I broke up with my boyfriend (mutual breakup, he agreed) just over two weeks ago. Of course I've been hurting a lot ever since and kept having that nagging feeling of needing some closure. Last night I called him and we talked for a while, about the breakup and what went wrong between us. I apologized for things I did that hurt him, but he did no apologizing on his part. That bothered me all day today, so I called him tonight to say I needed him to tell me he was sorry too, which he did. Then he said some things later in the conversation that bothered me, one was that he has a date with another girl on Saturday. (already??) and that he fell out of love with me about a week before we broke up, when we had a really nasty fight. I was still trying to patch things up between us. Him saying these things seems very passive-aggressive to me. I did want to be friends with him but now I'm having serious 2nd thoughts. Part of me wants to move on, and part of me wants him in my life. What to do?
2006-11-27 18:52:52 · 14 answers · asked by Mysti1000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He told you how he felt. You cant change or control him and thats what your trying to do. He was honest with you cuz you asked him to be. Theres nothing more to it, you are now broken up and have been so theres no more relationship. He doesnt have to answer to you for anything. He has every right to have a date if he wants just as you do. You are trying to control something beyond the break up and all that will do is prolong any hurt for YOU, not him. Move on and forget the friends thing for now. Maybe down the road but now you need to let go of it all.
2006-11-27 18:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to find reasons to be angry with him or to keep talking to him. That's what you're doing by analyzing every little rude thing he said and did to you. Forgive and forget. It is over. You WILL find someone else better. Someday , sooner than you think, you will look back on this time and wonder "Why was I so stuck on this stupid guy" ? So keep remembering that and get on with living your life. Being happy is the best revenge. Nothing is more unattractive than some chick calling you repeatedly whining about what you did wrong and how she doesn't want to be friends now. If that's how you feel now, fine, just don't be friends. But, retain an ounce of dignity for yourself, Ok? Hang in there. Break ups are tough. But, it WILL get better. Start doing stuff to make yourself happier and every time you want to call that *** hole you stop yourself and go work out or do something fun with a friend.
2006-11-27 19:02:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard, but you really cant make something work with someone who doesnt want the same thing, he obviously wants other things in his life right now, i dont know how long you guys have been together. but even a nasty fight doesnt cause someone to " fall outta love with them". that happens over time. maybe thats when he just " realized it" i wish i could say that it would be easy, but its not going to be. all you can do is be strong, for yourself. The only thing u could do at this part, if u REALLY wanted to be with him, is tell him how u feel. if he already has another date scheduled and hes not sure what to do, tell him to go on the date, and he can choose then. if he wants to continue with you or see other girls. i dont think thats the best thing to do tho, you need to take some time away, not just 2 weeks, like a month or so, hang out with some girlfriends. go meet some more guys, it doesnt have to be serious, just friends. and im sure over time u are going to see yourself not thinking about him like ur doing now. there is someone else better out there for u. and not many people really stay friends with their ex. so dont always count on that, at least not even now, there are still obviously feelings there so i dont think u would be the friend to come to for him to tel u how his date was. all you can do right now, is just let him go, if he loves u, he will be back. but u cant force someone, im sorry, if you need someone to talk to, email me anytime, good luck!
2006-11-27 19:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by scion_xb_girly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. I've done a good share of prank calls myself. You can prtend to be a teacher and say the person is failing. Or even sing Happy Birthday. If you know something that the person you're calling is scared of, then be that thing. Also, you can pretend to be a resturant, or just about anything! Let your imagination run wild!
2016-05-22 21:40:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everybody needs closure, the need to be needed. And we all want somebody to spend our time with and share things. It's just part of human nature. Move on though, there'll be somebody better for you. you're probably just feeling attatchment to that person not the same as love. You're the one that has to decide but he seems to have moved on and think about it though are you willing to spend the rest of your life like that?
2006-11-27 19:02:14 · answer #5 · answered by G-gnomegrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should certainly move on, why should you like some one that has no interest in you anymore, right?
Find someone else that will make you feel a lot better than the previous relationship...or spend time w/ your friends and family that will comfort you.
2006-11-27 18:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by star_puk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel you. just leave him alone and move on. find yourself someone better. a couple of days ago, i got into an argument with my bf, and i kicked it with my best friends, one of them which is also my ex. i started telling him why we even broke up and i felt sad, he said it was my fault, but i know it was his. i was expecting a sorry, but that never came. later i left but then realize, what the hell if it didn't work out. there is lots of guys out there ad i have bf. so girl, just don't think about him, go out and meet new people. he's not the one. .
2006-11-27 18:59:00 · answer #7 · answered by ASHLEY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break ups are hard, but I think u should move on with ur life. If u are still in love with him, then being friends with him won't help, as u will see him dating others. There are plenty of other guys out there.
2006-11-27 18:57:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like youre lonely without a partner right now...i would say you need to stay away from him for awahile....probly the longer you do so, the easier it will get. maybe you might be friends again in the future, or even maybe something more, but now id say you need space. especially since he hurt you when you called to get some closure....
2006-11-27 18:56:27 · answer #9 · answered by christina rose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on, forget him, even if it does seem to hurt a little ---- for some reason, he wants to hurt you now and I doubt it'll get any better. Sorry
2006-11-27 19:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by J T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋