okay, my bf left me for this another pretty gal coz i widnt have sex with him, we were going out for 9 months ( actually he was cheating on me from the 8th month) neways , i love him A LOT, really i love that with all heart but he doesnt... i just cant get over th fact that he just simple left me, i mean he used to say that he loves me, HE CRIED FOR ME , he did so many things... but he also called me a whore n a ***** later..
well..i love him a LOT.. do u think he'll come to me when he realizes his mistake
btw the gal he is going out with is 29 n he is 21
soooo plz tell me DOES TRUE LOVE ALWAYS WIN OR NOT???????/
shud i wait or nottt??
please guys, help me
2006-11-27 15:42:56 · 13 answers · asked by meee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK, here it is. Your boyfriend left you because you wouldn't have sex with him. Well, GOOD FOR YOU!!! He said he loves you? "been there". He cried for you? I can cry on command, as can most guys. He's with this other girl because she "puts out". That's all he's looking for, right now. I know that it hurts like hell right now, but this boy is "bad news". Calling you vile names is only the start. How long before he'd start the physical abuse? You're worth a lot more than that, as is any woman.
2006-11-27 16:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by David D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what I have read, what you two have is not true love. If he truly loved you, he wouldn't want to have anything to do with other women. I have been happily married for 6 years now and sure, there have been times when a woman has come on to me or flirted in that way that I know if I were to pursue something, I would get into their pants.
But the reason I don't do that is because I truly love my wife and respect her too much to hurt her in that way. As far as calling you names? That is a lack of respect he has for you and if it were true love, he wouldn't be out there with someone else.
Be true to yourself first and while I know it hurts you right now that he is doing that, please know that you are in control of your life and will eventually find someone deserving of your love.
2006-11-27 16:06:30 · answer #2 · answered by Don A. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Should you wait? No, why? So he can cheat on your again. Your emotions are telling him what a wonderful person he is. But look at his actions carefully. If they weren't happening to you, what would you give for advice to your own question if this was someone else.
2) Is there true love. Yes there is. But there is only true love IF both parties feel it.
BTW, in case you haven't thought this out. IF you do wait, he'll just pressure you into sleep with you... and once done; He'll leave (again). He sounds like a real winner. Remember judge people based on thier actions, not thier looks or your feelings.
2006-11-27 15:51:04 · answer #3 · answered by Vanchaser 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You want to know about true love?
If you build a bond with a pet and then release that pet into the world, if the love is strong, the pet will return.
If you love something, let it go. If it comes back, its yours. If it doesn't then it was never meant to be.
Guy sounds like a prick anyways. Don't you think you deserve someone that's going to treat you a little bit better than that? Don't you deserve to be happy with someone and have them be as equally happy with you?
2006-11-27 15:46:05 · answer #4 · answered by Takfam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both sides of one-sided love sucks. The guy sounds a bit like a jerk. You don't have the power to make someone love you, after 9 months it is either there or it isn't. Move on.
2006-11-27 16:11:30 · answer #5 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you waiting for someone who treated you so bad to come back to you? don't you think you deserve better?you need to treat yourself with dignity cause when you do then others will.instead of crying for that guy thank God that your relationship with you bf is over cause he didn't really love you and I'm sure God has someone better for you .just remember that in this difficult time you're going through you are not alone, God is right beside you and he loves you very much.He is the only love who is always constant and faithful.
2006-11-27 15:54:42 · answer #6 · answered by sarabasti 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would he die for you? Would you die for him. true love is self sacrificing. Follow your heat with this one, but I will say that if he left you to meet his carnal needs, it seems that his heart is not into you as much as you are him. True love is a spiritual connect, not carnal!
Here is true love, agape love:
I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames, but have not love, I gain nothing. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
2006-11-27 15:49:47 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ummm, this guy would not know true love if it came up and bit him in the butt..... sorry, but he went to the other woman, older woman for one thing, and you said it, SEX !!! what he did, leaving you is NOT your problem but HIS...... he showed his immaturity by what he said and did..... so don't sweat it honey !! the right guy will come along, the one who will respect you enough to NOT push you into doing anything you are not ready to do, meaning SEX !!! and YES there is true love .... I have it.... been married for 30 yrs and counting....... God bless
2006-11-27 15:48:47 · answer #8 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no dont wait,he is not your soal mate or one true love,dont go looking for love yes it is out there and one for every person,in time and the right time your true love will come your way,they are never to far bewhind and when you are together they wont ever leave you or cheat on you
2006-11-27 15:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh girl let it go. do not ever let a guy call you names even if they say they didn't mean it they said it so thye meant it. and if someone cheats they don't love you enough no matter what they say. do not wait for him he is unworthy of you. and good for you for not having sex with him think about it if you had you'd be asking about std's instead of true love.
2006-11-27 15:49:01 · answer #10 · answered by tara 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋