My boyfriend of 1 1/2 years have been talking about moving in together. I live in an apartment by myself and have a hard time making the bills, he is going to school in a town 40 minutes away. There is a campus in the town which I live. We plan to get married in June. He stays with me Fri night through Sun night already, should we just move in together or wait until marriage? We have a very comfortable relationship, no bickering, no fighting, no arguing, nothing to overcome in that respect....give me your relationship ladies and gents!
2006-11-27 17:07:00 · 9 answers · asked by wonderfulchscjc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do it. Just make sure you take care of yourself. Start a little savings account in case things don't work out and you find yourself suddenly without a roommate. Do you really want to get to know your man's living habits AFTER you've signed a legally binding document?
2006-11-27 17:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by ;-) 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WHY BUYING THE COW WHEN THE MILK IS FOR FREE!!!
After you move with him is going to be so comfortable that is why no point in marring. Make a little sacrifice with your bills ask him to help you a little bit and start kicking him out of the sleeping weekend, remember that you will live with him forever but you just wait till June.
2006-11-28 02:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by mansongirl17us 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that it is good to move in with a person you intend on marrying because it gives you a chance to see the whole spectrum of the person. How ever when one starts to move-in and share bills and responsibility things get messy because, if you were to break up God forbid then you are stuck with "well you paid of my loans and since we ain't together you have to pay me back' or " I bought the bed and we are not together and since i bougth it, it is mine" And then yall end up on Judge Judy dueling it out. So it is best that you all are both finicailly stable and can support you own self and be independent before you move in together. Or come up with a constituion or something that lays down the law so that you guys will not have any problems.
2006-11-28 01:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
having read articles and surveys regarding this, research shows that couples who move in together have a higher rate of divorce.
The reason, they think, is because when unmarried couples live together, they view each other more as roomates. While they might get along just fine... a guy in this situation is acting as a roomate and might do more of his fair share of things. When he gets married, he may expect more from his wife regarding house chores. Of course, this can vary with individuals.
also, they find that when former roomate couples move in together after marriage, they are used to the roomate relationship, and are disapointed when the marriage doesnt "magically" change things -- things feel just the same as when they were unmarried.
Come to your own conclusions as for the reasons, but divorce rates ARE higher among former roomate couples.
Most couples do move in together for financial reasons and i would reccommend AGAINST it. also, search on yahoo/google for articles regarding this topic.
"practically living with each other" ( he ALWAYS spends the night) , although it seems like basically the same thing, ISNT
Move in with a girlfriend! Search in the paper or craigslist.com for a girl roomate.
2006-11-28 01:17:03 · answer #4 · answered by Snowboard 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wait for marriage- it's only 6 more months if you're engaged with a ring and a date. If you're not formally engaged, you could end up living together out of wedlock for years... and start bickering.
2006-11-28 01:09:48 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Save the moving in together till marriage.
Why act like you're married when you're not??
Plus, if you two break-up, it'll make things a hell of a lot harder.
Ever heard of "Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free"...
2006-11-28 01:12:04 · answer #6 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
suck it up princess - take the leap and stop worrying - 40 mins is nothing where love is inolved. Tell him to move in or move on. Alternatively dump his **** and get someone who lives closer.
2006-11-28 01:11:14 · answer #7 · answered by trouserman 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think you should go for it as long as you keep in mind you will be around him alot more so if you fight you cant just go home your their but you dont fight with him so why not and congrats
2006-11-28 01:10:54 · answer #8 · answered by tracemiss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should move in together. it will help strengthen your relationship and it will help you learn eachothers boundaries.
2006-11-28 01:09:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋