Ok I posted this about an hour ago and got pretty bashed by a lot of the men. The situation is that my boyfriend got the phone number of a woman at work and he has called her. I used to work for this company and I know that there is no work related reason for him to call her. I know a lot of people are asking why am I still with him if I dont trust him. Well, relationships are complicated and I am trying to give him the benefit of the doubt, but sometimes its difficult. My question for all of you is how do I find out the truth? Asking him wont do any good because if he has something to hide, he will just lie about it anyway. Please no more "your crazy" answers from the men. I KNOW I'm insecure but I am trying to get past it. Please give me some good advice because my heart is breaking thinking he could be interested in someone else.
2006-11-27 19:35:58 · 9 answers · asked by meeahcat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
every woman would feel the same way as you do and yes you will hurt for a while yet to come,however the real truth is you dont want to be with a man who doesnt love you as much as you love him and you should never come second best to a man in your own relationship with him unless he has children,i know you love him but sounds like he is cheating,move on it wont be easy nor quick to get over him but day by day you will start to get over the hurt and anger and start to meet new people then things will get better
2006-11-27 19:43:38 · answer #1 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you are crazy at all. if your boyfriend is calling her it is wrong. how would he like it if the shoe were on the other foot?and also if he's gonna lie to you if you ask him then you must know that he has lied to you before,any man or women that are in a relationship should't be getting phone numbers from other men or women.and if do and follow through with the calling game their not thinking much about their relationship. i am not saying he is but what you say dosen't sound right. i know if it were me i would find out somehow and if he is i would tell him to have fun with her as your days with me are over. good luck....
2006-11-27 19:54:25 · answer #2 · answered by dulla mae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the woman and ask her point blank what's going on. Is that possible? You sound like a nice woman and don't deserve to be jerked around. I have to tell you that if you have this much doubt in him then there is a problem and we both know it. Your instinct is telling you something that you don't want to hear. You can always call The Maury Povich Show and get him a Lie Detector Test.
2006-11-27 19:39:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
to be honest it sounds like he is fooling around. Go with your gut feel and confron him about it. If he is calling a gorl from work, then why else would he do it other than to get her into bed. Sorry but i really think he is playing away from home.
2006-11-27 19:43:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally, I would plant a few numbers on myself that he would find and ask about or something like that....he will either get the message or ask and then you can have a discussion about monogamy. I didnt read your other post, but regardless of what the men say....most are cheaters and liars....you have to find one who is not and it is tricky.....
2006-11-27 19:41:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon! I'm not going to answer this question because it's not the answer you want to hear! So just let him go on breaking your heart, until you come to your senses. I'm sorry hon!
2006-11-27 19:43:50 · answer #6 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's best to just sit back, watch and wait! If you sit around and worry, you'll make yourself sick. If you nag him you'll eventually chase him away. If somethings going on, believe me, it will come to light. He will slip up somewhere! Just chill, go on with your life.
2006-11-27 19:45:01 · answer #7 · answered by icuassist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said
"Your heart is breaking he could be interested in someone else"
"I dont trust him"
"He will just lie about it"
"I know Im insecure"
Love yourself girl, please let that f***** go.
I hate seeing women do this.
Maybe you just arent hurt enough...but you will be eventually.
Love ur self..
2006-11-27 19:41:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
start calling up a guy do you want my phone number
2006-11-27 19:39:07 · answer #9 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋