i feel so stupid b/c when i dumped my ex i expected for her to beg for me to come back....but instead she fixed me real good. she never called or emailed me again, she ignored me to the fullest and it bothered me so bad i emailed her cousin and tried to get with her but that didnt workout....recently i seen a pic of her on myspace looking beautiful as ever she looked so happy....so what i'm not understanding is why i have so much negative energy torwards her.....it's almost like i want to make her jealous why is that when i'm the one who ended it???
2006-11-27 17:37:17 · 15 answers · asked by david f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't mean to say this to get you upset or angry or anything, but it seems to me that your dissatisfaction stems more from yourself than from her actions, I think. It sounds like you weren't truly sure you were done with the relationship when you ended it, and as a result you couldn't fully own your decision to break up with her. Perhaps you were afraid of something, like her breaking up with you first, or jealousy issues, or something similar, and that is why you ended it?Or maybe you were trying to prove a point, or you thought she'd come back?
All in all, the above types of reasons for ending a relationship ultimately do not stem from dissatisfaction with the other person, so much as they stem from personal dissatisfaction, in one form or another, if that makes sense? Jealousy issues are your insecurities acting up... proving a point or thinking she'd come back are manipulative moves which might indicate a lack of trust in the relationship, yet also an inability to let go of something which is making you upset...
It really sucks to feel this way, and I'm sure that anyone who has broken up with a few people has probably experienced this at one point or another. Just feel the pain for now - it will pass, and feeling pain is ok. Then, once the pain dies down a bit, examine what is going on with yourself... take care of yourself first. You probably knew what you were doing when you ended the relationship, even if not for the reasons you thought you had ended it for. Personal development is a great way to turn a crappy situation into a good experience.
Good luck!
2006-11-27 17:49:54 · answer #1 · answered by starlet_8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible you're in denial and it will sink in later. It's also possible you still love him and refuse to think bad thoughts against him. Do you usually get angry? If you're naturally a forgiving person then it's not surprising. Also, while he did a nasty thing, you can't force somebody to stay in a relationship. At least he broke up with you before pursuing the other girl, instead of cheating. In that respect (and his apolgies) it does sound like he didn't deliberately make it an extra bad situation. It's not that unusual, my ex pretty much dumped me and I'm not very mad, partly because I still love him a little but also just because I don't want to hold on to extra resentment because it's not healthy for me.
2016-03-28 22:32:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your playing a game and you just lost. Take your medicine and move on. There's plenty of women you can play your game on and lose every time. Start being real and maybe you'll get out of this phase your going through. If you really care about her then let her know and be sincere. If she still cares about you then everything will be peachy. If she doesn't then ignore her and she will be the one wondering about you someday. Either way you win in the end!!!!
2006-11-27 17:44:26 · answer #3 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason why you left her, so leave her behind. Who cares who she is with now? She someone else's problem.
The only reason why you could be mad, is if this was some sort of game that blew up in your face. She's obviously not interested in playing, so learn from it, and stop trying to make things more dramatic for your self.
2006-11-27 17:52:02 · answer #4 · answered by kweenjenjen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you thought that she would come back to you and she did not. That is really what it is. Sometimes we want drama in our relationships to make it a little bit more exciting and when it back fires we are disappointed. Deep down inside you knew that you still wanted to be with her and you should not have broken up with her.
2006-11-27 17:39:57 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you know you made a mistake and you really wanted a relationship with her. You basically pushed too far and it caved in on you.
2006-11-27 17:38:55 · answer #6 · answered by DepthsOfMyEyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so she is not "meeting your expectations"? Sounds to me like she is much better off without you. Try being in a relationship and not manipulate her.
2006-11-27 17:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by Texanborn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Little small boys throw fits over things they can't have.
Stop your fit.
Grow up.
Get over it. Move on.
2006-11-27 17:40:41 · answer #8 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because youre a freakin idiot and you realise how stupid you are. Get over it because your just going to make yourself even more angry.
2006-11-27 17:54:16 · answer #9 · answered by jsnpasty 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's a blow to your self esteem that she is able to live without you. It's very common for both men and women
2006-11-27 17:38:46 · answer #10 · answered by lefty 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋