PLEASE help me!! I'm so confused!! Will someone help??

Question

Has anyone ever felt this way before?? really really lost??
k... well here is how i feel.... first of all i'm bulimic (kinda) like i don't binge (i just eat a regular amount or little less of food everyday) but i do end up throwing up alot of what i eat. I'm 14 years old. Heres the thing... i don't think i'm fat... I don't throw up to make myself look skinny. I have A LOT of stuff going on in my life (family UGH!!, school, and ballet) i used to cry a lot but then that just got too hard for me and i decided that i would deal with the pain in a physical way. I used to be a cutter but i stopped and thats when i started to make myself throwup. I used to just throw up when i got really upset but now i throw up on a regular basis. Pretty much i'm just really confused and lost cuz... i don't like throwing up (or cutting) but i can't handle being depressed and sad. any advice?? oh and counsling didn't work. i had it when i was cutting. But my parents don't know about the bulimia.

Answer 1

OK so I think you are living my teen years...I am now 26 to be honest with you nothing helped me until I got preg at 18 (I am not telling you to do that ) then my life became about someone else and not me so all the feelings that I had just went away... it was something I could control in my life when there was so much going on I was always which way do I go what does everyone else want.I went to counseling... and it didn't work he wanted me to blame my parents and our relationship ...but there was no issue there for me and I wasn't in denial. What helped me was my best friend I could talk about it and she listened wo the pressure to do anything about it just listened and let me get it out.. you should find someone you trust to listen to you...or get a journal get creative and write all your feelings down and carry it with you at all times 1 so you can always write when you need 2 so no one reads it that you don't want to and 3 you always have paper and a pen lol when you need it :) Smile a little my aunt says fake it til you make it smile even when you are sad and your fake smile will make you smile for real or at least bring you a lil joy w.o anyone knowing. Hope it helped....

Answer 2

Actually you do need professional help in dealing with the Bulimia it is a life threatning disease that many celebrities have died from not to mentiona lot of kids you are doing a lot of damage to your body and you are experiencing theese problem because you life as you said it is out of control so you feel that your body is something you can control but it is actually a real loud cry for HELP ME .!!!!!!!!!! alot of girls have a problem called body dysmorphic disorder in which they try to live up to a certain immage that is not real to start with ie the models have trained professionals thatwork on them for hours to get them to ook that way but that is not how they really look then all photos are touched up and computer enhanced and air brushed to take out any flaws so that is not how they really look some movie stars show up at the studio at 2-3 A.M. for several hours of make up hair styling costume fittings ecrt before the public sees them so the average person doesnt have a chance to look that way and you dont want some artificial stereotype ruining your life to achieve a non exhistant look be your self there is only one of you for a reason you special and unique dont throw that away to be another mindless fashion zombie be original unique special be yourself and im sure you are a beautiful person because true beauty comes from within and gets more beautiful with the passing of time and maturity and personality traits now if you would smile please bigger thats it now you will promise me to get some help and let me know how it turns out always here to help as needed just like your parents are if you dont tell them how you are feeling they cant give you the love and support you need right ? !!!! let me know how it turns out you can E-mail me any time best wishes GOrbalizer

Answer 3

I did feel really really lost when I was a teenager, and again after my parents divorced. And even occasionally during college. It was black and spikey, sharp and painful. Meh, those words don't really describe how it felt, but you get the picture.

Counseling can help, but only if you do your part. You have to let go and let the counselor lead you.

When I was depressed, on anti-depressants, and ready to kick that chemical dependency, I did two things. I slowly decreased the anti-depressants (instead of taking 1 pill every day, I took only half a pill every day. Then, 1/2 every other day). I did this because the pills are altering the chemical production in your brain, and you have to retrain your body.

Second, and probably most important, I found things that made me happy, things that weren't just temporary fixes, like cutting is, and in your case, throwing up. I did community service, picked up old hobbies, and as simple as it seems, focused on the good things in my life, like my parents who cared for me (as yours obviously do, since they got you counseling), my friends who supported me, my talents, my strong points, the good weather, the pretty leaves, any and every thing good I could find, I said out loud to myself, "I am thankful for that beautiful tree that lightens my spirits just by looking at it." Ha ha, corny, I know, but it worked. I started being thankful and tried to be selfLESS and focus on what I could do to help others.

This second step is so important because it gives you hope, shows that you DO mean something to someone, helps you to see that the world and the people in it ARE good and beautiful.

Wow... this really seems like a "fluffy puppy, rainbows, and warm cookies" message, but the reality is that it helped me to move past my depression and get on with my life. I hope it helps you too! :)

Ooh, more thoughts... writing helped me A LOT too. I was mean, angry, sad, horrible in my diary, and somehow, pouring it all, and I mean ALL, out onto those pages cleansed me. Don't censor yourself. But do try to focus on the good things in your writings too: put some of those "warm fuzzies" onto paper also, to solidify them and make them more "real."

Answer 4

There are many different kinds of psychotherapy, and within each there is the matter of personal fit. You need professional help, not a site like this. You may have to try several doctors and styles to find the right one for you. This is especially true for self-mutilators, for whom there is no clear best choice of treatment. And switching from cutting to vomiting may actually be a sign that the previous counselling did help in a limited way.

Answer 5

Very simple you need to see a doctor. You say when you were a cutter it didnt work seing a counsler. You need to try again because those are the ones trained to answer these type of questions. There are people out there who really care and want to help you. You need to see a doctor and find out the root of the problem and what can be done to solve it.

Answer 6

All your feelings are your feelings and you actually choose to feel the way you want to feel.If you want to feel happy. choose to be happy. focus on happy thoughts. I say this from personal experience. I get depressed a lot. when I suddenly realize I am feeling depressed . I choose to change my feelings to a positive note. I ask my self. Why am I unhappy? Did i have a heart attack? Did i get in a bad accident. Did my friend die. then I realize that there is nothing really bad happening to me, so I should be happy. I think of all the misery in the world and then I wise up I should be grateful for how my life is going.
it is all up to you. . Just choose to be happy. or be miserable if you like that better.

Answer 7

I suggest you get a hobby to fill-up that idle part of your time. That's the time when you get depressed and sad when you got nothing else to do exept to feel bad to yourself. Obviously ballet doesn't work, I'm talking about hobbies that really requires you to think into the project. Like jewelry making, painting, photography (not the point and shoot style, I'm talking about composition here). Check you local Michael's, Joanns or craft stores that offer classes.

Answer 8

counseling doesnt work overnight, you need to find a therapist that you like and can work for you. then the real work begins. you need to get in touch with your doctor and fill him/her in on what you are doing. there are many physical consequences that can result from purging. your electrolytes can become imbalanced which can kill you. you need to get medical attention if anything. you arent bulimic, you dont binge. but you still might have an eating disorder. i have one. if you have any questions feel free to email me at [e-mail]. please get some help before it has consumed your life.

Answer 9

this will take more than yahoo answers to fix your problems. you may find support and advice here for you to get help (which is what i suggest) but you have to understand that this must stop and change before your body goes through physical changes that take YEARS and YEARS to fix. get me? if you do this for a year, or even less, it'll take more than 5 to fix and that's a good about of your life where you should be learning, growing and loving.

if you love yourself, which you should, talk to your parents. they need to understand, and they will be the ones that should be your strength.

do it. please. or go straight to a doctor who will keep it confidential until you're ready to tell your parents. GET HELP. **** i can't stress how important that is.

Answer 10

Try counseling again with a different person, maybe you could use some medication, you might see your family doctor as well....Pretty soon if you continue to throw up you will do major damage to your teeth. :o(