I just got out of a very long-term relationship a few months ago and I am 110% not ready for another relationship. However, a man I've casually dated for a couple of months (we both know and agree that there will be no monogomous relationship) and I have been having a sexual relationship with each other for a few weeks now. The relationship is strickly physical and I'm ok with this, however, I'm afraid my emotions may get the best of me in the long run. I've never been in just a physical relationship before. My question is, is it possible for women to do this? If so, how long does it usually last? I'm thinking on the lines of Samantha Jones (from sex & the city)..Are these women really out there, and is it possible I'm one of them?
2006-11-27 19:40:25 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen...if men can do it then so can us girls. I have been in sex only relationships with both men and women and it can be a fantastic release of sexual tension. In my eyes if you arent in the frame of minf to have a full on relationship then there is nothing wrong in just enjoying the physical side. If your emotions take over then just cross that bridge when you come to it. In the meantime enjoy yourself as all goo things come to an end....
2006-11-27 19:46:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married and 43 years old and to answer this I must admit that I had a free wheeling pre marriage time. I had liasons with more guys that I should have. I went to a party college and got, a bit, into drugs. So between drinking, and drugs, and just trying to satisfy a need, I did have unions with little or no emotions attached. I was 28 when I got married...........marriage is a different ballgame. My hubby got my heart and my body has been his private property. I have friends who's younger days pretty much paralleled mine. I think women are capable of sex without the emotion, just as much as the men are. This is not how our families sees us, but they don't know the whole story.
2016-05-22 21:42:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a really tough question. I had gotten into something very similar to this.
I knew a girl who had just gotten out of a long relationship and was heading to college in about 5 months. She was not looking for another relationship and i told her that I felt the same way. However I really liked the girl but knew she was in a situation similar to yours. I wound up falling head over heels for her. When the time came near for her to leave, I ended things and told her the reason was b/c I was ready to start a relationship and I knew that she was going away. Well she had also fallen for me and this devastated her. She thought I had just been using her the whole time for sex. It was not good b/c I lost someone I really loved.
This things can get messy, someone has to make a decision and
often it's not what the other person wants to hear.
2006-11-27 20:05:24 · answer #3 · answered by Rusty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BLimey, well - the same as you hunny -i was in your position before i met my current partner (who i have been with for 22 months) But i had just got out of a relationship and was looking for some 'no strings fun' and i got it.
After a few weeks though i started to have feelings for this man, as we spent more and more time together! In the end i looked like a fool, he wanted me for sex and i wanted FAR more than that! Its sometimes best just to get out your trusty friend 'The Vibrator' and have some 'no strings sex' with that!! I know its not the same but at least you wont end up gettin hurt.
I hope for your sake that this doesn't happen as emotions DO usually run high during sex. If it was me, i'd just leave it! (well knowing what i do now i would anyway!)
Good luck hun! xx
2006-11-27 19:47:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe it's possible to have an ongoing sexual relationship without some transferrence of emotion. Oh , if you use enough alcohol or drugs you can mask this give and taking of emotion, but if you are simply doing it to have sexual release, why not masturbate?
People, after great trauma, often use sex as a drug, or a release. But be careful not to care, not to love, not to be fond; and most of all be careful not to begin resenting anyone willing to "use" you ongoingly, because that's what it is, when there is ongoing sex without love or caring.
But then again, it's nice to be held, to be touched, to share with another.. perhaps you are ready for another relationship, albeit brief, and this is it.
2006-11-27 19:50:44 · answer #5 · answered by Golfcarmel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really don't want a relationship w/ the guy break it off, that's what sam would do. other wise tell him how you feel b4 you get to deep and end up hurting yourself and possibly the "friendship" you two have, maybe even him when things get complicated. if you can maintain this friendship that's great but what happens when one of you does hook-up w/ a new beau then the other is out in the cold so to speak. you could be but depends where u go from here.
2006-11-27 19:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by groovergabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you only want a physical relationship with this man stay in it but if in the long run you think you might want something more (and he i don't think does) they you should probably get out of it soon. Yes i think women are capable of having these kind of relationship....i mean why not??
2006-11-27 19:47:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Television isnt real life,you need something much more concrete to direct your life above the hedonistic tendencies of present day culture.get some firm guidance on the way to live life,you know maybe something like the bible.
there is nothing like no-strings-attached sex.you will eventually hurt yourself by feeling worthlless ,unappreciated and hungry for reaL LOVE, BECAUSE EVERY time you sleep with a guy you give a part of yourself away.
you know when God puts restraint into our sexual behaviour it is always for our own good.He needs you to first have a relationship with him,and he will give you a relatonship that will satisfy.
Barikiwa, that is swahili for be blessed
2006-11-27 20:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by mkenya halisi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never control whats going to happen....that's all i can say. Don't place a period on your lovelife. Its so normal that things dont really happen the way you expect them. But not all happens the same. Just be patient and sooner or later, you may find the perfect partner. Make sure you have learned your lessons and apply them to the next relationship.
Stop getting all obsessed just play the game and who knows what that may bring.
2006-11-27 19:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by Dave S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so, from my experiences woman are incapable of separating sex and emotion, thats a charcteristic only men possess!!
Another possibility is that you could separate the two this time but your partner may not and you would find yourself in another tricky situation!!
2006-11-27 19:44:21 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋