What should i do?

Question

This is a very difficult decision. I have a friend who i love. I want to be her boyfriend. But everyone is telling me i shouldn't because it could ruin my focus on my career. I'm 18 and about to become a Real Estate Agent. They say that it will distract me from reaching my goal. Or she'll just get in the way of it all. But i love this girl. What should i do? I need some advice.

Answer 1

I take it that many of the people that are giving you the advise are 18 years old as well. I am not sure of the reason that everyone is saying that a relationship would ruin your focus. Work and pleasure are separate entities. Your driven force is you. I have not know relationship that has taken the focus out of my career (including while I was in college, undergrad and grad) nor have I done so to someone else. I know many people and I can say with conviction, I do not know of anyone else that has allowed someone to ruin the focus of another persons career.

Sometimes the driven focus is that the other person supports you (emotionally) and you are more focused to do better. The spirit of who you are depicts what you will do not another person.

I don't find this to be a difficult decision at all. Some of the best relationships are your friends. I feel that a personal relationship (dating) will give you balance in your life. If you love this girl go for it. It is up to you to keep your focus.

In the business of Real Estate is it time management, opportunity, devotion, self-discipline, and connections that you will need to be successful. Not to mention if you have the favor of God, then all things are possible.

Good luck with your new career and relationship. Let me know how things work out. [e-mail]

Answer 2

First, you need to decide if you truly love this woman, and are willing to make sacrifices to have her in your life. This "everyone" you are referring to obviously doesn't know much about the human emotion called Love, when you truly love someone, nothing should get in the way. As for an answer to your question, follow your heart, but do it responsibly. Don't jump into a strong relationship at first, take it slow and also pursue your career at Real Estate. See if you AND her can handle any problems which may arise from you choosing such a time consuming career, and if there are no big problems on either side, I would say stick with it. Remember, in most situations, true love is only found once in a lifetime, wouldn't you hate to be 10 years down the road from now with lots of money but no companionship? Its a very lonely road, being single without someone to hold and cherish and have a family with. Keep this in mind, I hope this helps you out.

Answer 3

Good grief! People start relationships all the time and get through career starts as well. When I started in Real Estate I was already in a relationship and it was difficult but we found a balance of time. If this lady cares for you and wants to be with you, she'll be supportive and who knows? She may even bring you lunch when you're doing your open houses! Go for it!

Answer 4

i don't think i'd agree with what others r saying. the right girl (and hopefully this girl is) would only help u reach ur potential not hinder ur chances of realizing any of ur dreams but instead help u achieve them. i'd say go for it but i'd take other ppl's advice seriously too coz u don't want to completely loose track of ur goals just coz u get focused on the romantic stuff. there's a lifetime of love ahead of u but right now would be the time to start a career and focus on that more and then building a good relationship has to take the back seat in this case for a little bit

Answer 5

You're always going to have some goal or another during your life; does that mean you should NEVER become romantically involved? That just seems like a very goofy argument to make. Maybe you should ask these people if they think only people who have no goals should be in relationships. (Besides, the housing market is really bad right now; you'll probably have lots of time on your hands!)

Answer 6

If you have to ask...dump the chick. When you're rolling in the dough, you will have bitches to spare. I sell real estate, and have met some of my best hoes while selling them houses. You are about to turn the corner to a life you never imagined, don't let someone hold you back. Don't bring that baggage with you.

Answer 7

Oh dear If you love her and she loves you that could encourage you to reach your goals even more ,listen to you heart ..good luck!

Answer 8

Learn to multi task. If you really want her and a good career I believe you can have both.

Answer 9

u had better get at it. Let her know how you feel and hope she feels same.

if u dont you are gunna hate yourself for many years afterwards wondering what if.......

speaking from experience i say LIVE IN THE MOMENT and do what u need to do to make YOU happy and to live without regrets.

Answer 10

you can get both of them why not : a good career and a girl that you love ; listen to your heart...