I can not seem to figure out why I do not want to have children? What can I Do?

Answer 1

Some people just don't want to have kids. That is okay. Don't have sex and you won't.

Answer 2

Everyone is different. Some people do and some don't want to have children. There's no right or wrong, when deciding to have children. It's a big decision to make, because, deep down, you KNOW, making such a decision to have children is for life. It's not like having a child, and being a 'parent' when it's convenient for 'you'. No child ever asks to be born, so, you need to be aware that when you DO decide that the time is right, it's because you are ready to settle down! But, in the meantime, don't force yourself to have children, just because it's something you 'think' is the 'right' thing to do. There are people in the world who go through life without ever having children, and it's their choice.
I might also add, that if you're not 'financially secure' where you are, in life, that you need to take that into consideration, because having children can be 'expensive'!
So, weigh the pros and cons, and reflect that with where you are, in your life, and that will determine whether or not having children, at this point in time, will either make you happy, or will burden you, financially. Heaven knows that there are too many children in this world who are born into poverty and who struggle!
Think long and hard about that decision and you will see that maybe it's not in the books for you...just yet. There's plenty of time, and maybe your priorities will change, when you make some changes in your life that can include having a little one around!
I hope this helps.

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Answer 3

There is nothing wrong with not wanting children. I know lots of people that don’t.

I even had a vasectomy at 21, because I didn’t want them. My girlfriend had a tubal-ligation years before I ever met her, so neither of us have children. I am 40, and she is 35.

Back when I was young I received a lot of pressure to have children. Now that I am older, I still get it, from co-workers, or younger people (I’m not sure why). Most of my friends from high-school have children, and tell me that I made the right choice.

Having children is a really dumb thing to do! You would be risking damage to your body, as well, as throwing away your freedom. In addition you will loose your identity to become “someone’s’ mom”, or some baby manufacturing machine for your husband or boyfriend. Why would a self-respecting woman do that?

6.6% of women in the USA do not want children! As for the remaining %93.4, they are just either flowing the “script”, or just had accidents.

So to answer your question: You don’t want children because you can “think outside the box”. What can you do? You can stay on birth-control, and/or use condoms until you are old enough that you can get your tubes tied.

Find a man that will love you for who you are, and not as a baby making machine!

My girlfriend and I want to discover the world, not waste its resources on thankless children. You can do the same.

Good luck to you!

Answer 4

I absolutely agree with everyone who says if you don't want to have children, don't have them. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I think you are very responsible by recognizing that fact and then preventing it from happening. Don't have children unless YOU want them, you will be miserable if you are not ready. I have an almost 7 month old little boy and he sure can be a handful, but he makes ME happy. He is exhausting (all the time), whiny (sometimes), and ALL MINE (all the time). I am crazy about him, but I don't expect everyone to feel the way that I do. Everyone one is different in how they choose or want to live life; if having a child doesn't fit your life, then don't worry and enjoy the way YOU want to live!!! Good luck and thank you for not bringing a child into this world if it is not really wanted. As for the guy who said "having children is a dumb thing to do"; that is a completely ridiculous thing to say. Everyone can choose to do or not do anything they want, but making generalizations about everyone else's decisions just shows ignorance. Please ignore his comment; make the decision that is right for you! We should all remember that we were all "thankless children" at one point or another - thank God our mothers and fathers chose to have each and everyone one of us...

Answer 5

OMG. This is not a problem. You don't HAVE to have kids. So many women just do it because they don't think for themselves and just mindlessly get impregnated. Good God. I never had kids and I am 43. I have taken those anti-baby pills religiously for over 20 years!!! I never wanted kids. I wanted to be able to travel, etc ... do what I want to do WHEN I want to do it. I don't do live plants or animals for the same reason. Anyway ... I am a good Aunt. I can take them for about an hour and that's it! HA! Then back to their mom so they can whine and cry and be brats! Some people have said that women that don't have kids are selfish ... I think just the opposite - the people who are selfish are those who have kids and don't have the emotional or financial capability to care for them. It is perfectly valid desicion NOT to have kids if you don't want to. Don't let anyone convience you otherwise. They probably want to see you fat, tired, worn out, and strapped down like themselves! (and no, that description does not fit all women who have/had kids - so ya'll don't get your panties in a wad!).

Answer 6

Honey, there's nothing to figure out. You just don't felt that desire. I know exactly how you feel - I felt that way for the first 25 years of my life. Even at 6 years old, I was telling people I don't want kids! But then, at 26, my biological clock started ticking and my hubby and I have been trying to conceive our first baby since Dec. of last year! :)

Don't worry about it, just go with the flow. Sometimes life events happen and we change your mind on things. Or sometimes, we never change our minds. Don't try to force yourself to feel something you don't feel, that's not good. Just live your life and see what happens. Good luck! :)

Answer 7

First of all, it's totally ok if you don't wanna have kids. There could be a number of reasons... so you shouldn't be hard on yourself (just in case you are).

Honestly, the reason could be completely selfish, or completely unselfish-- but both are ok.

You could go through and make a list of why you'd be a good parent.
And then one on why you wouldn't be a good parent.

Maybe that'll help you, because then you can judge based on your own answers and figure out the reason why.

(Pretty much the way I see it-- if you figure out it's for selfish reasons then that's cool. but if it turns out your reasons are really because you would wanna give the kid the very best but couldnt--then you're already thinking like a parent to me haha. if already you put em first without yourself in mind--then i think the kid has a good shot)

Answer 8

so don't have any? if you think there is a reason behind it i would go and see a therapist/counsellor and make sure you are making the decision based on what you want not something that has happened to turn you off the idea just to make sure you don't get to 50 and say i wish i had but otherwise it is a personal choice and children are not accessories don't have one just because everyone Else does good luck in making the right decision for your life don't rush it

Answer 9

You may just not be ready just yet don't rush it Don't let people rush you.
My Sis should have never had kids so young Just not in her nature. When she grew up a bit she became a great mom .
When its the right guy married long term realationship you will be ready. Or you may never have kids but that will be up to you and him. There more to being a parent than haveing the kids .

You can foster you can adopt you can donate your time to children . I personally only had one kid But I fiqured I taught fed loved cuddled and clothed over a 1,000 in my life time.
nothing wrong with you.

Answer 10

I'm very glad that you know what you don't want. Too many people became parents for all the wrong reasons and not everyone is cut out to be one.
This is the ONLY relationship that really is till death do us apart.
If you are not ready or never feel like become a parent than DON'T do it. This world has WAY TOO MANY unfit parents and you don't need to join that club.

Parenting is not something you can afford to take it lightly.

Answer 11

Some people think it is unnatural to choose against being a parent, especially if you are female.

For a very long time, I didn't want kids. I'm still not sure I want them. But I'm more open to it now that I'm older and have found the right guy.

But there's nothing wrong with you if you don't want kids. A lot of people make this decision, and they are comfortable with it. Don't let society make you think there's anything wrong with you.