I am a muslim girl of 19yrs going out wid a guy from last 8months.Whenever we met before in the starting he never used 2 touch me.Then he slowly started holding hand n stuff like .And now he feels to kiss on my lips. i told him we can do all this after marraige. im feeling guilty about it..
Does this mean that he has no respect 4 me so he touchd n tried 2 smooch me?
2006-11-27 19:12:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ONE thing For sure people HE will NEVER have sex before marriage..NEVER
2006-11-27 19:18:03 · update #1
Dear "hi All " Muslims are not allowed to date.What i am doing is wrong i know.Thats why i dont want to do anything further.
2006-11-27 19:26:30 · update #2
It seems you've had your families cultural and social behavior drilled into your head, but quite a rebel about it since well you are dating a guy and apparently your not allowed, well your parents may look down on it.
Either way you are 19 years of age, which is above the age of consent? It's up to you, Kissing and physical contact is a sign of affection between two people. If your uncomfortable with it, talk to him about it, if you can't do that then you shouldn't be dating.
That in my eye is the problem with not dating, you don't build up the confidence to talk to your partner about things. That's what a relationship should be built upon? Communication?
If he has stayed with you for 8 months the chances are that he does respect you, otherwise he would of pressurized you into sex by now and if he didn't get any then hell he would of already left...
At the end of the day you are your own woman. You are able to make any choice in life you wish and shouldn't be held back.
I'll link you to a forum that has had a similar discussion there are many views on this...
Hope it helps
2006-11-27 20:26:25 · answer #1 · answered by xion506 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is a sign of affection, if he was sleeze he wouldn't have hesitated in the beginning. But if you are trying to remain moral, and wait till marriage you should let him know before its too late. You are a stronger person than most for this stand you take, I respect that.
2006-11-27 19:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by The Government is Coming! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to move farther in a relationship. Maybe this is a culture barrier? Culture barriers are harsh but you must understand that a guy must respect any girls' wishes. To love is to respect. He may have respect for you, so in order to find out u need to ask him to respect your decision. If he can't then he has no respect for you. If he does then he may love you.
-good luck my friend.
2006-11-27 19:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by Hideo Okino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Touching, smooching and kissing are normal way of showing love. But if you are not confortable with it , you can make him understand. If he really loves you, cares you and respect you, he will agree to you.
2006-11-27 19:18:22 · answer #4 · answered by arnie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i dont know the situation but your bf just wants to show is love and affection for you unless he is forcefully trying to kiss you and touch you but if you tell him that your not ready then he should respect your decision no matter what if he really loves you.
2006-11-27 19:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by sc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a very simple-minded way of looking out it. Could it just be that he's physically attracted to you?
2006-11-27 19:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by JudasHero 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a muslim, but to me it means he is a normal guy, and if that is all that he did, he is pretty respectful.
2006-11-27 19:15:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't mean he has no respect for you, but if you're serious about staying a virgin then you had better stop it now. It's your job to say no and mean it.
2006-11-27 19:14:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it ok to kiss and to be kiss and to hold hand but no sex intil after marriage and if he is a man he would under stand that,
2006-11-27 19:15:50 · answer #9 · answered by little_bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guess he's just being horny. It's normal for a guy to react like that... Well, if u dun feel comfortable with it, just tells him in a nice way... ask him to respect u...
2006-11-27 19:15:35 · answer #10 · answered by porridge0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋