When I was younger I was bullied and teased alot and had low-self esteem,but as I got older I overcame this only to enter a emotional verbally abusive relationship later.I sometimes feel insecure.The emotional verbal abusive relationship happened a few years ago but I still find myself feeling stressed out and hurt inside.I do not want to feel this way and I try to brush it off but I feel like Im not good enough when Im in a relationship.my question is even though I dont think about my past relationship where I experienced the abuse why do I feel this way.wouldnt I have overcome this.It happened in 2002-2003.I was called alot of horrible names and other things that I care not to mention.
2006-11-27 16:05:18 · 6 answers · asked by TrueWoman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Forgive yourself and realize you deserve better.
2006-11-27 16:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by Foss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got out of an abusive marriage and if it wasn't being able to talk to family, friends, and my therapist, I don't think I'd be doing so well. Talk to people about it and get into therapy. Some people make fun of it, but it really helps you out a lot. It's someone you can tell anything to who won't judge you and it stays in that room.
2006-11-27 16:12:43 · answer #2 · answered by freedove06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes abuse like that is the hardest thing to get past. It is like that of a permanent stain on your best outfit. It makes you wish he had just beat you with a bat... at least you know the bruises will go away. Sad to say. But that's just how profound it can be. Maybe you should seek out a counselor to help you through this. Abuse comes in many forms... but the end result is all the same. It is hard to overcome but it is not impossible with support from family and friends who love you. You may have suppressed it. And it happens. It happened to me. I thought I had dealt with a past betrayal of my ex, now fiance'. But I hadn't. I buried so that I would not have to deal with it any longer than I had to. I thought I had survived it, but I didn't. I had to hash things out with him, tell him how I felt. I had to go through it again. Now that is not to say that will work for you. However, I do think counseling would help in that you can vent and get it all out in the open to someone who is qualified to handle it and help you thru it. Something you need to remember is that you are a strong, beautiful and smart woman. You made the right choice in getting out of a bad situation. Be proud of yourself. You had enough love of yourself to save yourself. Now all you need is to heal thyself.
2006-11-27 16:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by Ice Princess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you tried to bury your feelings but haven't really recovered from the emotional/verbal abuse. A counselor or therapist would help.
2006-11-27 16:10:32 · answer #4 · answered by GM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is an excellent book called "Why does he do that? Inside the minds of angry and controlling men." by Lundy Bancroft. the author ran a program for men who had to go to court appointed abuse/anger management councelling and has heard it all. this book explains SO WELL how they manipulate us and why it is hard to get over this kind of treatment. i so recommend this book to you. it helped me so much. i always wondered why did he do that, how could he have done that, etc and this book explains the hows and whys. you will be amazed and so happy you read it. best to you!!
2006-11-27 16:17:57 · answer #5 · answered by AlwaysWondering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is still in the back of your mind, Even if you say its not. Go talk to someone about it and start to heal.
2006-11-27 16:08:27 · answer #6 · answered by dontknow86 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋