I'm 17 and I've never kissed a girl?

Question

i've never even been on a date before. Before this year it really didn't bother me as much but then i really started seeing my friends going out with girls and dating and kissing them and so lately i've become really depressed. And I mean really really depressed. I just feel like if my friends have gfs I deserve one too b/c id actually appreciate her value as a person and not as a sex object.

I've never even been liked by a girl before - and I'm starting to feel like there's something really wrong with me. I'm not that bad looking - but I'm slightly overweight and I'm also freakishly tall (6'3 1/2). My problem isn't that I get nervous around girls or anything like that - I'm able to talk and be myself in social situations w/girls. My problem is that girls feel no attraction to me whatsoever - there's never been one who thought of ever being with me as more than just a friend. I just feel like I need a girl to hold in my arms - because without that feeling I'll never be happy.

help.

Answer 1

Yep, this sounds like an esteem issue indeed. Your quote, "I've never even been liked by a girl before" ... How do you know this??? Another quote, " there's never been one who thought of ever being with me as more than just a friend." OK so with this attitude you're not going to get kissed. What you need to do is find the one that you want to kiss and then you need to change your tack. No more "hey I'm goofy and safe like a brother". Girls generally like guys who are confident, yet sensitive, eager, but not too eager, and can show a subtle sex appeal. It's like playing a role in the movies sometime, but once you learn the part and get that game face on, girls will dig you.
Ask them girlie questions, chicks love to hear "wow nice top, sweet jeans, did you do something to you hair, it's hot". Returning an oh so subtle wink and grin to her when she strokes your ego is a winner too. I have this crooked little grin that I do with my uppers and while I'm doing it I put the tip of my tongue on the bottom part off the teeth and widen the smile ... Chicks dig it, be touchy but no in an overbearing way, just a little rub on the shoulder when you say hi. You've got to show some appeal as a boyfriend and you need to step up the game my friend. PS: Never be afraid of rejection, or her saying no, you graciously thank her and move to the next target. It takes work to find perks!!!!!

Answer 2

I'm so sorry. Really. I'll be praying that God sends a special girl your way. One that is worthy of you. Just remember; sometimes we have to wait for the best things in life. My boyfriend had never dated or kissed anyone when he was 17 either. He kissed me the first time, while he was seventeen, but that was after waiting till we had been together almost 4 years! We've been together 5+ years now, and everything has been worth the wait. Neither of us dated till we met each other. Believe me. It will be perfect when the right girl comes along, and it will be worth it to wait for the right one instead of getting worked up and going for anyone in a skirt. I hope things work out well. :)

Answer 3

Well, I really feel for your situation, because I've been there too. But you're making the first steps toward your own happiness, and you'll get there if you're determined to succeed.

The first thing you need to do is stop giving yourself negative reinforcement. The good news is that women are not as shallow as men when it comes to attraction. Men go on looks; looks are important to women as well, but not nearly as important as personality. I've known guys who are probably a lot worse looking than you who go on more dates than they can handle. And I grew up being told I was handsome, and I couldn't get a date to save my life. It wasn't until I decided that I needed to get this part of my life handled that I began to have the kind of success with women that I wanted.

First: You need to approach girls, without any expectations. Try giving one girl a sincere compliment once a day. Some will be indifferent, but for many of them, it will make their day. If you give it as a gift, without any expectation of anything in return, then most girls will accept it that way. Then you'll need to start talking with them, which will become easier as you gain more experience. By doing that you'll gain confidence, which girls and women find attractive.

I know there's a lot of anxiety in approaching girls, and it never totally goes away. But you'll overcome it as you gain more experience in talking with women. By taking the risk of approaching girls, you'll be closer to getting their attraction.

Also, I'm willing to bet that you're wrong when you say that girls don't feel attraction toward you. You may be closed to noticing their attraction. Don't sweat this stuff. You're only 17, which isn't really that old for having never kissed a girl or gone on a date (I was even older than you were!) and you've got a long life ahead of you.

I'd also take a look at these videos, which show how three young guys who felt insecure about the way they look became good with women. I really think you'll enjoy watching what happens:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9DYn4-h3Cnk&eurl=
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3_C4ELcauk4&mode=related&search=
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=39S_Z3R4KWg&mode=related&search=
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hFIlBT_T0d8&mode=related&search=
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KI3f4Z0ybis&mode=related&search=

Answer 4

I fell the same way I am over wight and all to (6'8) I have been on dates once or twice, but recently I have been deppresed about not having a girl to hold or to do anything left and this makes me feel wierd in side. I too wish I had a good relation ship. Maybe you should try going to the library sit down and pik up a good book, that usally get them or go to the gym. You have to be active thou in order for them to notice you. If you just sit at home they wont come to you. Try to avoid eating in front of them. They love reservations.

Answer 5

for one, generally girls like tall guys. if you feel you are overweight, maybe work out or join a sport to gain some confidence. maybe you don't have the best reputation and could try meeting girls from other schools. im 17 too and i think girls our age will appreciate your sincerity if you are vocal about it. and, there is no resisting a funny guy! (ex: vince vaughn, "freakishly tall" and slightly overweight, look how well he is doing!)

Answer 6

Aww how cute.
Well, also it doesn't depends in
how cute or attractive you are.
for me a man with a good appearance
is NOT everything.
they have to have brain .. you know
good topics to make great conversation.
also dpnds in what you like and
the way you look.
you have to be caring more about
they way you dress, your express and talk.
that's so important.
and for my a Tall boy loOks great lol
Trust me I'm NOT the only one
I know there is a lot girls outside that really love tall boys like i do.

Answer 7

Youre missing ALOT at that age men.... go to gym, go run and loose weight, girls like fit men. They judge by how you look and not by who you are inside. Find a job get some money and invite them out. Go have a couple of drink and then boom she's yours.
Don't be a looser, if you don't find one now it will get worse later. I knew a guy, he, untill 23 was virgin and never had sex...that's bad.

Good luck

Answer 8

I was 18 and 6'0'' and still hadn't had a girl... until I joined the military. Now I'm 6'7'' and 22 years old... still single... It happens to the best of us, buddy.

Answer 9

You need a better mental attitude. Confidence is sexy and draws the ladies in. Raise your self-esteem

Answer 10

6 ft3 inn't freakshy tall, just be calm and tell the girl you like her. And take it from there.