow them to disrespect you, and 2) Gets help for his cheating behaviors. Do not believe his words, only his actions.
2006-11-28 05:50:30 · answer #6 · answered by 2sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only hope you have is if his parents drop dead. it will never change and it won't ever get any better. your better off to get divorced and start over with someone who can be faithful to you. do it while you are still young. good luck
2006-11-28 05:50:35 · answer #7 · answered by flwrgrl692001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the first thing you will do is to pray about it..and then talk to him especially that you are pregnant ...what is good for both of you especially the baby..if still things doest work...i think you should go... "A successful marriage life is to put god at the center of the relationship"
2006-11-28 06:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by kirsten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop that fool and get u another man.
2006-11-28 09:21:30 · answer #9 · answered by daytona_girl18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK YOU SHOULD STAY AND GIVE IT ONE MORE TRY
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2006-11-28 05:50:48 · answer #10 · answered by john doe 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋