Do guys tend to mistake happiness/friendliness for something more? I am a very happy, friendly gal for most of the time. I love to joke and laugh with everybody and try to be friendly to everyone. Is this a bad thing? I tend to attract stalker-ish type men and my friends say it is because I am "too nice" or "friendly" and they think that I must like them. So guys, if a girl jokes around with you and is friendly..do you automatically assume she likes you? I don't want to send the wrong message, but I also don't want to not be myself. I dress modestly and I don't believe in sexual relations before marriage, so I don't come across as "easy" or anything, I just don't want guys to think the wrong thing.
2006-11-27 17:39:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no, i think some people are jus friendly to almost everyone by nature.
2006-11-27 17:42:46 · answer #1 · answered by jonsinher 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we do. When a guy is friendly with a girl, she thinks he wants to be friends, but when a girl is friendly with a guy, for some reason we think she's attracted to us. I don't know why this is, but I've caught myself reacting this way and have had to stop and take a step back and look objectively at the situation. Most times, she was just being friendly, but it's hard for us to tell sometimes, especially if we like the girl.
However, sometimes, just as men do, women do come on too strong and it is misinterpreted as something else. If you're treating everyone the same then it's hard to misinterpret that, but if you're doing alot of touching (on the arm, hand, whatever, NOT in a sexual way) as a part of talking that could possibly be misconstrued as something else, too, even though that's just the way you talk.
I hope this view 'from the other side' helps.
2006-11-27 17:55:10 · answer #2 · answered by Mitch 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
One thing very few women REALLY understand about men, is that men are very much focused on sex. It is not bad or abnormal, that's just the way we are created. As one psychologist puts it, "men have blue sunglasses and women wear pink sunglasses" hence, the misunderstanding you have come across in your life. The sad fact is, a lot of men have and will misunderstand you, so you just do need to be careful around men you do not know. Find yourself a good guy who beleives the same thing you beleive, and cares more for who you are, than for what you look like or how "easy" you are, and don't settle for anything less.
2006-11-27 17:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by drofa2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys don't know how to act. They assume every girl that is nice to them is flirting and wants them. I'd just be friendly and joke back. Once a girl at work pealed a banana in front of me and started similating something naughty and I just laughed and went "cool!" I like friendly girls, but I don't follow them around. Some guys have that problem. Maybe you should turn it down a bit. You won't be considered stuck up. Maybe I should have dated that girl. Doh.
2006-11-27 17:46:32 · answer #4 · answered by Mike H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being the superior catch that you are how she could dare make the assumption you like her is beyond me. Most girls would jump to the conclusion that a guy being nice to them is an indication of "liking" them. Of course "like" doesn't always mean "i want to go out" or knock bones. Usually being nice is a very good indication of liking someone. People are very rarely nice to people they dislike. Theres a difference between polite and nice too. Some girls will confuse an offer of friendship with an offer for a deeper relationship but thats a problem with the signals a person sends out. Maybe you are unconciously flirting and not making your self clear.
2016-05-22 21:33:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Desperate guys might assume that. I've got many lady friends who are very friendly but I don't think they like me as in..'more than friends'.
2006-11-27 17:51:09 · answer #6 · answered by Sportivo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you are just a tease looking for attention,and the fact that you mentioned that you attract "stalkers" is probably just a figment of your imagination and the need for you to think that people are attracted to you in more ways than just friendly.
I am sure if you tone down your constant flirting you wouldn't have this problem.
2006-11-27 17:46:00 · answer #7 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Girls, you have to do your part and gage who you can "Just be cordial to" and who you can "be really nice to". Usually as looks and self confidence decrease you too should decrease your flirtiness. As looks and self confidence increase you can increase your flirtiness. Would you advertise to a hungry lion that you had steak in your pocket. My point exactly.
2006-11-27 17:46:36 · answer #8 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always assumed they were just being friendly because that's their personality, nothing more.
2006-11-27 17:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by Steady As She Goes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys are really stupid and do think if a girl is nice to them they think she likes him. I know, caz my gf is really nice and really pretty and guys are always mistaking her friendship and it drives me crazy. I know you don't want to be rude, but as you get older you will caz you don't want mixed signals.
2006-11-27 17:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋