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Question

a girl that i really like likes my friend, what she doesnt know is that he already has a gf but he hasnt told her yet. recently she started to flirt with my friend a lot but when she finds out that my friend is already taken, its goin to break her heart............................
my questions is .. what should i do? some of my friends told me that she will hate me for telling her myself, others tell me that she will love me for saving her from being rejected. ...(im willing to take a risk, but i still have feelings for her, so i dont want her to hate me) ......keep in mind that im his good friend, so she might suspect that i knew bout this ALL along and will hate me EVEN MORE instead of liking me (which is what i want ^ ^)

Answer 1

My opinion is that you tell her cause a girls heart is like the lottery. Pick a number (answer) and hope you win something good.
You can't play the "I knew it all along but didnt tell you cause I was afraid to cause I liked you" too much cause from my experience they dont like that too much. I know that if a girl already has feelings for another guy especially for your friend, its best if you do your best to step in and put on your best game cause you need her to know you like her. If anything at all in the end she knows you like her alot and thats all that matters. You got your interest across and was seeing if she wanted to pursue a relationship.
This works in the long run too, you just gotta be nice and dont mess up your game :)

Good luck!

Answer 2

Well, if you didn't say anything after all this time, it's too late now. If she asks why you didn't tell her, you could say that you didn't know she liked him, or you didn't know he had a gf, or you didn't think it was your business, or (gasp!) you didn't want to hurt her feelings. She will feel disappointed no matter what. I'm almost certain of it. What you should have done is to tell her that he had a gf immediately after you heard that she liked him, or as soon as you found out. Now the timing is messed up. It really doesn't matter too much what you do now; I don't think it would affect your chances with the girl. The most humane thing to do would be to tell her about the guy's gf before she goes up to him and asks him, because she may be embarrassed if she gets rejected like that.

I wouldn't hold out much hope for this girl if I were you. Just wait a week or so after she finds out about this friend of yours and ask her out. If that doesn't work, drop it and move on to brighter prospects. I have an idea about the situation you're facing, and it isn't looking good. It's too difficult for me to explain in layman's terms, but it will suffice to say that your odds are not fantastic by any stretch. You shouldn't give up just yet, but you shouldn't expect anything.

Another thing: you seem to have the idea that you can do something to make girls like you more. That really isn't the way it works. If they like you, then you have a chance if you don't make stupid mistakes (some of which are very common). If they do not like you, you will almost never get them to start liking you. So just ask girls out and try to judge if they like you or not. Don't even bother with the idea of winning them over, because it's a very long stretch.

Another very important point: Don't tell a girl you like her. Just ask her out. If you start on about how much you like her too early in the relationship, you will usually ruin her respect for you.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Whenever you have to deliver bad news to someone, do it in a way that allows them to "save face" or avoid embarrassment. If she feels embarrassed when you tell her, she is more likely to be angry at you. I like the other person's idea about just dropping the fact casually that your friend is involved. That allows her to hide her reaction since you didn't address it directly--she has the option to act like she really doesn't care or already knew. It also allows you to be a friend and/or make your own move to let her know you'd like to go out with her some time. If her self-confidence has dropped because of the disappointment about your friend, she could probably use the boost of being asked out, even if she declines for some reason. It might get her at least thinking about you that way.

Something worth considering before making a move on her yourself: Suppose she does decide she is attracted to you and you start dating. Imagine you and she and your guy friend and his girlfriend hanging out...is there a possibility that she will always be attracted to your friend on some level and you'll have to deal with that knowledge? Can you handle that? Is she worth it?

Good luck!

Answer 4

I experienced the same thing you're experiencing now. When I told her that my friend already has a gf, she hated me and told very bad stuff and it was very very embarrassing for me. She stopped talking to me and she talked about me with her friends and they also agreed with her and lessened their talkings with me too. When my friend knew what I've done, he also got angry with me and stopped being a friend of mine and it hurted me so much because I did what I thought that it was a good thing, but unfortunately it back fired on me. When my friend's gf knew what happened she sympatized with me very much indeed and dumped my friend and moved on with her life. When my friend saw this he got more angry with me. After sometime the girl that I liked and she liked my friend has realised her mistake and asked me for apologies and I accepted them but unfortunately my friend has never spoke a word to me and I think that he's still angry with me.

I know that I might have been unlucky and that the persons in my experience could have been a**holes but I wanted to show you that if everything will get against you, you will be hurt very much indeed because in my case the girl that I liked, has never had any feelings for me either.

I hope that this helps you to find the best thing to do. Good Luck

Answer 5

Tell her, but don't let yourself be the rebound. Be there for her and be a friend. Just let her know whats going on and tell her you just didn't know how to tell her without hurting her. And that the LAST thing in the world you wanted was to hurt her. I'll let ya in on a little secret... she won't hate you. She might act like she does, but in truth she hates herself, and is taking it out on you. She needs to vent and you're the easiest way to do that. It's like shooting the messenger. She might be mad for a bit, but it won't last. Good luck!

Answer 6

ok my friend...

to break a heart or to risk a relationship with a friend.

choose neither...
Tell her what is going on. She needs to know.

The next question is...
To brake her heart or have your friend do it.
you are her friend...friends help friends. so you need to lay her down softly. If she gets mad she gets mad...but if she is truely your friend she will realize that if she went on she would have been crushed even more.

So...tell her and things will be ok. remember its friends till the end.


good luck my friend.

Answer 7

Tell your friend that he might want to tell her because otherwise she might get hurt. Other than that, unless she asks you, why do anything? If she wants to know whether he has a girlfriend, she could ask him.

Answer 8

i suggest that you say to her something like, I know you kinda like my friend, but i was wondering if you would like to go out with me, being that he already has a girlfriend. how can she get mad about that.

Answer 9

dont get yourself involved. its not assured that you wil be the good guy at the end of all this.

Answer 10

y r u waitin? go tel her abt it! though she's on false lov , revieling that
will be the best way