I mean it in the context of letting someone get the firm resolve that they should leave you perfectly alone, since you don't want anything to do with them.
I simply want to tell the person this, but she might find it too offensive.
Would you tell it to her straight, or would you try smaller things, like ignoring her, or excluding her from things?
The reason why I want to sever all connections with her, is because she is constantly making feeble attempts to compete with me, but is losing, and humiliating herself.
It's getting on my nerves, and I don't find it entertaining at all.
2006-11-27 15:55:42 · 7 answers · asked by Nicole 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
well, she obviously is jealous of you. maybe tell her calmly and nicely that her competing with you is getting on your nerves. if she is reluctant than feel free to go firm with her. if her feelings are then hurt, invite her 2 play and make her promise 2 not compete.
good luck. these kinds of things can be tough 2 work out but i think in the meantime of working it out you'll realize her reason of competing and maybe you'll become slight friends. you know, just the kind of friend that you wave 2 in the hall way
2006-11-27 16:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing would be to be up front with her and say - look I don't really like how this is going, and the best thing we can do is just not be around each other.
She will probably argue with you, or act offended, or act innocent and wounded. If she gives you any grief - just tell her that you are cutting down on "Energy vampires" - people that suck the life out of the room -- and she is an energy vampire.
2006-11-28 01:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by Karla R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a heart-to-heart talk with her. Be honest in everything that you say and let her know that you dont want to be "plastic" around her. Let her understand, from the very beginning of the discussion that you are doing this because she might not be aware of the effect of her behaviour towards you.
2006-11-28 00:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by jet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, if you really don't want anything to do with her, just flat out say it. Be honest and direct. As long as you're not calling her names and insulting her, then you've got no worries, and she'll never wonder why.
You never know. It may lead to a discussion and you'll end up better friends as a result. If not, there's no unfinished business.
2006-11-28 10:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by sylvia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. Perhaps she is insecure, and that's why she wants to compete with you. If she is "losing", then she is obviously no threat. Maybe if you pay a little bit of attention to her she won't feel as much of a need.
2006-11-28 00:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't already tried the subtle approach, do that first. If you have and it didn't work, just be straight up with her, but explain your reason so she at least understands the rejection.
2006-11-28 00:17:26 · answer #6 · answered by bougainvillaea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
punch her in the jaw and let her know.
2006-11-28 00:03:39 · answer #7 · answered by NONAME 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋