i have been with my fiance for eight years and we are finallygetting married. i want to have a wedding with our families there. and he says whats the point and that we can not afford one but ifeel that we have two kids together and i have been very patient with him asking never pushing the issue. i've never realy asked for anything else and feel that i have earned a wedding and that he should relize this and not withdraw all together when the subject comes up. any indeas a fresh input could be very helpful
2006-11-27 16:54:55 · 17 answers · asked by ANGIE C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes.
If you want a wedding tell him you must have one, your daddy needs to walk you down the asile and give you awaay. Tell him that it is really important to you.
2006-11-27 18:40:39 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Deserve a wedding. You pumped out two kids for him and stood by him for 8 years and damnit the least he can do is give u a wedding. You can easily have a small non pricey wedding. If money is a issue then all u need is a dress, preacher, a backyard with ur love ones and get married. Really all that matters is that ur finally getting married but i do see where ur coming from with wanting a wedding.
For the reception u can have a bbq or everybody brings food and chow down at someones house and dance the night away. Doesnt have to be glamourous but yet rememberable for the both of you embarking on a journey you have ur loved ones witness. Try the internet for low cost wedding ideas. Hope everything works out for you. And congrats on ur engagement!
2006-11-27 17:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Bre 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like it's a financial thing. My guess is he hears wedding and thinks thousands and thousands of dollars that you don't have to spend. I think the two of you need to talk. You need to let him know exactly what you want to make your wedding special. But don't start the subject with "I deserve a wedding..." Instead start it with, "I'm really excited to get married and want to try and make some plans. Lets start by setting a date..." I would also do some homework before having this conversation and come up with a preliminary budget (and let him know you're flexible on it). Once he hears you want something small and intimate and that it's not going to put both of you in debt for the next 100 years, then he should become more willing to discuss the wedding plans. If he doesn't then you have other problems.
2006-11-28 06:48:49 · answer #3 · answered by married2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say yes you do . it doesn't matter how long you have been together, or how much money you make together. what matters is that this is something that means so much to you that he should be more than willing to go through a wedding, as you want it, it is a very special day for anyone going through it.
I think the best way to make it so that he is not looking at the money end of it is to give him options of a different kind of wedding. Talk about what you want in a wedding and what kind of wedding he would have if the money wasn't an ishue.
2006-11-27 17:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by Jake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-14 07:56:17 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don;t say specifically what you mean by a wedding." Tihs could be anuything between a week-long extravaganza to a two-hour ceremony and reception combined.
If the two of you are going to continue to spend you lives together, you should care about one another's feelings. If he loves you, he can deal with a day or an afternoon event. it doesn;t have to be the damn wedding of the century. Especially if you have kids, their grandparents would probably love to see you tie the knot.
Maybe someone from his family could help influence him to do this.
If he doesn't want to , would you consider backing out of the marriage? How important is the legal marriage to your relationship after all this time? Who is it that wants to make it legal?
2006-11-27 18:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Switch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not have a very very small wedding with your parents and his parents as witnesses? I was never one to put much value in weddings though. Weddings are mostly for your families. My husband to be convinced me to have a wedding by talking about how much his mom and my mom would love it. Before he convinced me, I just wanted to go to city hall. Try getting your lover into the idea of a wedding by talking about how good it would be for your families to have an excuse to get together.
2006-11-27 17:00:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have the money for it, then do something small...there is no reason to get more debt by having the 60k wedding that you know you can't have. Save up 5 or 10k and cater it yourself. Make a wedding cake and only invite 50 people or so...keep things small.
2006-11-28 02:39:53 · answer #8 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what a wedding is to me. It's a ceremony between a man and a woman proclaiming to many witnesses that they love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together. Each one is saying that there is no one else he or she would rather be with- that he or she is the only one he or she loves. They are commited to each other and will cherish each other for the rest of their lives. Two has become one.
2006-11-27 17:09:31 · answer #9 · answered by slobberknocker_usa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have a in-expensive wedding. Have it at a little church. Have your families and your kids and a few friends.
You can decorated the church yourself. You can even make the refreshments your self. Have a small wedding cake ordered at some grocery store bakery. Every women deserves a wedding. Even if it's a in-expensive one. Good Luck!
2006-11-27 17:07:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Weddings need not be expensive. It could just be a potluck party with friends, and a ceremony during the party.
If his problem is the finances, and you offer a solution, and he still hesitates, sounds like it's time for a different kind of conversation.
2006-11-27 17:04:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋