I'm an openminded but somewhat old-fashioned guy, and I'm not sure exactly what to do about this situation. I've been dating an 'older' woman for a couple months. I like her and am very attracted to her. We're honest and up front with one another, and speaking with her on the phone recently she told me that her 22 year old daughter who lives with her and who I've met a couple of times when over their house, is very attracted to me! I find the daughter to be very attractive also. But, I mean... really! Wouldn't this just complicate matters? Last Saturday evening I went over there thinking that her daughter would be working (she's a waitress at a restaurant near their home). I even asked first, just to make sure. But when I got there, the daughter had taken off work. The three of us hung out together, which I guess was OK, but I would've wanted more time with my GF. Anyway, I'm not sure what to do. It's turning into a BIG dilemma! I feel like I can't go there anymore. What do I do?
2006-11-27 19:40:06 · 8 answers · asked by mr_c1ass 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK, now that I've recovered sufficiently from my laughter (not at you, at Grampa Simpson), I just have 3 words for you:
Don't go there!
This is one of those things that (like Grampa said) only works out in fantasies. Men have been trying to do this since we lived in caves, and I think in all that time it might've worked out maybe twice, and both those times were somewhere in France, and eventually the mother and daughter ended up hating each other anyway, maybe it just took a little longer.
You said you're a somewhat old-fashioned guy. Well, in my view, that would preclude what's going through your mind from coming to fruition. Resist, my friend, Resist! You seem happy with your GF, why blow it? Why even chance blowing it on some potential inter-generational romp in the hay that couldn't possibly have any positive future in it?
Perhaps in another time, another place, another Universe where things are very different; where human beings are very different. But alas, we are what we are, and I can only see the path down such a road lined with shards of broken glass and barbed wire. Ouch!
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2006-11-27 20:06:12 · answer #1 · answered by funnyrob01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Mr. Class, are you being on the up-and-up here, or are you really an editor for Penthouse Forum letters and are trying one out on us? Sounds like one of those...
Anyway, if what you are saying is true, then, like a couple of the other respondents said, don't go there. Yeah, these fantasies work out, but usually only in fantasies. This kind of thing in reality only leads to complications. And if it doesn't, then I'd be REALLY jealous!!!
Seriously, a 22 year-old girl infatuated with her mom's BF, I don't care how openminded the mother is or thinks she is, there's gonna be conflict there. And if there isn't, then I'm really, REALLY jealous!!!
Are they cute? Oh... never mind! Obviously they're cute, look at you with that tux on...
I don't know what to tell you. We've all gotta make our own decisions in life. You place your bets, you takes your chances, as they say. You make your bed, you lie in it. With 2 cute blondes? Uy, there I go again.
Anyway, I'm sure I've been a HUGE help!
2006-11-27 19:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by Abe Simpson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she told you the daughter thinks you're attractive doesn't mean you have to act on it or anything. We're humans, not apes. That's the cool part of it. We don't have to act on every attraction we feel.
2006-11-27 19:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i noticed your screen name is "mr. class". if were you, i would consider changing your name...to maybe, let's see...how about mud? if you and your "girlfriend" are going to survive as a couple, you have to treat her daughter as perhaps your future step-daughter. if you cannot do that, get out now.
2006-11-27 19:49:21 · answer #4 · answered by sinned 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
shes probably seeing u r using her for sex til something younger or better comes along. or she thinks you and her daughter would make a good couple
2006-11-27 19:47:46 · answer #5 · answered by dave c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you go for the daughter, your almost certainly gonna lose both, and besides, mom was there first!
2006-11-27 19:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by Jere_Harless 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont go there! you will cause conflict between the two. and remember blood is thicker than water!
2006-11-27 19:46:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a threesome going. That would be a story for the grandkids...
2006-11-27 19:43:24 · answer #8 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋