this is mine and my boyfriends first kid and both of us are scared and nervous. so if anyone has any advice about anything, we would really love it. i know i'm ready to be a mother, i've always loved kids and have always wanted my own kids and i know my boyfriend will be a good father cuz he's soo good with kids. but i'm still scared and nervous that i won't be a good mother or that i'll mess something up or that something will go wrong. so if anyone has any advice on what to expect or advice on anything, i would love it. thanx.
2006-11-27 15:32:22 · 24 answers · asked by PixiFairy 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Don't worry...every first-time mom feels the same way that you do. You are perfectly normal. Just remember that you are the most important person in your baby's life and he/she is depending on you. The only thing that you should ever do for your child is do the best you can.
Get advice from your parents, grandparents, and anyone that has children...BUT....follow your gut instinct. No one will ever know your child the way you do...and trust yourself...and your ability to do what is the best for your child.
Having children is the most wonderful, scary thing that you can ever do. You will always be scared about the being a good mother, messing something up or that something may go wrong..no matter if your baby is one month or 50...but that is the thing that makes a mother a mom.
Good luck and God Bless.....
2006-11-27 15:56:33 · answer #1 · answered by Susanne W. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing i would like to say is congratulations becoming a parent is the greatest and the most frightening things in life. I know what you are feeling i have been there but i can tell you when you hold that baby in your arms for the first time the only thing you will feel is love,being a first time parent is all about learning and no knowing everything always listen to what people have to offer(you don't have to always agree or do what they do)but it is all worth knowing.Whatever you do don't be afraid to ask anything even if you think it's stupid.As long as you love that baby and do the best you can do for it you will be a great mother and never let anyone tell you otherwise.Best of luck
2006-11-27 15:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by feelingstupid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becoming a parent is scary, but you sound like you two are ready for this...be happy! Try not to stress over things going wrong, it will be okay! Things can be crazy right after you have a baby b/c you may not get much sleep since babies eat often, but just remember to nap when baby sleeps so you don't get exhausted, it sounds like your b/f will be a big help, so let him lend a hand w/ changing and stuff=) Get the book "What to expect when you're expecting" they cover lots of stuff in there. Try to learn as much as you can about the labor and delivery process, and the different methods you can use to get through it...the more you know, the less afraid you'll be since you'll pretty much know what's going on...if you want to try to have a natural labor (no epidural) you can look into getting a doula (labor coach), they just help you to get through labor and explain things to you that you may not understand at the time. That way your b/f can just be there for you and know that you have that extra support from someone! Oh, and go to the Oprah website, there is a pretty interesting clip about "Baby Talk" that lays out the different cries you might hear from your new baby and what they may mean...maybe that will help you out too! I wish you the best of luck, congratulations!!!
2006-11-27 15:43:39 · answer #3 · answered by Renee B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will mess something up and something will go wrong, it is part of being a mother. You will do a great job because you care and you want to be a great Mom. What I am trying to say is do not always try to be perfect, it can drive you and your kids crazy. Every night when I lay may head on the pillow, I think I could have done better. That is what makes me better the next day and what makes me a good Mom. Congratulations.
2006-11-27 15:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best parenting advice I know is Dr. John Rosemond's. Go to his website and get yourselves a membership, which will give you access to loads of solid, common-sense parenting advice. Buy his books and read them. There'll be a lot of time during your pregnancy when you'll want to put your feet up, and this reading will make those times productive. Have your boyfriend read them too. If you are both on the same page about child-rearing issues, it will be much easier for both of you.
As a person who has worked for years in education, I have recommendations of my own that will help your child in school and make your parenting easier. Never, never, never put a TV in the kid's room. The less TV your child watches, the smarter and better-behaved he/she will be. Television actually rewires the human brain wrongly and destroys the attention span, leading to disruptive behavior and hyperactivity diagnoses. This does not need to happen. Reading to your child every day will also make your parent-child relationship closer and warmer and help your child be the most that he/she can be as a student.
2006-11-27 16:40:36 · answer #5 · answered by silver.graph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 17 when I got pregnant. I was SCARED out of my mind. I had always been around alot of kids, but its so different when it is your own. My advice is to just relax. Enjoy being pregnant, and get as much sleep as you can, lol. The minute they put your baby into your arms, everything will click into place. You will feel more love that you ever thought you were capable of. You are a woman, and we were basically built to me mothers. Stop worrying hun, your maternal instincts will kick in soon enough, and everything will be fine.
2006-11-27 18:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by ushi_gushi_head 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to just relax and do what comes naturally. It will be hard at first but you will get the hang of things. Make sure you don't get stuck doing everything yourself though because you will grow resentment towards your boyfriend. You both have to be there for each other. You will be a great mother. Try not to stress so much.
2006-11-27 15:45:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
congrats, all i can tell you is don't panic, i have 3 kids and im only 24 but when i had my first child i felt the same way but when the time came deep down in my hearth i had that mother instinct and with no one to help me i just new what to do every step of the way , if u need advise u can get it from the nurses and doc. at the hospital when u give birth it wiil be at good help you can also take parenting classes and they will help you understand ,and teach you important things on how to take care of you're child , i hope my answer was at help for you , good luck
2006-11-27 15:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by ana b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt very much like that when I was expecting! Especially the part where you wonder if you are going to be a good parent, and you know, the most amazing thing happens: you suddenly get very strong mothering instincts, and you naturally know what to do! It is so incredible! Be excited, don't worry, just enjoy this time, you'll see, things will be just fine!!! : )
2006-11-27 15:42:39 · answer #9 · answered by zaytox0724 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so afraid. If you know you'll do everything within your power to provide the best for your child, you're already on the right track. And if you ever need help, remember that you can always get help. Ask your mother for advice, or grandmother or friend, anyone. Don't be so afraid though. Just do the best you can.
2006-11-27 15:35:58 · answer #10 · answered by dimkaluv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋