Move in with bf or not?
ok so my boyfriend and I want to be serious and eventually get married but right now we live several hours apart and it's very hard. We used to live in the same town but his job moved him. He now lives in the same town as his parents... they adore him and like me as well but went ballistic when his sister moved in with her now husband before they were engaged. Now my bf is worried about what his parents will think but still wants me to move there. He wants me to live with him, but his parents want me to get an apt. I can't afford that. Should I chance it and go or not? I love him and want to be with him but don't want to cause problems in the family!!
2006-11-27 16:00:15 · 11 answers · asked by Dakota Country Girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well your both adults and you have to do what's best for you and not whats best for them my parents (mostly my mother) hated it when I moved in with my now husband but sometime we just have to go against our parent to do what we feel is right in our life
2006-11-27 16:18:13 · answer #1 · answered by Young and Wise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to ask you a question, and please thing about this. "What do you want?" Don't worry about his parents, etc, etc.
And please, ponder this before dedicating your life to a relationship. Have you done everything you need to make you feel satisfied with YOURSELF? Did you finish highschool, get a college education yet, have a job that can support you?
I ask these questions of you because I wish someone would have had me ask these questions of myself. I threw away college to move in with my now husband and I'm filled with regret. I do love my daughter, and that is the only thing I would not change about my life right now. Please, think about this.
I live in a run down city, work two low paying jobs and my husband is possibly cheating on me right now.
I'm not saying your boyfriend is possible scum like my husband, or not having a college education will make you doomed for failure. I just want you to make sure you TAKE CARE OF YOUR NEEDS FIRST! Trust me.
2006-11-27 16:09:01 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My strong advice is not to get on his family's bad side. They can make it really hard for the two of you if they are really close and you don't want or need that. If it is their beliefs that you two should only live together after marriage you should do whatever it takes to honor that. If you two end up married then it won't matter much if you live together now. All good things are worth the wait. God bless!
-NmD!
2006-11-27 16:04:44 · answer #3 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't rush it. enjoy been single, If you move with him, it will be like a marriage b/c he lives with you. why in the earth you want to move with Ur boyfriend when you not even married? by the time you guys married (if it happen) it won't be any thing new except having a piece of paper and the marriage will bore you out before you even enjoy it b/c you know it what is like to be with him.
I think it is better to continue dating b/c you get to dress good and take care of your self to go out and see him but if you live with him you will learn how to cook for him and eat dinner at home a lot instead of going out
2006-11-27 16:15:36 · answer #4 · answered by mimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what you think is best. That's how my parents felt about me moving in with my boyfriend, but I did it and they learned to accept it. We are now married (4 years later) and my parents were glad I did, it made them easier to accept it.
2006-11-27 16:03:52 · answer #5 · answered by julieanthony469 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get engaged. If you are willing to move in together, then that's the next logical step :)
Good Luck
2006-11-27 16:04:31 · answer #6 · answered by Wocka wocka 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So why not get engage if you and your boyfriend want to be serious and eventually get married?!?! You want to be with him and he wants he wants to be with you...what's holding you back from getting engage??? My advice... get engage!
2006-11-27 16:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by ~dat~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU FEEL THAT IT WOULD DO GOOD FOR YOUR
REALTIONSHIP THEN DO WHAT YOU FEEL IS RIGHT FOR
YOU BUT IF IT WILL BE A PROBLEM WITH THE FAMILY
LEARN FROM THE PAST.
2006-11-27 16:04:40 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
holy crad that's tough. maybe (i'ma kid so what do i know) but maybe you should show how commited you to are and how in love you to are to his parents, get them to love you as much (or close to) as he loves you
2006-11-27 16:04:29 · answer #9 · answered by santaz_lil_slacker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, never, and don't have sex before you're married, either.
2006-11-27 16:01:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋