My boyfriend of almost 5 months, doesnt seem to care about me as much as he did before. Yesterday he didnt even talk to me during the day, but he flirted with one of my best friends. She just got here about 3 months ago, and now he seems to be so interested in her, but she is engaged! When she isnt around, he acts like he still wants me forever. I hate it, I feel like this relationship is going to end soon, even if I dont want it to. Help me figure this out please!
2006-11-27 19:53:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ya, im sorry but it sure sounds like from what you said that he is moving on away from you. Especially the part where you say that he didnt even talk to you yesterday at all. Dont say anything to him just yet, but in your mind start planning what you would do if it ended...like who you think you would like to go out with next..or dont even think about relationships at all for awhile, maybe just take a break. You dont always need to be in a relationship. Take time for yourself (buy yourself one of those mud masks or a new nailpolish youve been wanting, indulge in you!) and your family and think about those things for awhile, ya know. Good luck!
2006-11-27 19:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by EAT! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that you are noticing the differences in his behavior - excellent on your part.
the reason he is doing what it is that you are seeing is a much more difficult subject to explain.
- if the situation was reversed would the perception of your actions garner the same reaction in him - doubt it.
a fine line to walk. 5 months is the very beginning of starting to get to know someone. you talk about how it was earlier - don't forget there's always euphoria with anything that is new and exciting, kinda like wearing rose colored glasses :-)
you do need to for your own well-being and for the foundation of your relationship with him & what future may become of you two - you need to confront your interprutations and explain to him what it is that you are seeing and what that does for and to you. be well focused, sublte and forthright.
if you do not iron this out for yourself at a minimum as well as for the two of you and for him to understand who you are - and you two continue into the future in a relationship that you currently seek w/ him, you will forever hold him to an expectation that very few humans could ever even begin to survive in.
in short: take care of this as soon as you can and when you do its time to turn the page and begin a new chapter - with or without him.
did that make any sense? hope so. you can do it and keep the focus on the one thing that is most important - your heart!!!
2006-11-28 04:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by suckr4men 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men like a challenge. Try being less available. Add a little mystery. Yes it's childish, but you're dealing with the eternal child. Make him work for your attention. You'll both be happier
2006-11-28 03:56:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
congratulations, you chose to date a jack ***. he tol you everything you wanted to hear, played you fro a fool and is getting ready to move on. break the pattern now or repeat ot for years and then wake up. eventually you're gong to have to. learn to differentiate good men from bad. it isnt hard. unfortunately, this is your fault. sucks, doesn't it. but you rewarded his behavior with your affection, as you are continuing to do. basic psychology..people will continue in those actions that get them what they want. you rewarded the behavior, there fore you encourage the behavior. now do something about it other than whine.
2006-11-28 04:00:53 · answer #4 · answered by savgbst 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants both of you. Maybe he's the cheating type. Or maybe he knows he doesn't have a chance with your friend, so he doesn't want to lose you.
Or maybe it's just in your head, maybe he's not flirting with her... though I could be wrong about all of this.
Either way, it sucks : (
I'm sorry.
2006-11-28 03:59:22 · answer #5 · answered by ?Johanna Loves Superman? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're young, this is an easy one: he's bored with you, and wants to experience other girls. It happens.
If you're a bit older (say, in your 30s), then I'd say he's got some maturity problems and you'd be better off ditching him.
2006-11-28 04:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It already ended. Move on.
2006-11-28 03:56:11 · answer #7 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in 4th to 6th grade aren't you?
2006-11-28 04:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to say goodbye if he treats you like that!
2006-11-28 04:08:31 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will work out fine if you do not mind sharing
2006-11-28 03:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋