as he asked very specific questions. We always just said a man and woman lay together when they get married (the sperm and egg join) and then a baby grows inside mum's tummy and comes out through the vagina. He specifically asked how does the sperm get there so we thought it was time. Also he had heard at school that a man puts his penis inside the vagina so we did confirm that this was correct but only when you are a grown up and married. My questions is... our daughter is only 15 months younger. Should we tell her the nitty gritty in case her brother blabs or wait until she asks us?
2006-11-27 20:04:27 · 15 answers · asked by deedee 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Hi there,
I have three children 15, 7 and 6 months.
When my 15 yr old was 5 she started asking these types of questions. We kept our answers as simple as possible (age appropriate), kept our answers short but never lied and always used the correct terminology. By the age of 13 she was very well versed in what was what and all ready for those horrible teenage years.
Yet current seven year old shows no sign of wanting to know anything! You'd think she'd be even more curious after us just having another baby but she isn't.
So I guess my answer to you would be to wait. Each child is different and is ready to learn these things at different stags in their lives. Your daughter will let you know when she is ready by coming to ask you questions. When this happens there are two great videos that are available at your local library they are:
*What is happening to me? (deals with puberty etc)
*Where did I come from? (deals with sex etc)
Both videos are great and we found them very useful. I think that sometimes in today's society we accidentally make our kids grow up to fast because we want them to be safe. BUT i also think we should still allow them their innocence while they are still using it.
Good luck . . . . Parenting is trail and error as we all know...
2006-11-27 21:10:31 · answer #1 · answered by kellz_car 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I also comment you on your teaching "marriage before sex" seems this line of teaching is thought to be of the dark ages.. but morals are things we should always teach our kids..
you done a great job with your son, and your daughter will surly start asking questions soon, and hopefully she'll come to you, and I believe the truth is always better, they learn so much misinformation from friends and school that's it's better to give her real truth and protect her from all the old wives tales that can steer them in the wrong direction.
2006-11-27 20:19:32 · answer #2 · answered by Lorene 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a breath of fresh air DeeDee !!! You know how long it has been since I 've heard anyone teaching their children to marry before sex? Sounds like you will be raising a Gentleman and a Lady, not these boys and tramps we see so much of these days.
I think should have told her when you told him. Maybe sit down and have another question and answer session with both of them. Gives him a chance to ask anything he did not and her a chance to catch up. You don't want the schools or other kids talking,teaching this.
2006-11-27 20:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by bubbles_grandpa 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wait, I Think Its Way To Early To Be Giving An 8 year old Sex Talks !! They Dont Even French Let Alone Know About this. Way Too fast Lady !
2006-11-27 21:48:24 · answer #4 · answered by untouchedangel06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is my belief that you never discuss something like that with a child until that child asks. Then, only answer the question asked...don't go into all the details until it's necessary. Once the child gets older, you'll know what to say and when.
2006-11-28 01:10:46 · answer #5 · answered by Maggie W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When the child is ready to receive the information, he/she will ask for it. No need to rush. And don't volunteer more information than is necessary to satisfy the question, or you risk confusion.
I'd wait until 10 for a pre-emptive discussion.
2006-11-27 22:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by Mark P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're probably better off telling her, otherwise your son will share the information with her and he could get some things mixed up. Also, I'm sure she'll have questions of her own.
2006-11-28 00:34:36 · answer #7 · answered by Zari A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait till she asks you. Telling her before she is ready to know won't be good. If her brother tells her something wrong you can all ways explain. And good job on stressing marriage before sex!
2006-11-28 04:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by DEBBY'S BABY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah my 9 year old daughtr came home oneday fromk a friends house and she said that she knew about sex and stuff, and she told my younger daughter about it who is 7 and I was not happy. So i wnet to the parents and told them what there kid did. Its not like im worried about my girls getting pregnant its just i dindt want them to know about it so soon. but theres nothing you can really do. Hopefully they just wont get pregnat at barely 14 like i did. but whatever happens, happens
2006-11-27 20:18:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It would be a good idea to talk with her too. Girls get their periods earlier than they used to, so they need to be prepared earlier. It's better to give them information according to your family values instead of them hearing myths at school or with friends.
2006-11-27 23:49:53 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋