We actually have not had sex, we are just friends but he is very touchy, when we are near each other he cant keep his hands off me. Ive told him to cut the flirting out because he has not really made any serious moves towards 'being' with me. (I havent said this to him) Part of me thinks its just sexual attraction, but he is very loving towards me putting his arm around me and treating me like he really likes me. But he has only really fessed up to finding me physically attractive he has not mentioned any feelings towards me, how do i get to the bottom of this? He knows i like him. Thankyou...
2006-11-27 18:48:15 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, you might not be able to do so....he has to like you on his own, and you cant make him like you. if you cant, find another guys that likes you for you and not (just) your vagina.
2006-11-27 18:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by christina rose 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are doing good. So many woman are weak and have sex with a guy thinking that is going to bring them closer. It's a fact guys want what they can't have. So..since he can have you it is your job to be sure it is on your terms. Wait, play the waiting game. Have fun/hang out and if it is about "you" and not just sex with you and you are a nice/good person he will fall for you. When that happens and only when he is telling you how he feel and things are getting deeper then and only then...(you have the green light)
PS> (This is not 100% there are players out there who will say anything to get in your pants)
My personal experience best bet is time, I make a guy wait as long as possible. If it's about sex-only he get bored/tired and move along which all works out for the best.
2006-11-27 19:00:29 · answer #2 · answered by Enchanted Crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, figure out first wether or not this relationship is going anywhere and wether or not it is worth investing time on. Dont move to fast as women mature faster than guys, maybe he is at the tendency of well just growing up, give him time to really realize what he wants, wether if he just likes you as a physically or he really likes to be with you. Don't agree to have sex as some guys drop the girl as soon as they get what they want or some just continue on looking at women as a thing to provide them pleasure. Remember that it is a relationship you re looking for, true sexual intimacy is part of it, but it is not the whole part of the relationship. Give the relationship time, find out and be sure wether the guy really wants to be with you or wether he just wants to get under your pants and if you are not sure, don't commit to anything.. remember that your life is affected with whatever decision you make and with what relationship you go into... Choose a guy who will respect your decisions and rights and who will listen to you.... and who will love you as a total person and not just because your are physically attractive...
2006-11-27 19:01:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how well does he even know you? If you two know eachother , are friends or whatever, then he has enough information to go by to know whether or not he wants anything more than physical from you. If he doesn't know you too well, you all are just acquantances (sorry cannot spell), then get to know him better. Call him up, write emails, send texts, something to let him know what you're all about. If he only wants something physical, you can't change his mind. If that's what he wants, but you don't, then move on to someone who wants you for what's on the inside as well.
2006-11-27 18:53:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Fondling / touching is the part of loving , if two people likes each other , then only one feel to hug/ kiss & fondel . Without attachment no one feel to be near by and feel suffocating by another humans touch . Now its up to you to decide .
2006-11-27 18:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple. Ask him directly. Don't be his sex toy (unless that's enough for you) and don't let him get away with not answering. It's not like you're asking him to marry you, but if he doesn't want a commitment, and you do, then move on. Tell him to keep his hands to himself, and let you find someone who actually cares about you.
2006-11-27 18:51:35 · answer #6 · answered by Wicked 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you know the answer. He like your body. You like his ???
So, I guess if you two don't have any meaningful conversations, I think there is nothing more will ever develop emotionally.
If you don't want it to be just sexually, then I think you must think twice about him. I doubt he has anything more than just sex in mind.
2006-11-27 18:52:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't pressure him about his feelings, because he may not be sure himself yet. You're just getting to know each other. Just take it slow and don't let him rush you into a more physical relationship. If he's a good guy, he will wait.
2006-11-27 18:54:18 · answer #8 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have sex with him and the answer becomes real clear? What if you make move and he passes, basically showing you your view of the situation is way off? Hey I know yall think whay different , to us illogical for sure.
2006-11-27 18:53:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have to find out whether he loves you or not. Compare his reactions when he's near you to when he's near other girls. If he seems more cared about you, then I think he has feelings for you but if his reactions are the same regardless who is who near him then you shouldn't think about being his gf. Good Luck and hope it helped.
2006-11-27 18:54:52 · answer #10 · answered by Falcon 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
let him see you at your worst, then see how he likes you. covered with paint, soaking wet in jeans and a sweat shirt, sick as a dog, with the flu or something. let him know you are human.
2006-11-27 18:53:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋