I have been working with this guy for over a year (whom i have thought since day one he was really hot) and we see each at least once a week at work and he has always hinted he likes me but lately we have been talking more often and about two weeks ago i fooled around with him while my boyfriend was out of town and i stopped him while we were both pretty excited and told him i couldn't cheat on my boyfriend and he said he understood and to forget about the whole thing and the problem is that i really like this guy and now this guy won't talk to me i tried texting him but he told me that we needed to forget things. I see him at work now and he won't even look at me (i have been avoiding him though because i felt really stupid for texting him) Why is he ignoring me?? And im i being stupid now for wanting to be with him? I ended things with my boyfriend. help im heart broken.
2006-11-27 15:35:26 · 9 answers · asked by sweetprincessag 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me like this guy at work was only after one thing ... and was maybe also a little turned on with the "thrill of the hunt" ...
It could also be that while you had a BF and were in a relationship he felt comfortable flirting and now he can "have you" he isn't all that interested?
It could also be that since you were prepared to "fool around" a little with him whilke your BF was out of town ... he might think that the same thing will happen if he has to spend time away???
2006-11-27 15:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Remember... you cut him off. That is like rejecting him. And you fooled around on your beau with him only to gain a conscience after the fact. He might have felt used. And if not then he is repecting your wishes even if you are not. He's probably moved on by now. He is right for not returning your calls, text or what- have- you. I wouldn't pay you any mind either. You can't have your cake and eat it too. Isn't that what we say to our men? Same rules apply for the men... Brokenhearted Live and let live. You've made your bed now lie in it. Cry your eyes out if need be and get over it and move on. Know better for future reference. I don't think you're stupid... just careless and selfish. Now you are boyfriendless. Maybe you should take this time to regroup. Be single for awhile. Set your priorities in order.
2006-11-27 15:46:14 · answer #2 · answered by Ice Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I don't understand is whether you dumped your boyfriend because you thought this new guy was really serious about having a relationship with you. During your brief encounter, you told this guy you did not want to cheat on your boyfriend and he accepted your wish. I think this guy is a very honest person and is not or does not want to play around and because he sensed that was also your desire, he decided to stay out of harms way by not speaking to you. I think you should allow him to resolve whatever it is that is now affecting him and you try to mend the fence with your boyfriend
2006-11-27 15:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why dating people you work with is a bad idea. You're stuck seeing him at work even though things aren't working out. My suggestion is to be patient. He might like you, but just doesn't know where things stand with you and your b/f. Let him know in a calm and non-threatening way that you are still interested in him... and that you're single. Ask him out for a casual date... movie, dinner, coffee... just sort of start over. It might just work. If not, then get over it, and treat him like any other worker there. He had his chance! :o)
2006-11-27 15:45:44 · answer #4 · answered by JP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make up your mind , you will not word , NO . Now just go & hug him from behind and ask him to offer you some coffee or tea . there offer your friendly hand and ask him to take you out for a date . No need to appologise , action should be encouraging and inviting .
2006-11-27 15:41:46 · answer #5 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he just wanted you for the moment. The moment is over and so is your relationship. Sorry, this has happened to the best of us.
2006-11-27 15:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by robee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just wanted one thing from you and he didnt get it so now hes ignoring you
2006-11-27 15:39:18 · answer #7 · answered by azflyboy6477 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hate to say it but you are just a tease.....
that is a major turn-off to 85% of guys......
don't ever.....ever, ever......pull the reins when he's getting ready to run.
2006-11-27 15:38:48 · answer #8 · answered by Pat B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to find out face to face w/ him to check what is going on...............
2006-11-27 15:41:58 · answer #9 · answered by wood a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋