How do you get over someone??

Question

When all you want to do is pick up the phone and call him when you know it is not right to call and especially when you know he is going to give you every excuse in the book not come and see you and do things with you; when he is being asked, but when it is on his terms I usually go and do things with him. And I try and do things around the house to keep busy or go out with friends to keep my mind off of him but it doesn't seem to help. But when I go out and he is working he gets pissed off when other guys hit on me?? And we are technically not in a relationship we are trying to get back together after 5 yrs. apart. And I Love him with all my heart.. We split up due to a misunderstanding and it took 5 yrs. for him to understand why?? I feel that this is not going to work out cause we have been apart for so long..

Answer 1

Find someone new!

Answer 2

The first thing you need to do is stop seeing him. You are not going to get over him if he's in your life. Second, time is the only healer of a broken heart. Nothing else will work except time. You two are not ready to be friends yet even though it seems like you're trying to be. If you keep this up you will ruin yourself. Stop contact, cry, remember, forvige, hold your head up and live. I still have feelings for a man I dated 5 years ago, I still think about him, sometimes I even miss him but; ya know what, there is a reason we are no longer together and a reminder of that reason is all I need to put me back in my place.

Answer 3

First of all, a relationship requires both people to be committed and compromise. Everything can't always be on his terms ...where you have to always accommodate your life to his - it just wont work that way. It also seems to show that he doesn't care as much about the relationship, and/or he enjoys being the only one in control.

Sometimes you love a person, and they love you, but you just are not right for eachother. Take a close look at what you want/expect in a relationship and what he wants/expects. Will you be happy with him? Just make sure both of you are on the same page, or it won't work.

Answer 4

I wish I could give you an answer to that. I know the feeling. Been there, done that. This is why I think one always loves more than the other in relationships. I eventually got over mine but, it took a long time. I hope you get over him because I agree that it prob. won't work out. I know you love him with all your heart now. I sympathize. You will eventually come to resent him though. I wish I could say something to help. Just know someone is thinking of you and knows how you feel. I wish you well.

Answer 5

He sounds stubborn and controlling. Sorry! The best way for me to get over someone is to completely take them out of my life. Put away pictures, get rid of his numbers in your cell phone, and any other reminders. Don't talk to him, try to avoid any contact. If you run into his friends -don't ask about him. They will be sure to tell him they ran into you, and that you didn't even bother to ask about him. Then he'll know you're really not interested anymore. Also, the less he knows about what you're doing the better. It's going to take time. Try to keep busy with friends and maybe take up a sport or a hobby of some sort to keep your mind off him. Good luck!!

Answer 6

From the sound of your story, it sounds like you are talking yourself into this working. All of the signs are here, that this relationship is unhealthy and prolly not a good idea for u.
If someone wants to be with u it won't take them 5yrs to figure it out. Also, he will act like a man when he sees you out with someone else, instead of whining like a b*tch.
Also, it sounds like he only makes time for you when it fits into his schedule. Why would u want that? It sounds like u are on your way to getting used.
As hard as it is to get over someone, you have to just wake up everyday and put one foot infront of the other. One day your feet will lead you to a guy that will be a good fit for you. As much as it sucks--I think it will just take time.
When you are sad-sit there and cry
When you are angry--put on an mp3 player and go run like hell until all of your aggression is gone.
Just take it one day at a time, and you will come around.

Answer 7

Go on a 3 day bender. You'll either a. meet someone else b. swear off alcohol forever..c. get over him.....d. all of the above. Any of the answers is better than pining over him endlessly.

Answer 8

You must start doing things that excite you....start a new hobby.... or pick up a new one..... and innocent flirting is always helpful... don't get physically invoved though- that may start you down a slippery slope... what the hell do I know anyway?- I know girl, it's a challenging thing to deal with....you'll get through it!!

Answer 9

you have two options,gt back or leave it alone,to forget you need to get out of town and meet someone else new,destroy all to do with the past with him. if you want to try to have a go again ,yes you can,sometimes it works second round.you need a good talk with him .
good luck

Answer 10

Sit him down, and talk to him. If he seems unresponsive and uncaring, drop him. It may be hard, but really, no girl deserves to be treated like that. He seems like he's really a selfish sort of person (but that's just a judgement from what you've told me). You may love him, but you just haven't met the real "mr. right"

Answer 11

you'll get over him in time, it's going to be hard, you just need to try to focus on someone new