If a guy loves his girlfriend, why would he want a threesome?

Question

Doesn't it seem like he is really not into being in a commited relationship if he thinks it sounds fun, even though he hasn't suggeested actually doing it?

Answer 1

alot of pople think its fun,doesnt mean they will act on it :)

Answer 2

No, it doesn't have to mean that at all. If it is a committed relationship, and she is turned-on by the idea also, doing it is a sign that he loves her enough to help her fulfill her fantasies while fulfilling his own at the same time.

I think though that if the relationship is fairly new and that level of commitment hasn't been established yet, than it may be more of a way to simply have a threesome and nothing more.

Anything done WITHIN a couple situation should be for the benefit OF the couple. This goes for buying a new car or swinging (and yes, having a threesome is technically "swinging"). If it is done for the right reasons, as mentioned above, than it is fine and it will make you both happier together. If it is done for the wrong reasons (i.e. selfishness), than it will create problems.

Contrary to popular belief by non-swingers, threesomes and moresomes does not break-up relationships that are strong and committed. It does however hasten the demise of relationships that are not strong and committed and are on their way out anyway.

As one once put it "Swinging won't save a bad relationship, but it sure as hell won't hurt a good one."

Or as a friend once observed "Swinging is the icing on the cake. But if the cake underneath doesn't have all the ingredients to make it solid, all the icing in the world won't keep it from crumbling."

In our case, we do it because we trust each other, we are fully committed to each other and our marriage, we know our relationship is so much more than just sex, we know we aren't going to leave each other for someone else just because we had sex with them, and we love to see each other having a great time.

It's not for everyone. For some it just doesn't appeal to them. If this is the case than don't do it. If it is than start talking about it and researching it further. The key to successful swinging is communication and being on level ground in your relationship where both of you are equal.

P.S. Threesomes are not always FMF either. ;-)

Answer 3

Well First of all I believe we all have fantasy's that we would like to have fulfilled. Maybe his is having a threesome. It isn't because he doesn't want to be with you , because you would be apart of that threesome I am sure of that. Life has many things out there that different people like to try , not for any other reason but curiosity. Does it make it right? Does it make it wrong? the fact that he has shared that with you tells me he loves you very much. Most guys would not share that and go off and just do it, without you . So I think he loves you very much and talking about why he feels this way is important, you might be surprised of his answer. Smiles

Answer 4

All guys jokingly want a threesome but when it comes down to it if you love someone and are committed to them, a threesome is a destible thing. Best for all involved to be single and not known each other long - as three is a crowd and someone will get hurt.

Answer 5

Do you do everything you think sounds fun? Of course not! I think bungie jumping sounds fun, but I've got other things that are more important to me than spending $100 on equipment for five minutes of dangling on the end of a rubber band. Likewise, you're probably more important to your boyfriend than a threesome. I'd be glad he was honest if I were you. Would you really rather he hid things like that from you? If you don't want to do it, tell him you don't think it sounds fun, and there, that's that, problem solved. I bet you talk about all kinds of things he doesn't think are fun.

Answer 6

I always believed that if a guy really loved his girlfriend he would NOT want any other females involved. When you love someone you do not see anyone else in the picture. Why would you want someone else added if you're completely satisfied with what you have? Doesn't make sense to me. I think people that want a threesome are those who are not happy with their relationship. If a guy/girl has a threesome than you already know the relationship is bond to be broken in the future due to lack of trust and love.

Answer 7

Because deep down, they all want things a little kinky.. don't care what they say or do... It's just how things are. If you're not interested, tell him and don't discuss it again. If he's really that interested in it, then you need to find someone else, because he won't get it out of his head until he gives it a go. For some unGodly reason, they think it's 'hot' to be with 2 girls...

Answer 8

For a lot of guys, love and sex are two different things. He could have sex with other girls and still love you just as much . . . it's a common guy fantasy, and every guy you ever date (including the one you eventually marry) probably wouldn't turn down a chance to be with two girls at once.

Answer 9

a lot of things sound fun. maybe he would even want to do it. but that doesnt mean later he wouldnt feel like it was a mistake. Boys and girls think lots of things sound fun. dont make a big deal about it. let him be open with you. just let him know that you dont agree, sorry! you could still talk about it though.

Answer 10

Simply? Because we are freaks! It isn't because we don't love "you"! Its more cause we want to see a woman pleasing you or to have a girl (not to be graphic) on our face AND in the "southern" region! Some girls are the same...want to have one in their face and down under! Its just about being a horny freak that about not loving their mate!

Answer 11

He probably wants a more fun relationship rather than a committed one. Which is not uncommon or necessarily bad in one's earlier years...