My boyfriend has female friends that he's known for years, and I'm fine with that. But is it ok for him to go out with them alone and chill and him chill at their house alone and vice versa. Keep in mind he always tells me and is honest about where he's at. But is it ok for them to be alone and go out and stuff?
2006-11-27 15:54:17 · 28 answers · asked by Manita 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yeah it's fine. he did it before he met you didnt he?
2006-11-27 15:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by Okole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you trust him its ok b/c he may find that his female friends are cool to hang out with instead of the guys, i'm almost in the same situation b/c i hang out w/ a lot of females and chill with them that but i don't do anything sexual or anything like that, the reason why i do it b/c of the situations i was put in, all in high school advance placement classes i took were w/ all girls b/c i was at the top of my class and the majority of the time i were hangin out w/ my female friends b/c my guy friends were doin drugs and stuff like that and i just couldn't be around it so much. so if you trust him and if he is honest about it i believe its ok
2006-11-27 16:02:05 · answer #2 · answered by PJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just hang out with him and his female friends. If he has a problem with this, then maybe he is hiding something. It is a easy way to find out, you just have to be careful, you don't want to sound like you don't trust him. You need to just try to hang out once in a while, and if every time he tries to avoid it, then maybe tell him your feelings about what he is doing. From there the choice should be clear. Hope this helps.
2006-11-27 15:58:53 · answer #3 · answered by Berg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This looks like a giant red flag to me. Honesty is not always practiced for the sake of honesty, it can be used to throw you off as much as a lie is meant to. This obviously bothers you enough that you asked for advice regarding the situation. I would be on the look out for other red flags. Maybe this is nothing, but maybe it's an indication that this guy isn't the kind of person you hoped he was.
2006-11-27 16:08:16 · answer #4 · answered by Lyf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, if this is a new relationship then it's ok, since he can't just break ties with his female companions so suddenly, he would need to ensure that you are really a girl he would like to keep, before he can ease up.
However, if you have dated him for over a year, then heck NO! How dare he?! That is down right disrespectful. What does your instinct tell you?
2006-11-27 15:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by Joni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly speaking if you are okay with it than it's fine. But if you aren't then sit down and talk with him tell him how you feel and if you guys are serious than he should understand were you are coming from. My opinion is no ,it's not okay especially if his friends aren't inviting you over with him. You should be joining him were ever he goes unless he's going out with the guys of course. everyone deserves some time to themselves
2006-11-27 16:00:00 · answer #6 · answered by christy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. If he is alone with them one on one something is eventually going to happen. If you are cool with him going out with them I would ask that he stay in public or with a group. I have been married for 5 years and love my wife dearly and neither one of us would put ourselves in that situation. Too dangerous.
2006-11-27 15:58:25 · answer #7 · answered by badBrad97 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you trust him 110% then you shouldn't worry about it , but you should let him know that you don't really have a problem that he has girl friends but it just doesn't feel right when you know he's out with them and not you !!
Let him know how you feel
Best of luck to you =)
2006-11-27 15:57:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the day it's all about TRUST, you should tell him your uncomfortable with him being alone with them, you do have that right to express yourself talk to him.
2006-11-27 15:59:06 · answer #9 · answered by You Lames! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be silly,this guy is having a laughter ,listen ,if was me I would tell him to stay forever with his beloved friends,this man does not give a dam about you or about your feelings,do you thing this guy loves you? don't wast you time with someone like him.
try to do the same what is doing,but is not good what he is doing.
he is a selfish person.get out.
2006-11-27 16:06:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is, is he ok if you 3 can hang out together? I know I'd be jealous.... and i'd tell him that.. but you can't keep him from seeing them. But it's important that he's comfortable with you hanging out with them too.
2006-11-27 15:56:35 · answer #11 · answered by wolfgirl1987 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋