Why is it that some Christians?

Question

Cannot go to church because they feel uncomfortable and isolated? What are solutions. I am one of these people.

Answer 1

Having been a Christian for over 60 years, I have seen a lot of changes take place in the church. Most of it recently is not good. The church that use to be a place where people "gave" has become a place where people "take". Christians seem today to go to church for what they get out of it and seem to not care if others needs are met. I have seen a 100 or more older people just leave a church because the young people demanded that their "music" be used exclusively. I have heard pastors speak to their congregations and say,"This is what we are going to do in the church and if you don't like it just leave." We have made the contemporary church a place where the world feels comfortable, but the Christian feel uncomfortable. This was all prophesied in the Bible and I believe it is here to stay. You are not alone, there are many others who feel the same way. I believe the answer lies in your own personal relationship with God. In talking the the end time lukewarm church in Revel 3 Jesus said "If any man hear my voice and open the door I will come in and sup with him."
I think that the best you will do is to maintain your own personal walk with God, cultivate a friendship or two with like minded believers, and see the Church as the mission field, not the church.

Answer 2

This depends on the reason. Do you have trouble leaving the house? Or are you just shy around strangers? What makes you feel uncomfortable and isolated? If you do not have a phobia of some kind and are just a bit shy you will be able to go to church. Different congregations have different personalities, just like individuals do, even in the same domination. Try a few different church till you find one that welcomes you and where you feel the warmth of God's Love. Some churches are really big and you can get lost, others might be so small that you are seen as an outsider. Kind of like Goldie Locks. Just keep trying them out till you find the one that fits just right. And relax, no one is watching you, they are listening to what is going on, or day dreaming or reading the bulletin. Just relax. God Love you very much and if you ask Him, He will draw you to the best place for you. Good Luck.

Peace.

Answer 3

wow, I feel the same way sometimes... I feel out of place at a new church any time I go. Even if the people are really nice I just don't feel like I belong even though I'm a life long christian and believe in what is being preached. Many times I think it's just because I'm not a part of their events and such. Simply try to find out all the special events going on, pot-lucks, chairity events, and go to sunday school. I'm sure once you meet people and make friends within the church you will feel much more comfortable.

Answer 4

It depends on the reason. Often times when things like this happen to a religious person, said person will disagree with what their church says on some subjects, and feel uncomfortable there.
If this is the case with you, try finding a different church that is more like what you believe.
If this is not the case, try a different church anyways; you may just not like the one you are currently at.
However, there are many different reasons one may not feel comfortable at church, so there's no real: "One Size Fits All" solution.

Answer 5

First look at why we go in the first place. We are told not to forsake the assembling of our selves together. Make sure you pray and find out where God wants you. I have been uncomfortable and it was because I was in the wrong church. If the church you are going to has group activities get involved in them. It will help brake the ice and make you feel more apart of that church than an outsider.

Answer 6

If you feel uncomfortable going to your regular church then you clearly need to find a new church. When you find the right church that fills your spiritual cup then you will know that it's the right one. In the mean time try watching some evangelical programs like Joel Olsteen from the convenience of your own home.

Answer 7

I am one of those peple as well. But i have found a good church. I think part of it is the fact that you have to feel comfortable with the pasture and teh church you go to. Take your time and visit some churches around you and go with the one that you like the best.
Also you may wanna try the buddy system drag a friend with you

Answer 8

Get involved with a church that has "small groups" that meet during the week in addition to the main service....Also, I recommend volunteering to help out with various things like sunday school, parking attendant, whatever - that will help tremendously in making you feel more a part of the community. And you will not just be going to church for the experience of it - you will actually be contributing to your Christian brothers and sisters in some way! I speak from experience....

Answer 9

I think the solution is to find a church that is both comfortable and most importantly that teaches biblical doctrine and the people are loving. It might be uncomfortable at first, but then as you get to know people it's not anymore. www.equip.org

Answer 10

Ok, well I am cristian also and I have had the same problem. For me, it was because I felt as though I wasnt as good as all the people there and I felt like everyone around me was perfect and so commited to God. Maybe that could be the issue, and if it is, God loves us all the same, no matter what we do, he forgives us for our sins. Just be open about your love for God. I don't go to church often, but I do love God, and to love God you don't need to go to church, it is just to keep you familiar with im and informed, if you would rather not go, read the bible. But it does say in the bible that you should have people to worship with and praise God, and I believe that is why there IS church. Good Luck, and God Bless You.