Ok, the situation is this. My boyfriend works cleaning homes that are new construction. His job is to go in first and clean out the cardboard and all the big stuff etc. and get the home ready for the women to come and do the final cleaning. His job isnt directly with the women, in fact he really has nothing to do with them. Well, I found out that he has the phone number and called one of the women he works with. Ok, it could be work related, but my problem is, why does he have her phone number in the first place. Ladies, how would you react to this. I dont want to be crazy, but he hasnt always been honest with me and I do have reason to not trust him. what would your reaction be if this was your guy and he called a woman from work?
2006-11-27 18:22:04 · 18 answers · asked by meeahcat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I worked for the same company before and when he is done with his job he doesnt have to call the women and let them know. I'm getting a lot of guys answering saying I'm crazy, but there really is no work related reason for him to call her.
2006-11-27 18:33:15 · update #1
ask him!!!! it might really be a work thing. however, if you don't trust him, get counseling or break up, trust should always be there.
2006-11-27 18:24:13 · answer #1 · answered by prettyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he gave u a reason not to trust him, and if he havent ever been completely honest with u, its not point in asking cuz he might just lie. U have to do ur own research. Call the ladies phone and see if she picks up and say hey baby, or just check his phone and see if shes been calling after 9. Or if he's been calling her after 9. After 9 is the mark that something isnt right cuz business calls arent business calls after that time.
2006-11-27 18:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetheart88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you asked him why he called her? I don't think you're crazy, especially if he hasn't been honest in the past. If it was my guy, I would ask him what reason he could have for calling her, and react based upon his response. The thing is, if a guy is gonna cheat, there's nothing you can do to stop it, and that sucks. But the more jealous you act, the more it pushes a guy to look elsewhere.
2006-11-27 18:30:39 · answer #3 · answered by cosunshine3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust him, don't stay with him. If you aren't going to marry him you're wasting precious time. If you do marry him you're in for a life of distrust which could only lead to divorce.
I was engaged to a guy who was always spending time with his "kids." Found out not true. Decided I could never trust him so ended the relationship. You do the same. A person doesn't distrust someone without reason.
2006-11-27 19:21:03 · answer #4 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see that most of the guys that answered this question had some not very nice things to say to you. I agree that you shouldnt be with someone you dont trust, but you arent crazy. This guy obviously did something to break your trust in him and now you are acting like any normal woman would. It sounds like he really has no reason to be calling her. Dont bother asking him, because its not like he's gonna say, "oh yeah honey, I'm interested in her". Instead, keep your eyes open, but dont drive yourself nuts, he cant be worth it.
2006-11-27 19:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you stay with a man you can't trust in the first place?
Either, you're an idiote and/or not good with your judgement.
A) you can dump the issue all together
B) Get hurt by not trusting him
C) Simply, remain uncertain and go crazy,
D) I won't even bother with this if the case you've stated above is to be true. He has all the right to call his co-worker.
2006-11-27 18:31:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's given you reason not to trust him in the past, and the distrust is driving you to paranoia, I really don't know why you're still with him. It won't be a very happy relationship if you feel you have to snoop on him constantly.
2006-11-27 18:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by Amelia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, let's think about this logically. His job comes right before their job. I would bet a dollar to a donut that when he is done doing his job he is SUPPOSED to call them and let them know the place is ready for them to go do their job. Duh.
Get a grip, woman.
2006-11-27 18:29:53 · answer #8 · answered by Jon 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't see why he would need to be calling a woman from work, in that situation. I would ask him about it, but when you do, I would pay close attention to body language, tone of voice, etc. Be careful!
2006-11-27 18:28:18 · answer #9 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much here to make a decision one way or another. You should ask him about it and then keep your eyes open.
2006-11-27 18:28:44 · answer #10 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋