I need to find a list of Appropriate bed times for all ages of children? & How can I get them to stay in bed?

Question

I have 4 boys and not one of them will go to bed and stay there when I ask them to despite the same routine day after day? My 2 & 4 year old share a room so bed time is 7:30pm. My 8 year old goes at 8pm & my 11 year old goes at 8:30pm. Everyone complains and wont stay in bed or their room. They all come out one by one throughout the night sometimes until 12am at night! Its exhausting! Both my husband and I have tried everything and its really wearing us down! I cant find anywhere information on recommended bed times for kids, just to help me see if Im doing th e right thing for bedtimes. Does anyone have any answers or suggestions? Anything would be a help! Thanks in Advance!

Answer 1

all of them 8:00.be firm.do you have a night light on if so tell them if the get up again you will shut it off.also no sugar before bed.

Answer 2

I am the oldest of seven that live in my house, and my brothers & cousins used to be the same way. Obviously a lot of us have to share rooms and as soon as one came out, another would come out and want water or had to go to the bathroom or "forgot" they had to tell my parents something. So finally my mom made a chart and put it on the fridge and everytime one of them came down, they lost fifteen minutes off their set bed time. At first they pushed to see if they could get away with it. But they were very unhappy when they ended up going to bed at 6:00-6:30 so after a week or so they stayed in their rooms. My mom also takes them to the library and they can each pick a book or two and now when they go to bed, they lie in their beds and read before they go to sleep to distract them from coming out of their rooms. I think making a firm decision for a "punishment" and explaining it very clearly to them and following through would make a big difference. I think the key is to stick to it, and eventually they will learn. Good luck!

Answer 3

Bedtime is tough. The only thing you can really do is be firm. Make sure they know that it is completely unacceptable to be seen out of their room after bedtime. I also would tenatively suggest pushing back the older kids' bedtime to maybe 9, unless they get up very early. But your bedtimes sound fine and reasonable.

I also don't require my son to go to sleep immediately. Obviously it's preferred, but so long as he's being unobtrusive, that's fine. If I can't tell the difference between sleeping and not sleeping, I'm good with that. Sometimes he'll do something quiet for a little while before he goes to sleep. The idea is that he's in his bedroom and not running around.

Answer 4

those bed times are reasonable for children of their ages.now how to keep them in bed is another story,, when my son was young he would get up 10 times a night wanting water or any other thing to expand his bed time, I know what you mean about being exhausting ,,,the 2 younger children will be the hardest to retrain at this time but the 2 older ones might do better tonight if you tell them that every time they get up during bed time that you will make them go to bed 15 minutes earlier tomorrow,after a few nights they won't like having to go to bed earlier than the [baby's} and should stop,and maybe the babies will see how well the others are behaving and pick up on it and if all else fails there is always Benadril{{{ please just joking}}Good Luck and get some sleep!!!

Answer 5

The appropriate bedtime is going to be different for every child/family. It depend on how much sleep the child needs to be functional, when the bus comes in the morning, how much time they need to dress and eat in the morning, etc.

My 5.5 year old and 7.5 year old go to bed between 8:00 and 8:30. My son's bus comes at 7:30 a.m. and he gets up at about 6:30. My daughter's bus comes at 8:10 and she gets up at about 7:00. My 3.5 year old goes to bed between 8:30 and 9:00 most nights, depending on if she took a nap that day. She gets up around 7:00.

Answer 6

not sure about the older ones. that is just odd to me. as for the 2&4 year olds. I put my 3 year old to bed at 7:30 as well. I think it is very appropriate.

Answer 7

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