I have this good friend who I have been attracted to for the last couple of years. I've told her how I feel, but we never got really did anything b/c always wrong time I had someone or she had someone. Few times when we were both single or thinking about being, we would go out and always have a good time, never slept with each other, but we would kiss and hold each other all night. We got closer when i left for six months we would write each other all the time and would talk about getting together, then in the spring i came home for a few days and we talked again more. It seemed like we might actually get together, but i got orders to leave early and couldn't say good bye to her. I came home a month later for good and she was ignoring my calls. Two weeks later when i finally got a hold of her she said she lost her phone. I believed her, but she still ignored me. Then a few days ago i ran into her and she said she knows how she is and i deserve better. True or she being nice.
2006-11-27 16:32:04 · 10 answers · asked by ken 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From what you said, she's being nice. If she was interested ( just like if you were interested in a girl) nothing would or could keep her/you away. We have to stop making excuses for people (we are attracted to) all the time. She was ignoring you and you need to find someone who is into you. The more you see that you deserve someone who is into you, the more you will be into them. I know, this other girl has had a lot of your time and energy, but why not put that good time and happy energy into someone else? Try it ...you might like it. And besides, if this girl see's you aren't chasing her anymore she may come around...if that's the game you want to play.
You are in the military and as the guy above said ...Thank you so very much for defending our country. I am a military brat. My father served in the Air Force for 24 years and I just lost him about 3 months ago at the age of 81. He was a wonderfully honest and honorable man. I am very patriotic and so was my father. So I want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart for what you and your buddies are doing. I know it can be scary being out there without your family around. You make your friends your family. I don't know if you are in the war zone over seas, but if you are, and even if you are not... you need to have a very loving woman in your life because you of all the people in the world, deserve to be loved to the max. Life is too short for you to waste it. You're a brave man! Much love to you and your buddies! Hugs and kisses to you.
2006-11-27 16:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably talking about what she knows she can offer in a relationship with you, and if she knows she can't offer what you deserve, that's what she's talking about.
She isn't necessarily saying she, the person, is less than you deserve. She's saying that her feelings for you aren't quite what they should be, and - as she said - you both deserve better. She probably doesn't want to string you along because she probably does care very much about you.
So what she said it probably true. The truth is if she cares about you but doesn't quite care in the way someone needs to in a relationship then she has done you a favor by not stringing you along. She's right. You (and she) both deserve to have a relationship that is what a relationship should be rather than one in which things aren't quite the way they should be. Again, she was being honest when she said what she did.
2006-11-27 16:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a good person who cares about your feelings. You are coming and going all the time, so you can't expect her to wait, especially if you didn't even get as chance to say goodbye. For some people that's just too hard. But don't worrry about what her reasons are. If it is meant to be, it will be. Stop looking backwards and move forward. If she's supposed to be in your future, you guys will hook up eventually.
2006-11-27 16:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by bigwheeler19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I miss those days with my best friend, it didn't work out with us because he did and said what she did and said.
She was with someone else while you were gone. I wish I could have been in her shoes. Listen, you will get someone that will respect you. She basically said that she feels guilty for the dirt she is doing knowing you were in a way saving yourself for her. So let the bird fly away and you will find another lovely one that will be devoted to you.
2006-11-27 16:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by Not In Kansas? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not you, it's me, you deserve better, it's just a total blow off. Sorry you wasted so much time on her. You should take into consideration that when a person is telling you they suck, they probably do. It sounds like you are in the military, if so, thank you for your service to our country and our freedom!
2006-11-27 16:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by bellbottombleus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not would desire to tell him straight away, basically proceed putting out... because of the fact that is basically been a quick time, you do would desire to spend a touch greater time with him and get to acknowledge him greater desirable in the previous rather commencing something. And if something is meant to ensue, that is going to unfold as you 2 get to acknowledge one yet another greater desirable... and the 2nd will strike.
2016-12-17 17:28:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she being nice trying to let u down easy, so find someone better and stop wasting your time on her, sounds like maybe she found someone else in the little amount of time you were gone.... u do in fact deserve better...
2006-11-27 16:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by c_sev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people tell you about themselves, believe them. She is just being nice, she was confronted and had to say something. Move on with your life there is nothing for you here. She is not the one
2006-11-27 16:35:34 · answer #8 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just isnt looking for a relationship, but didnt want to hurt you. I wouldnt let it bother you too much.
2006-11-27 16:39:53 · answer #9 · answered by Fizzy ツ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE IS TOO GOOD FOR YOU NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND
2006-11-27 16:36:57 · answer #10 · answered by auetim 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋