Will i give him a second chance in being my boyfriend?

Question

I cant take him off of my mind...i always think of him all the time...the only problem that REALLY bothers me is that he has a 2 yr. old son from another woman...(he said this to me before because he wants to be honest to me) but he said that he loves me and that woman is his past...i really don't know what to do...help me please...i just don't want the feeling of him having a child already and especially me being his second...

Answer 1

i'm a guy! and i don't want to tell u what to do! its ur choice."he has a son" well, so what! maybe he screwed up b4 and now he wants a fresh start! ask him abt his past and ask as many questions as u like! if ur being serious abt being w/ him to the point of perhaps, marrage some day, then u need to know that he'll always be there for u! ask abt what happened w/ his last relationship! it wouldn't be rude to do so! but i think it would be good for the both of u! u need to know that u really love him, and he really loves u b4 u get to deeply involved, and u need to think of the little child! don't just go in and say u love him cause he's good looking! make sure that it will be something that will last forever! the kid needs a mom and u could be his mom! i think that ur in a tight position but, if u handle it wisely and ur a mature person then u can do it! dnt get too scared! just don't hurt the kid nor urself! make sure its true love! ok? let me share something w/ u.............
i'm 18 yrs old and i have never been on a date and have never kissed a girl, never had a real girl friend yet! and i knw that it may sound sad! but i'm waiting to make sure that i meet the right girl!!!!! i wanna take my time and make sure that i knw the girl well, b4 i get involed! i have seen so many girls that i admire and thought were so great just by their looks and personality at first glance! but once i began to talk and get closer to these girls i noticed that they weren't the ones for me! what i'm trying to say is just, take ur time! dnt rush urself! nice and slow! get to knw them first and then see what u think! he may not be the guy u think he really is! and pls dont go for him just cause of his looks and u feel pitty for him cause of his past! make sure that u have a sure and true future w/ him!!!!!


hope i'm help!
peace out and good luck in life
w/ what ever choices u make!
god bless

hope to hear frm u!
............................
christopher hines

Answer 2

They are a package deal, accept the man, accept the child. He says he loves you, not this other woman. Just do not try to make him forget his son, he will need his father in his life. If you can not make it past the fact that he has a child, then perhaps you should break it off with him now and save a lot of pain in the future.

Answer 3

I think you ought to start over with someone new. You don't have any children apparently, so why should you link up with someone who does. He may say the other person is in his past, but if he has anything at all to do with the little boy she isn't in his past. She is the mother of his child. Let the two of them have whatever their deal is with their out-of-wedlock child.

Why wouldn't you want more and better for yourself. There's something to be said for two single people without baggage (children) meeting, falling in love, getting married, getting a house, and then starting a family in a stable environment. Maybe its "old fashioned", but there is still something to be said for it - particularly when it comes to feeling one is giving whatever babies they bring into the world a nice and solid start.

Just get the "baggage-boy" off your mind and decide you want better.

Answer 4

I'm also a little bothered by something about my boyfriend.
I'm saving sex till I'm married. It's something I feel very very strong about. And knowing the fact that my boyfriend is not a virgin, it just hurts. Just knowing that I'm not his first... I don't know.

So I can say I know how you feel. But then again, your boyfriend has a child. So that's different...

Being with someone who has a child can make things very complicated. The mother will be in his life probably forever, for the sake of their child. That's something to think about...

Answer 5

Oh god
Is that it?
in some ways I can feel your angst, but on the other hand, if the man is a good partner to you, and a good father to his son, isn't that all that matters?
And isn't it a good thing for the future that you can see him being responsible?
Try to bond with the boy, it will help you see that little one who deserves the best, rather than a wedge between the two of you, or a nuisance

Answer 6

Why dd he broke up with you in the starting up? basically through what you requested, You shoudnt even provide him a threat to attend. He can't even do what you requested for, then is he deserve a 2d threat? There are the rationalization why you men finally end up this way, possibly he replaced into seeing yet another woman, that woman rejected him and now he needs you again. (that is basically social gathering) good success.

Answer 7

i see were your coming from its something that bugs you knowing that he has had those feelings for another woman but than you also have to thing about what he has gave up to have you... he says he loves you trust him

and for the son you cant blame it on him he needs a mom and even tho he has one...shes rarely around so you need to embrace the child and be him mother

Answer 8

the kid may grow on you. Dont cheat urself outta love cause u have an issue or two.

Answer 9

Go forward, if you love him. He has honestly told you what he could not have told you and have established relationship.

Answer 10

Do what your heart tells u to do..!
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