ive been dating a girl for almost a year now, we are living in seperate arrangements, when we first started dating i had a really goood job with a local phone company, since then i have lost my job due to downsizing i currently have 2 jobs trying to make money and im working alot of hours trying to compensate for a smaller pay rate, i still make time to see her even tho i dont get much sleep, she knows of my sacrifice, and doesnt complain, problem being i cant provide likle i could. Recently i couldnt come up with enough money to pay her cellphone bill, shes is working right now but she does babysit in trade for room and board. i go and see her at her babysitting job before i go to work and i pick her up from her evening job, after all is said and done each month she makes more then i do... im desperately trying to rememedy the situation but i know that if she decided to sh could get a guy with alot nicer things.. more money nicer car big house, those kinds of things.... what do i do?
2006-11-27 19:18:57 · 7 answers · asked by FuSioN` 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
shes not into me for my "things", but i feel innept for the fact i catn afford to take her out... this really bothers me... does it bother girls as well?
2006-11-27 19:36:11 · update #1
As a child of a divorce that was mostly due to some financial issues my parents were having, my dad actually ended up declaring bankruptcy shortly after the divorce, financial matters do come into the equation.
But in my opinion, not in the way that you're describing
Relationship issues due to financial problems usually develop due to a difference in opinion of how to spend it, whether to save it, how accessible it is etc. If she is in the relationship simply for how much money you were making, then you will never truly make her happy and vice versa.
The best way to avoid it is to keep your issues well in the open, do your bills together, keep nothing hidden and she will understand that you're doing everything that you can. At the same time, don't become too frugal, maybe set aside a bit of money each paycheck so that you can take her out for dinner once a month or something special.
2006-11-27 19:30:18 · answer #1 · answered by Puddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First is continually health. human beings won't be able to function with out health, foodstuff, water and protect. So the monetary component comes with it. occupation alternatives will be a situation, yet for me, at contemporary, I actually have disability and faculty. college will be annoying, even though it really is a lot extra useful than having to rouse to face all day in a production unit. Relationships are then needed. study Robinson Crusoe to work out how a human bargains with being isolated. yet relationships will be both worthwhile, and discomfort. so a techniques as a girlfriend, my very last one became my perfect pal yet she were given drained of me be volatile. i'm informed I actually have borderline personality ailment, and interpreting on that ailment, that's form of an insult. yet I actually produce different psychological health topics that are being dealt with with medicine for now. All can mix mutually.
2016-11-29 21:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not her husband and she should pay her own cell phone bill- anyone can lose their job- and if you are just a paycheck to her- dump her- it she is just in it for the things- that is not a relationship-you are being used-she should love you for you - D
2006-11-27 19:27:16 · answer #3 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should find a better girl, someone that wants you and not your paycheck. I pay my own bills, I want some to love me and I don't ask for money back.
2006-11-27 19:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by jm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave things to god, if you believe. Keep meeting her. May be soon you will get a better job and make her happy. Also be mentally prepared for a breakup with her. If it happens dont get too upset.
2006-11-27 19:27:21 · answer #5 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think that she may leave you for a guy who has a lot of money so that means she's with you for your money right!well check out your relationship again and think on it,if you think as I said ,so its time to leave.Good luck
2006-11-27 19:24:22 · answer #6 · answered by lonelilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man put that ***** on the strip be like ***** wheres my money and slapped da ho put her in her place u gotta chop dat bizzy u undadig?
2006-11-27 19:21:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋