We have been married for about 3 years, and are bother in our 20s. I'm not bi, and I don't wanna do anything with the guys, just maybe a turn on to watch and be part of. The FFM sounds great too, and that is something she brings up. We have never really talked about an MMF. help. is any of this normal?
2006-11-27 16:41:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, however it would depend on how open you and your wife are. And it is VERY important if you do this, to have some rules a head of time.... will there be mouth to mouth kissing aloud, for her and the other male, will there be only same room. Both of you will need to do a lot of talking and analyzing this to make sure that something like this will not interfere with your present relationship. And if you decide it is a go... check out the 3rd party in this experiment...make sure you both feel comfortable with this person. If you are going to find this person, if you don't already know him. Sometimes arranging for a public meet at a restaurant is really good... no expectations, just to meet, and let it be known... that it is JUST a public meet, and then if everyone is comfortable more planning and arranging for a MMF can occur at another time.
2006-11-27 16:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by Kai 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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We have been married for about 3 years, and are bother in our 20s. I'm not bi, and I don't wanna do anything with the guys, just maybe a turn on to watch and be part of. The FFM sounds great too, and that is something she brings up. We have never really talked about an MMF. help. is any of...
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You should know MMF means there will be some degree of sexual contact between you and another male with your wife in a sexual threesome. See my link below explaining that initialism. An MFM means there is little to no contact between the two males... I say "little" because there is always some rubbing bumping, incidental touching/caressing, especially when things get wild, hot and heavy. Having a bisexual MMF experience will not make you or does not make you gay or any less of a man... that is BIPHOBIC talk. In fact, if you have one MMF experience, that does not mean you are bisexual, either... it is just trying something different. Many men will only have same-sex contact with a woman present, period... just as many women do the same with other women for their man.
If you think you are abnormal thinking about all of this... think again. Go on any swingers/personals site or free site like in online personals such as Casual Encounters section of Craigslist (link below) and see how many men want to try an MMF experience... or how many women want their lover to try it... it is incredibly common in discreet settings, but hypocritcially, publicly shunned, many times bi the same people who do or have done that themselves... that male ego, you know. Also, society will mostly readily accept bi women, but repulse over bi men... totally hypocritical.
Two girls together is 'hott' and 'beautiful' while two men are 'gross' or 'sick' yet women privately tell you it's one of their biggest fantasies or turn-ons... even some of those same women who make the "ewww" comments - I have seen that firsthand. Just read some of the biphobic/homophobic comments in the answers posted on here for example... welcome to the double standards of society's views on bisexuality... hey, I didn't make the rules. Check out the messageboards on ivillage, for example or all the recent Slash (M/M fiction) phenomenon. Do a google search for Bi MMF... it's everywhere, especially the image search feature... YOWSAH! Bi MMF porn is some of the hottest selling/renting on the market, mostly sold to couples or married men... must be a lot of 'sick' and 'gross' NORMAL people out there, I guess.
Conversely, an FFM sexual threesome aka 'the ultimate male fantasy' means the two females will have sexual contact (hopefully) and your wife will experience a taste of bisexuality as well. Beware... most who try bisexual threesomes or bisexuality with a good quality partner find that they like it and then that complicates matters, because then you have to ask yourself if you could/would I do that again and the inevitable... am I bi? Some will try it (group sex) only once as they would experiment with anything else in their sex life and move on to something else while others will find themselves preferring it to vanilla monogamous sex. That will be up to you and your wife to work out... once you open your marriage bed to an outside party, the dynamics of your sex life will be forever changed, so do not go into this blind or take this decision lightly... it could alter your relationship for the better or for the worse, hopefully not the latter. Whatever you decide, get to know whomever you choose to be with... screen them, meet them in a neutral public location... don't go to bed the very first meeting unless you feel very comfortable, safe and secure with them joining in your sex life.
P.S.>>> I had an MMF experience way back when I was single, straight/bi-curious and sharing her husband's [ahem] with her was the hottest thing I had ever done... incredibly erotic. I am bi... only orally, so far... had chances for more, however never went that far... yet, butt who knows? Besides, to me, it is all physical... I have little to no emotional attachment to men. So, who cares what others think? Just have fun and play safe... if you know what I mean.
2006-11-27 19:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by azcuriousm4u 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
It's very normal. :-) It's not for everyone, but it is for some. We love it. We've done FMF and MFM and honestly I like MFM better because I love to see the F being the center of attention and having a great time. I love to watch my wife, too. She's my favorite pornstar. ;-)
As far a bisexual events. They really don't happen unless you go that way. You can't be shy of some contact with the other guy, you are bound to bump into each other. You just don't have to go as far as touching equipment if you are uncomfortable with it. But, you are naked in the room with him and you are both paying attention to her, so yeah, you're bound to touch in one way or another sometime.
In my opinion a FMF is all about the M and a MFM is all about the female and they should be the center of attention. Doesn't mean that the others don't get attention, too, but that it is a gift to one of them. At least for me. I get more satisfaction from knowing my wife or the other wife is having the time of their life than myself being the center of attention.
The big thing is to talk about it, which it sounds like you have been doing. Good communication is critical to a fun, exciting, and successful event.
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2006-11-28 09:34:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
As long as you don't touch the other dude! 25% of the porn scenes are MMF. The other 75% is FFM. Good Luck!
2006-11-27 16:46:36 · answer #7 · answered by ~dat~ 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
would you really be comfortable watching another man do your wife?! you need to talk about it with her and make sure you have an agreement before doing it. some people think its all cool and everything but after its done, u start having jealous fits...be careful what you get yourself into
2006-11-27 16:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by girlwiththegoodies 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think she is being selfish. you let her have what she wanted. go find two woman and have fun without her. all threesomes are not about same sex touching each other.
2016-03-15 02:53:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask us. Ask her. It's not our opinion that matters.
2006-11-27 16:44:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋