I'm 24 and he's 39. He's in the middle of ending his second marriage and I've only been in one relationship and never gotten that "close". I've never been able to laugh with someone the way we do together before. Even arguing is fun(Considering my family and how I was raise that really is a big thing). When I talk with him I don't feel like such a alien and I don't feel so alone(Which I honestly haven't felt till resently). I've grown really attached to him and care about him a great deal, but the fact that he is quite a bit older than me and has been in a hell of a lot more "close" relationships than I have does kind of bother me. Looking at that and the fact that I've never been so attracted and comfortable with someone before, I'm really confused. What should I do? Go with the flow or back away?
2006-11-27 20:15:56 · 11 answers · asked by sixnow25 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nothing to lose by going for it, I say. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
2006-11-27 20:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that it won't work, it's commonly considered awkward and unacceptable today. For example, an 18 year old with a 38 year old seems awkward and disgusting to most people (for the reference, I do not agree with it being disgusting). The only situation that I can think of that is somewhat similar is my friend's parents, who have an age difference of about 11 years. They are very much in love and it has been working for I believe 20 years for them. The man is the older one btw. Overall, relationships aren't about age, but how well they work together.
2016-03-28 22:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine getting married to a guy aged 27 who turns out to be a JERK. Better be with someone with whom you want to be.
More than the age difference, to me the worry is why he is been in 2 marriages and failed to keep. What is the guarantee that he will keep your relationship. If you have a valid answer, go for it. All the best.
2006-11-27 20:35:00 · answer #3 · answered by Infinite 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is not big age difference - a man at 39 is still a stud, he will be a stud way till hi is 50. and u will maybe look old when u re at the age he is now. so u re a good couple
2006-11-27 20:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by jacky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it'd your choice but tread lightly. if he's with you he is actually cheating on his wife because they are not officially divorced. you have to look at it that if he'll do it to her, he may do it to you. yeah it's harsh but it is the truth. I've been where you are at and he promised the world to me, it was fantastic and i felt he was my soul mate. we talked marriage and he even asked me to have more children for him. i fell completely and well ...it ended. i got pregnant while they were supposedly separated waiting for his divorce and he wound up moving half the country away to be with his wife and kids. he never even called to see what the baby was.
he was older, i was 23 and he was 32. sometimes these things work but more often than not hon, you are his excuse to get out or his right now girl .
he will flatter you to get what he wants or what he feels he wasn't getting from her. please be careful and watch for the red "flags"
2006-11-27 20:40:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's ending his second marriage, he's not serious about relationships, is he? Besides you are interested in a man who is still married. Get away or soon you might be the third victim.
2006-11-27 20:25:33 · answer #6 · answered by Robert B 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you should go with it. i am in almost the exact same thing you are. he is ending his second marriage and we are getting married soon. you to are 15 years apart. we are 17 years apart but i dont let that bother me. its not the age that matters, its how you fell about that person. but if you really love him you should really go with it.
2006-11-27 20:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by avery's mommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. Dating a person the same age you are can get stale.
2006-11-27 20:24:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you do what is right for you, disregard his experiences and focus on you guys being happy...show him the light and all his experiences will be with you and they will be "our experiences"
Good Luck !!
2006-11-27 20:19:12 · answer #9 · answered by admiralawesome2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love has no age limit.Go for it.
2006-11-27 20:18:57 · answer #10 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋