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i have a problem, i am a 16 year old boy but i am sexually atracted to men! and i hate myself for it!

Please what should i do? Please help me!

2006-11-27 17:08:52 · 17 answers · asked by no trinity Catholic 1 in Society & Culture Religion & Spirituality

Oh and just so you know i am Bisexual.

I am also sexually attracted to women.

2006-11-27 17:14:44 · update #1

17 answers

You are what you are. Life is too short to spend it hating yourself, or pretending to be something that you're not. Live a respectful life, love God, follow Christ's teachings.

2006-11-27 17:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 2

Go talk to a pastor about it, or I suppose a priest if you're Catholic. If you are a Catholic (this is off-topic, I know), you might be interested in watching the lecture, or at least reading the notes, that can be found here:

http://www.alwaysbeready.com/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=35&Itemid=53

Otherwise, look under the Roman Catholicism link at www.alwaysbeready.com. There are major differences between Catholics and Protestants. And about your question:

1 Corinthians 6:9 NIV
Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders

I don't mean this in a condemming way, simply as a warning. Do not listen to the instruction of those who say "you are what you are", or along those lines. Homosexuality IS wrong, but it IS conquerable. Why? Because:

Matthew 19:26
Jesus...said, "With man this is impossible, but with God ALL things are possible." [emphasis added]

I hope that this might help you, God bless!

2006-11-27 17:23:53 · answer #2 · answered by eefen 4 · 1 1

Well, obviously you know that acting on this would be a sin, and I assume you're worried about that.

I think the problem a lot of people who are sexually attracted to those of the same sex have with us Christians is that they think we are ready to pounce and attack this one certain group. What they don't understand is that no Christians were physically born without sin. Most of us still have things we have to watch carefully, and it might be different for everybody who answers you.

You're attracted to men. Well, I think women are attractive. But I'm a married man! What do I do? I stay out of situations where this could be a problem.

That's the simplest answer i can think of. I'm sure others might suggest counseling, a talk with your pastor, or something from a Christian bookstore dealing with this. Your situation is common enough that you might find some information there. Good luck!

Meanwhile, hating yourself gets you nowhere. God loves you...enough to send His only Son to die for your sin.

2006-11-27 17:31:29 · answer #3 · answered by OldFogey 3 · 0 1

sweetie i don't know about going to a priest if your really catholic not to be funny but there are a lot of issues there but the bible says that if you are in Christ Jesus there is therefore now no condemnation for those who love the Lord the Holy Spirirt is there to convict us though I hope you have someone you can trust and talk to about this discreetly but you need to pray and find someone like an accountability partner /prayer warrior who does not have these issues and fight through this attack of the enemy. You are not gay and do not claim it whatever you do these are firery darts and you need to rebuke them by repeating and meditating on the Word of God when the feelings and thoughts come and get busy in the things of God and surroung yourself with strong heterosexual men of God who ccan train you in the things of God homosexuality is not one of them the boble clearly states it is an abomination. If you would like i will be praying for you. Email me and let me know if you like. I don't mind. I hope you have a youth pastor i don't know what religion you hav if its not Catholicism.

2006-11-27 17:26:09 · answer #4 · answered by mimi 2 · 0 0

Here is a link to a Christian ministry that will be able to help you:
http://www.metanoiaonline.org/about.htm

In this day and age people are going to tell you that this is natural and ok, but God says differently. I am glad that you are seeking help.

God Bless and keep seeking His will in your life.

"We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ." 2 Corinthians 10:5

2006-11-27 17:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by redeemed 5 · 0 0

Young man, it's not alright to be gay, but you may be attracted to men.You may be attracted to something they do that makes you want them.That's normal.Though some people will not admit it. But if you decide to cross that line to lust,you will be responsible.In this day and age.The world tries to make it seem okay to have a male and male relationship sexually,if it were to be that way God would have made us able to reproduce regardless of genders.Don't hate yourself, just seek God diligently,this test could be a testimony for someone who is going through this same situation. I too have been there but God revealed to me,that life was not for me. Below is some scriptures to study, Blessing on your journey! Abstain from sex young man!
I know you will pass this test!!!

2006-11-27 17:29:12 · answer #6 · answered by missbcjones 1 · 0 1

Answer this:
Are you ready to spend an eternity in hell just for sex?
Think very hard about this and read your Bible. You know what the Gospel says if you are a Christian.
Anything that pleases the flesh is sin, as we are suppose to only please God.

2006-11-27 17:24:18 · answer #7 · answered by Dakota Lynn Takes Gun 6 · 0 0

Be true to yourself.... Your conscious convicts you.... Listen to your conscious and do what you think would be the right thing to do..... If that means to abstain, then do it......

It is good that you feel convicted......because you are being tried for your obsessions.....

If you should happen to give in to your convictions.... It would be wise to think on it and remember where you were in your convictions because you will feel nothing but guilt.......

To resolve your guilt, make a mental list of all the things you have done and target one of those things and promise to yourself and to God to never do it again...... and remember it always......

It shall follow you through life..... until you have resolved to do none of those things again...... and you must remember that you have made such a vow!!!


Your sister,
Ginger

2006-11-27 17:20:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

There are several ministries online you can look into for help with your problem. exodus global alliance dot org is one of those ministries that can help. Try there or do a search on your own for answers

2006-11-27 17:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by sheepinarowboat 4 · 0 0

How can you hate yourself? You are God's creation! God loved you so much He gave up the most valuable thing to Him - His own Son - to die for you. If you hate yourself and God loves you so much you are placing yourself in a position higher than God Himself!

The desire you feel is sin, just the same as the alcoholic feels the desire to drink and the person attracted to the opposite sex feels the desire to fornicate or commit adultery. It's your battle. Your temptation to overcome. We all have our own human nature. The sin that appeals to you does not necessarily appeal to me. What's important is that you recognize it for what it is - your test. God tells us that He will not place more burden on us than we can bear.

What you should do is run to God. Ask Him to strengthen you and guide you. Ask Him to deliver you from temptation. Pray and read His Word and seek His will for your life. I don't know what His will is for you but He does have one and I can promise you it's not a life of homosexuality.

God bless you and give you strength!

2006-11-27 17:20:56 · answer #10 · answered by Pamela 5 · 3 2

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