How does after having a baby things change incredibly regarding intimacy with the husband?

Question

I heard that and wanted to know how it changes things?

Answer 1

It changed it for me and most of my friends, whom I discussed this matter with. First of all, having a baby changes the dynamics of the household. For the first few months, you have to get up in the middle of the night to attend to the baby. This zaps your energy level and often, zaps your motivation towards physical intimacy. If you breast feed, it feels like the baby now owns your breasts and may, but not always, feel strange during intimacy. Also, as a Mother, you are intuned with the baby; it is instinctive. When the child gets older and more physically independent, you still have someone else around. Sometimes, they jump into bed with you when they have a bad dream or just wanting to be close.

Having children, no matter how difficult the demands upon us are, is truly a joy. It brings a lot of happiness and if you are responsible to the welfare of that child, makes you grow in ways that you could not imagine. Also, you have to feel ready to make this step. If you are not, it causes strife. Physical intimacy may be put on the back burner for awhile but it doesn't mean that emotional intimacy is placed there, as well.

If you are good friends with your partner and you realize that having a child will alter your relationship, you must try to take it in stride. Certain changes are to be expected. It doesn't mean that loving each other stops. The priorities are shifted because that little one is wholly dependent upon you. You need to make it a point with your partner to set aside time for the two of you and do something special or even something ordinary, like just going out to dinner together. Overtime, when the child gets a little older and everything is good between your partner and yourself, your physical intimacy comes back.

Answer 2

Well what more would you want to know than......

We've not had sex from about 1 month before delivery. And my baby is 4 months old now. So its been about 5 months. And believe me neither me nor my husband regrets it. Just go for it when you feel like it. Of course it doesn't mean you have to be like me but try to be mentally prepared. My relationship with my husband has become so loving and dearing. I feel that our love has increased a lot more but that was because we both wanted a child so badly. it mght not be the case if someone has an unwanted pregnancy. Anyway the baby makes your world change. It becomes your world in fact.

Answer 3

If labor was painful you will be cautious for awhile, but you can enjoy each other sexually other ways. Sleep deprivation, vulnerability, self esteem, social position, responsibility, financial pressures, time demands, figure changes, culture shock, hormones, all play a role. Nursing can be exhausting. It can also have a "foreplay" effect. To some of us, nothing is sexier than a proud and tender father. The trick will be finding the moments to express that! Best of luck to you!

Answer 4

Each person is different. During Pregnancy (first trimester) I had no desire for sex. After that and after the baby was born I always wanted it. There were a few days when i didn't want to be touched, but it would pass. Your hormones will regulate how you interact sexually. I say just go with the flow. If it becomes a problem you can always seek professional or medical attention.

Answer 5

You have added "parents" to your many facets of married life. You have to share each other now with this new little life you've brought about. Being first time parents is trial and error, tears and fears, joys and surprises.
Cut yourselves some slack, be well informed, look for a couple who's been through this successfully to coach or mentor you through these times.
Even a great counselor. Besides marriage, this is one of the biggest adjustments of your lives-don't try to go it alone, and respect the fact that this is new territory. Besides being as well informed as possible, sometimes you simply have to learn as you go. Make time to spend with just each other too.

Answer 6

My hubby.. even nonetheless he ability nicely bless his heart.. drives me loopy now and returned with the failings he thinks are ok. He as quickly as picked my ultimate pal's son up (he substitute into 11 months on the time) over his head with one hand above a tile floor. of path, in basic terms because of the fact he thought it substitute into exciting which it substitute into for the toddler.. yet I very very nearly had a heart attack as quickly as I observed it! i understand men are good yet one wiggle and who is conscious what would have befell. He additionally has a not undemanding time with the way the snaps bypass on a one piece sleeper... it is so stunning. i'm going to ask him to alter our son into his PJs and in approximately 5 minutes, i'm going to pay attention mumbles interior the mattress room.. "what the.. " "damn it..." ;-) he's particularly an rather solid Dad nonetheless and is conscious greater advantageous than me because of the fact he helped improve a number of his youthful brothers and sisters.. and likewise has a neice and a couple of nephews he was once sure usually while they have been infants. He is conscious a brilliant style of stuff approximately infants.. in all probability greater advantageous than I did as quickly as I first had my son. he's likewise an fantastic swaddler.. I by no ability could get the swaddling the final option. i think of my husband is in basic terms too volatile with enjoying now and returned nonetheless. I gave him my piece of ideas approximately enjoying and protection and he's quite careful now. ;-)

Answer 7

first of all you need to heal so you wont be having sex for around 6 weeks usually then you will be so tiered you wont be bothered but it is up to you and your husband to make time for each other even just a kiss or hug let each other know you still love the baby as well as your selves good luck you will adjust just talk about your relationship

Answer 8

lots of things
First and foremost, be prepared to be interrupted. The first 6 or 8 times it sucks but you smile and suck it up. After a while it gets real old though.
Secondly, if you are needing attention for some reason, find another source. Women use babies as an excuse to abandon men all the time.
Third, she won't be thinking about you while your in bed for a while. Her mind will be locked on the baby even when the baby is fine.
etc,etc...

Answer 9

well a mother is going to be with her baby 24/7 she will all ways be worried about her baby and when your feeding a baby all day and changing dippers and etc she will be tired, but it will change after a while.