I'm sorry for this long story, but in order to be able to answer my question, you have to understand some things about me. I'm 17 years old, female, and I'm 4 feet 5 inches tall. My mom didn't want to put us in school, so she home-schooled all of us. But she didn't teach us the things we were supposed to know for our age, so by the time she decided to put us in school, I was 12 years old, and I had to start in 2nd grade with my younger sister who is 15 and in the same grade as me. I got kicked out of a private school in June this year, age 17 in 7th grade. My mom is convincing me to study at home and get my GED. But my dad and my older sister are convincing me to go back to school. I already missed out on my teen years, because I've been hanging out with younger kids since 12, and now I'm almost 18. My dad and sister say I should go back to school because I'd be missing out on my prom and all that. No one in my family ever finished school and went to college. So what should I do? Help!
2006-11-27 19:14:20 · 11 answers · asked by ?Johanna Loves Superman? 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Home Schooling
Johanna, my daughter went to school through 12th grade. She's taking her Master's degree now in Education. I homeschooled my son through high school. Because of the way high school credits work, he got a GED rather than a high school diploma. By choice, during what would have been his 11th grade year, he was taking GED prep courses at the community college. As long as he was there, he was also taking some freshman college classes and real estate courses. He passed his GED before the end of that year...and his state real estate exam just after his 1th birthday...
You can do a lot by going to high school. You can do a lot by getting a GED. But you have to have the education to start with. To pass the classes to finish high school. To pass the GED tests.
If you stay at home with your mom, can you pass the tests to get your GED? I know she's your mom, and this is harsh of me to say, but she let you get to 12 years old with only enough knowledge to go into the 2nd grade. You have a LOT of work to do to catch up! CAN YOU DO IT?
You're almost an adult now. This isn't a decision for your mom to make. It isn't a decision for your dad. It's not one for your sister. This doesn't have anything to do with going to prom. This has to do with you and the rest of your life.
What are your plans? What are you going to do with the rest of your life? Are you going to college? Do you have any idea what you intend to do after high school? Do you intend to finish high school? What type of job do you plan to get after you're done with school? What skills will you bring to that job? These are things you need to think about now...and the answers to these questions will help you figure out how to answer the question you posed here.
This isn't a question you need to be asking a bunch of people here, by the way. It's a question you need to be asking yourself. You're the one that counts. Your answer is the only one that matters.
2006-11-27 20:35:32 · answer #1 · answered by chershaytoute 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say go back to school. Although it might be hard since you did not learn some of the things you were supposed to. You will miss out on some great experiences. High school dances and the friends you could have are one reason. Also, colleges and jobs prefer to see that you have graduated from high school rather than attaining a GED. There is also a lot of work to get a GED too. It all depends on what you want to do later in life. If you choose to go to college or find a good job I believe the better route would be to graduate from high school.
2006-11-27 19:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by bnmbbm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where in the world do you live that they are putting 12 & 15yo kids in grade 2 and 17yo kids in grade 7???????????????????
It sounds like both your parents and the school system screwed up. There is absolutely no reason why you should have been put in 2nd grade at the age of 12 nor why you should be in gr. 7 right now. Had their been such a situation here where live, a 12yo would have been put in gr. 7, but with modified course work and being pulled out for in-school tutoring to get the reading, writing and math up to par. 5 years later, that student would have absolutely no reason to not be at grade level. Frankly, it shouldn't even take more than 2-3 years.
If going back to school means you are going to be in a grade 7 or 8 class, then no, I wouldn't recommend it. It means you are going to graduate in 4 or 5 years since the schools don't seem interested in speeding things up for you--do you honestly think that at 22/23 you are going to be the slightest bit interested in going to a prom with 17/18 yo's??? (btw, what did you do to get yourself kicked out of school???)
Get your GED. Better yet, find a community college where you live and see what sort courses they have set up for adults seeking diplomas/GED.
2006-11-28 00:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by glurpy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I really don't know what to say about this. But, don't give up! Don't fall into what your family did; not finishing school and not going to college.
At this point, I wouldn't care about prom and all that stuff, sure, it would be nice...If you feel awkward being around a bunch of little kids, which I'm sure you do sometimes, I think it would be best to get your GED...or see if you can take some kind of evening classes. I know there are some places to go to prepare for your GED, like a center, that way you won't have to do it at home if you want to be around people more so your own age.
But, all I have to say is...just keep going. Find a way to get that diploma/GED. Just follow what you think would be better for YOU.
You can email me if you want to talk more. cutelilusagi@yahoo.com
2006-11-27 20:39:45 · answer #4 · answered by BunBunNay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down (some place private), breathe deep, and just THINK!!!! What do YOU want to do? What are your future plans? So far, things have gone very badly because everyone , but you has been making all your important decisions. Your mom wants you to study at home, yet she did a lousey job with it the first time around. Your Dad wants you to go to school, yet he did nothing to make sure you went to one in the first place (which would have helped to avoid all the grief your going through now). Your sister (that has gone through your very same situation) wants you to go back to school so you won't miss out on the social activities. Social activities are not the essence of going to school. The important thing here is that you complete your high school education. Whether you go back to school or study at home is YOUR decision. Only you really know what is beneficial to you. Pray and meditate; I'm sure God will help guide your steps and decisions. I wish you the very best of luck.
2006-12-02 13:57:46 · answer #5 · answered by pirulee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dropped out of highschool when i was 16. I missed the social learning, but I dont regret my decision. I got my GED and was accepted into a major university when i was 17 because my scores were so high. So just because you dont graduate high school dont give up. Things actually worked out better for me. I am the first one to go to college in my family as well and I am on the deans list and all that good stuff. So be the first! stay motivated!
2006-11-27 19:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by hengly98 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do they look putting a 12 yr. old in 2nd grade? Can they seriously do that? Go back to school until 8th grade. Then when you reach high school find a home school that will teach you instead of your parents.
Go here: www.americanschoolofcorr.com you can look forward to that after you graduate middle school.
What your parents did was wrong! Shame on them!
2006-11-28 11:35:36 · answer #7 · answered by Nerds Rule! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go to an adult education center and get your GED since you are already 18. Then you can go to college. (Yes, a lot of colleges do accept people with GEDs. I should know. I have one and am in college right now.) Good luck!!
2006-12-04 02:28:03 · answer #8 · answered by Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go back to school, it sounds like you learn better in that group environment anyways. If it takes an extra year or tow, SO WHAT! its best for YOU , and this decision is about YOU!!
Forgive your family, that chip on your shoulder won't help you with anything
Consider college, even if its just community college, I bet you can do it, you already write well
2006-11-28 04:29:19 · answer #9 · answered by mike c 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Holy crap that is jacked up. First file suit against your parents. Then either get your GED or go back to school. DON'T quit.
2006-11-27 19:18:46 · answer #10 · answered by DemoDicky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋