He broke up with me and came back after a couple months--he has changed for the better. At first I had feelings for him but after a week they seem to be gone. I now find myself afraid to commit to a relationship with him and I don't know where my feelings went. I'm not sure if they are covered by hurt/fear from the breakup or if they are due to fear of intimacy/commitment that I didn't realize I had. You see, I was hesitant at the beginning of the relationship----and it was only when my boyfriend started pulling away from me that all my intense feelings came out for him---and now that he is back I am feeling scared again. I don't want to lose him and I don't want to hurt him. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can heal/move forward with him/re-connect with my feelings/overcome my fear? I know if the feelings were there once--they have to be there again. I previously believed he was the one---he has all the qualities I was looking for and everyone thinks we are a perfect match.
2006-11-27 19:41:00 · 6 answers · asked by C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can relate to this in a way. I brokeup with my boyfriend of six months and for a while he and I did feel we were the one for each other, and our friends did too. But too many red flags started appearing when we were fighting a lot towards the end. Neither of us feel that we were meant to be married, but I did bring up the idea of dating him again for a while. He didn't seem too keen on it and already has a date with another girl for this Saturday. I think the best thing to do after a breakup is move on and not try to get back together. Find someone new.
2006-11-27 19:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by Mysti1000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically you have to make the decision yourself . Nobody here can help you. Personally, I feel that after a couple have break off and reconciled the feelings is totally different. it could be ths fact that both of you have been dating together for sometime and both of you know each other character up to certain extend.
You should think over carefully over this matter as there is such a saying : " Two wrongs don't make one right". Personally I feel that this relation may not have an outcome. But you should be the one making the decision. All the best to you
2006-11-27 22:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to reconnect with him you need to rediscover the common interest and qualities which you both had to use them. You need to lose that hesitantion you still have somewhere inside you still have a fear of losing him again. Lose that fear do not worry about the future live in the here and now.
2006-11-27 19:55:21 · answer #3 · answered by pojediknight 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that's your intuition (listen to it, women have wicked intuitions) telling you something is NOT trustworthy here. And with good reason. He left you once, why wouldn't he do it again?
My suggestion is let the past be the past and move forward. Without him.
2006-11-27 19:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See, this is why I say women only want a guy back when they think they can't have him.
2006-11-27 19:46:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you just want to be a friend. That is enough.
2006-11-27 19:45:16 · answer #6 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋