I could easily go to a "better" college, but I cannot stand to be far away from the person I love. The college he goes to is not half bad, but not where I have always seen myself going. However, I love him so much, I know he is my soul mate, I want to marry him sometime after college. Is it wrong or stupid to choose my college mostly based on my love for him?
2006-11-27 17:48:53 · 8 answers · asked by listen2yourheart 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no matter what you choose, make sure you listen only to yourself when you make your decision. listening to everyone's advice can help you make the most informed decision, but don't just choose one person's advice and follow in her footsteps. just like every college has different things to offer, every relationship is unique as well.
i'm now a fourth year in college, and my high school boyfriend and i are still together and the future is looking bright. we did not attend the same college, though i could have gone to his and he could have gone to mine. my school doesn't have the major he wanted, though, and i've just never liked his school. it's far away from the place we grew up, and as much as i love my boyfriend, i'm also very attached to my family and i enjoy being able to go home every weekend to see them. i've never much been a college *person*, but i don't think i would've enjoyed college as much anywhere else. the school i'm at is a perfect fit for me, and i would advise you to go to the school that's the perfect fit for you. if you get the best education that you can, you can secure a happy future for you and your boyfriend.
2006-11-27 18:05:37 · answer #1 · answered by babylobuhster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure you already know the answer to this if you are honest with yourself, but here are my thoughts.
If he truly is your soulmate, it won't matter if you go to the same college or not, you will end up together. I completely understand your desire to be near your loved one, but right now you are building the foundation on which you will build the rest of your life and you would be most wise to do this according to what you really need and envision for yourself. It is rarely a good idea to sacrifice your dreams for a romantic relationship, even "the one." Also, the last thing your relationship needs is for you to harbor resentment toward him about what you might have missed out on.
I won't kid you, long distance relationships are tough, but so is giving up your dreams only to end up breaking up with him after making that sacrifice.
A case study: My brother had a full academic scholarship to any Ivy League university in the country, and was accepted at Harvard, Princeton and MIT. But instead he went to Michigan State because his true love went there. Within a few months, she had not only broken up with him, but she married another guy. My brother was so under-stimulated at the college and so depressed about how things turned out that he never graduated and barely eeks out a living, now in his 50s. In other words, his entire future was thrown off course by that decision, and he still hasn't recovered from it.
There is nothing more important you can do right now than follow your dreams. The rest, including soulmates, will fall into place, and things will unfold as they are supposed to as long as you listen to your inner voice.
2006-11-27 18:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by Kaelen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-13 06:29:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask someone who knows you better and knows the situation better who will give you an objective opinion. Then ask your self what would you be sacrificing and what would you be gaining? Will going to another college make you as happy and get you as good of a job in the long run? Talk to an advisor and get their opinion on the differences between the colleges and how going to each might affect your education, career, and earning potential.
2006-11-27 17:56:23 · answer #4 · answered by Heather-Nicolle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT make that decision based on your current boyfriend.
I had a friend do that once.
And then they broke up and she was stuck seeing him a lot since they go to the same college.
Don't make such a HUGE DECISION like this because of one person. You two aren't even engaged or married...
You have to be realistic here. Anything can happen. I met my boyfriend in college and we plan on getting married after we graduate. We're not engaged, but I'm being realistic here. Anything can happen, like I said.
It sounds like your heart is telling you the college your boyfriend is going to is not where you're meant to be. Follow your heart. Or else you'll end up regretting it...
Don't worry! If it's meant to be, IT WILL BE. God works in mysterious ways and He has a plan for you.
2006-11-27 17:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough one. I would choose the college where I'm going to get the best education. How dumb are you going to feel if the relationship doesn't work and then you're stuck in a college not of your original choice. Go to school where you think would be best for you. You'll get a great education, exlpore your horizons, spread your wings, and plan mini vacations to his campus and him to yours. Life is so great!!!!
2006-11-27 17:54:13 · answer #6 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not stupid. I think it's sweet. If you truly love the guy and the school is pretty good then why not? If you can be truly happy there. You don't want to resent it later and then hold it against him. Be sure it's right for both of you.
2006-11-27 17:53:51 · answer #7 · answered by jare bare 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honestly, i think you're crazy if you choose love over your education..but hey, that's just my opinon
2006-11-27 17:51:51 · answer #8 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋