so i have a boyfriend i love more than anything, and then theres this other guy that i met at my college.... i have no interested other than friends....but tonight he got with his friends and he had a few beers and someother drinks. he and he called me up and told me he loves me and that i am the best thing that ever happened, and he wants to be more than friends....two of my friends were there when he called, i just want to ignore it but two of my friends tell me to stop hanging out with him....there is no way in the world i would even think about leaving my bf...what should i do? should i ignore it? or stop hanging out with him?
2006-11-27 18:40:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stay away from your friend. It will only make things worse and your boyfriend wont understand why youd want to hang around a guy who is pursuing you for more than friendship. Dont make his problem your problem, it will only make life worse for you and your boyfriend. Tell him NO, then stop hanging around with him.
2006-11-27 18:44:39 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would just ignore it. If he is truely a friend then they are few to come by and you could have a personal talk with him and let him know you are not interested in him that way. Evaluate the value you have with your current partner. After all that maybe you do need to drop him. It really depends on lots of things. Listen to your heart.
2006-11-27 18:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by yakimablueyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooooh see this is touchy. You can't ignore this, and don't let him get away with the old "I was drunk and didn't know what I was saying" routine. Chances are he was drunk BECAUSE of what he wanted to say. If you are happy with your boyfriend, then you should stop hanging out with this guy, and tell your boyfriend the situation. Don't keep your boyfriend in the dark, because if he should happen to find out later, it will look suspicious.
2006-11-27 18:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by Wicked 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are ony two ways to get rid of a temptation: Either give in or walk as far away as you can. And since you dont want to give in then i would advise you to avoid him; after all .. we are only human. And despite the ethical considerations in the matter towards your bf its ont fiar for the other guy to tell him you want only to remain friends. After all when were you friends to remain?
2006-11-27 18:47:49 · answer #4 · answered by aherongr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well stop being friends with the guy is not the solution and u don't want to do that too
just tell him nicely that u already in love with another guy and if u would have being single the u would have given it a shot and see where it went but as u no i alreadt love some one and he love's me too
but u a real nice friend of mine and i still want it to be like that
i dont want to lose a good friend and i no u'll understand
and if he is any of a good guy he will understand
hope u like my advice
cheers
2006-11-27 18:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by ghost13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you're sure about your boyfriend, you need to lay down the law with your other friend.
Just read him what you wrote above. It's clear enough.
OTOH, if you're a drama queen, tell your bf what's going on (be sure to cry and wring your hands) and ask him to handle it.
What's really happening here?
You're not really sure about your boyfriend. You want to keep someone "on deck" just in case things don't work out... but you don't want to be considered a slut, so you pose it as a problem.
In other words, you want to keep this other guy on the hook, while you check to see if things work out with your boyfriend. If they don't, you'll hook up with guy #2.
This is very typical among females. You don't want to be responsible for anything - so you run it past Yahoo answers to get validation for whatever brand of insanity you choose.
What do you want to bet you won't pick THIS answer as the "best"?
Grow up.
2006-11-27 18:43:54 · answer #6 · answered by A_Patriot 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to the college guy. He might have meant what he said drunk or sober. If you talk to him the next morning about your feelings you shouldn't feel bad and everything will be cool. Talk to your boyfriend too. Assure him that he is the only one in your life that you have feelings for. I guarantee that if you don't talk to both your boyfriend and the college guy, fireworks may start. Good luck and be honest
2006-11-27 18:46:22 · answer #7 · answered by Pzee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a very simple solution, if you really love your boyfriend you should respect what you have and not deal with the other guy. Tell him he crossed the line and that's it...........another way to help yourself is to imagine that its your boyfriend who has a friend on the side and that happened to him, would you like it, would you like it if he still hung out with her??? I think not. So there you have it............good luck, Ace Out..
2006-11-27 18:50:48 · answer #8 · answered by adam a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you just said that you have no interest in him other than being friends, so why should leaving your boyfriend whom you "love more than anything" be an option?
2006-11-27 18:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by star_puk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey .. u do wat ur mind says to do... dnt try to ingore the feeling deep in ur heart as it DOES MATTER. So it is up to u to continue this friendship that u want, but on the other hand make sure that ur boyfriend knws that u r just friends and tel the other person (who is ur friend) that u already have a boyfriend and cant accept the love application now... okie...
And lets wait and seee wat happen next .... okie
2006-11-27 18:46:05 · answer #10 · answered by sueann_love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋