I'm divorced with an 8yr old daughter, I've had this boyfriend for nearly 4 years but he hasn't really treated me the best. I work really hard at an office, keep my home clean and like to cook fresh food. We've never discussed living together, and I know I'm not ready and it's a big step because there's my daughter to consider and we've had such a rocky relationship - ANYWAY for the past 6 weeks he's been in my home, all of a sudden he has his own section of my closet and puts his dirty laundry in my basket and comes home to a cooked meal every night. Today he's even taken my car to go see his friend while I'm at work!
I've had enough there's twice as much cleaning, washing and cooking as he eats the same as my daughter and I put together and it's doing my head in, I never wanted to live with him but it seems he has moved in. I've tried talking to him but it ends up in an argument and he's quite scary ... What should i DO???
2006-11-27 20:52:11 · 20 answers · asked by ✩☆✩HAPPINESS✩☆✩ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems he is using getting close to your daughter as a way to stay in your house (maybe not intentionly) Sit down and talk to him, tell him your not ready to live with him full time. If your ready for try having just stay over at weekends. If he loves you he will understand, but be prepared if this is not what he wants to hear this may break upo the reletionship. First think clearly about what you really want and when you approach him with the subject just be prepared for what your gonna hear in return.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-27 21:04:31 · answer #1 · answered by Shelly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have your little daughter with you, and by now you should have already thrown him out. He is bullying you, taking charge of your life, and he knows exactly well that you are being bullied. So not just bullying you, he has taken youfor granted. If this continues, and if he has already started bulling you, you should not be surprised if he becomes violent with you. Do you want to risk your daughter's life ? There are several questions here, you need to really do some deep thinking on - when he landed at your doorstep, why did you let him in, in the first place ? why is food kept for him, or even made when you have to only take care of yourself, and your daughter ? even if he puts in the dirty laundry, you do not have to wash it at all in the first place ? how did he take the car, without you giving the keys, or lets say he had the key, did you just stand there and not do anything cos' you are scared of this bully ?
You have to notify the cops, or deal with this with someone's support, probably your family, your freinds....But you better do it quick before you see yourself slowly falling under his control, and bully and end up his slave or something, or someone on whom he can throw all the garbage that he is carrying in his mind....
good luck
2006-11-27 21:03:40 · answer #2 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is your home, u tell him to get out of there, otherwise u have all the rights to call the police. if he is scary and u re afraid he will turn violent, u tell u re going for a walk with your daughter and then go to police and return with a policeman. do not let this freak moving in with u. it sounds like u have quite settled life - u have work, u provide for yourself, u have daughter, so your biological clock is not ticking violently any more. why would u need a live in man? please listen to an advice of a mature woman - do not let him ruin everything. u can get a quite wealthy man who would provide u with money and a palace to live. so kick this poor loser out. do not be afraid to go to police. good luck
2006-11-27 20:57:17 · answer #3 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get all of your guy friends together at a time when you know he's out. Pack up all of his stuff and when he returns, you should be gone and all of your friends can tell him he's no longer welcome to stay with you and that it's over between the two of you. They can also tell him that if he ever bothers you afterward, that they will find him and he won't like what they'll have to tell him. It's a bluff but he sounds like a whimp anyway. Good luck!
2006-11-27 21:09:56 · answer #4 · answered by CaliforniaT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack his things change the locks new door handle,tell him bye bye and spend time with your child and wait til the right man comes along someone who treats you good and respects you and has a home set a better example for your child
2006-11-27 20:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the locks.
The sooner you get him out the better. If he stays with you much longer, he could actually gain rights under the law that would force you to go through an eviction process. At least that's how it is in my state. Boot him out.
2006-11-27 20:54:31 · answer #6 · answered by Bastardo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a way to get him out of your home and your life. I had a similar problem once and I told my freeloader "Fine. Stay. But if you don't go, I will. You'll be paying all of the bills." I moved out. It was worth it.
2006-11-27 21:06:46 · answer #7 · answered by Kj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no longer attempting to choose yet my cousins 6 and four is in this place there dad has them and his gf has tooken over yet i think of the youngsters could understand there authentic mom i mean reason she is the single that gave beginning she went thourgh the soreness to have them so yeah she could have the potential to work out them
2016-10-04 11:19:06 · answer #8 · answered by wiemer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would look at him ask him when he became a sponge and tell him to get his stuff and leave as your sick of playing wife without the benefits.
2006-11-27 20:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by dragonbloodus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell his *** you got some one new with an new attitude and thats got they s*it together so you got to roll .an watch he might get his life together just to show you but give him a run around paly with his mind a lil
2006-11-27 20:56:26 · answer #10 · answered by sweetazzgurl901 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋