My 15 month old has had her dad tuck her in every night of her little life. On the few occasions that he hasn't been there to do so. She will scream and throw a fit for hours on end until he is able to tuck her in. This hasn't really been to big of an issue for us. Seeing as how he worked day shift and could be here every night. Well he just got a new job. That will pay the bills a little easier. And of course he had to take it..even though it puts him on night shift. Working from 6p.m. until after 2 a.m. Well I put her to bed at her normal time (9p.m.) and she is still throwing a fit. I don't know what to do. I've tried everything I can think of and nothing is working. I really need some help.
2006-11-27 16:33:38 · 9 answers · asked by mandy b 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Well, since you were kinda thrown into this since he has to be at work during "tuck in time" you have no way to ease her into it. I would suggest letting her sleep with you in "daddy's spot" as someone already suggested. Or read or rock her to sleep. She will give up and go to sleep, it is just a matter of when. I would not spank her for this though, to me it doesn't justify a spanking she is just missing her daddy and kids do not cope with change well.
Good Luck I hope peace is restored in your house soon.
2006-11-27 16:50:32 · answer #1 · answered by Who Me? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will take time but you have to create a new routine for her. Get a picture of dad, frame it and put it by the bed, in the bed whatever. As you are getting her ready for bed remind her dad is at work and won't be there to tuck her in. Then when you take her to bed let her have the pictue and say good night. It would be easier if dad could take a five/ten minute break from work at bedtime to at least call and say good night. Then kiss her and say good night and leave the room. She will cry, scream and be miserable but eventually if you stick with a new routine it will go away. Be patient!!!
2006-11-28 02:17:03 · answer #2 · answered by stargirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you deffinatly have to get her used to you puting her to bed why dont you try giving her a warm bath and a nice warm bottle . If you indulge her she is just going to keep it up you have to change the routine just a little . as before where daddy would tuck her in you now have to do it diffrently and it may take a few nights of yelling to adjust to but in the end after 4 or 5 days it should be okay. At absolute worst about 1 hour befor bed give her some tylonal it makes kids drowsey and if you only use it for a day or two it wont hurt . Just dont use it any longer. Hope that I have been of some help
2006-11-27 16:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by kitty81301 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When her Daddy is home try tucking her in together and both of you use the same bedtime ritual. After a few times have Daddy say good night and walk a few steps away while you continue to spend a little more time. Gradually have Daddy step closer and closer to the door each time until he is out the door while you remain. Build your own rituals once she is comfortable with both of you tucking her in.
2006-11-27 16:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by CAE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would suggest that you transition your daugther into accepting you to tuck her in. You should tuck her in along with daddy until she gets so comfortable with you doing it that he can scoot out of the picture. It is a good thing he does that for her but I understand he can't do it anymore. Or since he's already started his job, see if you could call him on the phone as you tuck her into bed so he's talking to her like he normally would as you tuck her in. That way, she still feels that her daddy is a part of her nightly routine.
2006-11-28 09:51:14 · answer #5 · answered by snowtiger30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a set bedtime routine so that she knows it's bedtime. Put her into bed regardless of her fit. If she stays in bed, just let her cry herself to sleep. The first time she gets out of bed, put her right back into bed saying, "It's time to go to sleep." All subsequent times, just put her back into bed without saying a word or giving her eye contact. I know it's wearing and the first night (or two) seem to go forever, but it really does work. It just takes patience.
2006-11-27 16:44:38 · answer #6 · answered by J-Dawn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child needs entertainment, put a small TV and DVD in the childs room. Put a cartoon in it at night and lay beside the child and in no time flat the child will be fast asleep. The screamin stops when cartoons are on.
2006-11-28 03:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, He/She's only 15 months. My fifteen month old nephew sleeps with his mother and when he's with me, he sleeps with me. She's gotten used to the fact that her daddy's been there to do that. Next time, make sure that both you and the dad take time out do do things for her. Give a an enlarged picture of her dady to sleep with and invite her to sleep with you in daddy's spot. If that doesn't work, then smack her little booty.
2006-11-27 16:41:28 · answer #8 · answered by lucy_babbie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I detect a green eyed monster with their nose out of joint.
2006-11-27 16:37:59 · answer #9 · answered by robert m 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋